why do i feel this way?

[JUMBO PALACE]

What's the big deal? If you love her, you love her.

Why shouldn't you be having these feelings? Unless you're a member of the clergy this is a perfectly normal phenomenon.

 

[William Dickbringer]

ok, ive been dating this girl for 2 months, and for some reason i want to tell her the "L" word. this is getting pretty rediculous, i shouldnt be having these feelings. have any of you experienced this problem, and if so, how did you fix it?

I had that problem I decided to tell her it worked out fine but you gotta know how will she take it telling her this it's not too early if you truly care about her then tell her about how you feel

 

[ShadowDude112]

L word? Lesbian right?

OT: Just tell her how you feel, and hopefully it'd be all better

Edit: As in I "lesbian" you.
Cookie for reference

Scott Pilgrim. P.S. The reference has been made but I still like it.

OT:I think if you really love this girl then you should've told her by now or you should do it soon. If you don't then it's just your hormones making you think your in love.

 

[[.redacted]]

You can either end this with her or without her, that's something obviously you can't take wholly into your own hands...

...But you're going to either to tell her and see what happens, or you're going to brood on it and get more and more confused and depressed; this you can decide for yourself.

Also,

What's the big deal? If you love her, you love her.

Why shouldn't you be having these feelings? Unless you're a member of the clergy this is a perfectly normal phenomenon.

What's so special about the clergy? We all know they're not perfect.

 

[FinalHeart95]

The "L" word? Lesbian?

That's what I thought...

"I'm in lesbians with you"
EDIT: SOMEONE NINJA'D ME TO THE SCOTT PILGRIM REFERENCE. RAGE.

 

[jakeEHTlovless]

but you see, i already made this mistake once, i dont wanna make it again

Not to be insensitive, but you're either a robot or you have Asberger's Syndrome. Love is not a 'problem' or a 'mistake', it's something that just happens. You don't have to tell her but if you look at it like it's some kind of disease that needs purged then you're going to ruin the relationship.

hey man, i dont think love is a desease that needs to be purged, love is somthing that is dear to me. the only reason im keeping myself from saying it is because i dont know how she will take it, i dont wanna get crushed, but i also dont want to say it at the wrong. thats the problem, people through around love all over the place, i think the word should be sacred, but it has lost that meaning. oh and"Aspergers syndrome" is somthing entirley diffrent

 

[Trebort]

For the love of christ. This is a gaming forum, delete this crap!

 

[barbzilla]

Let me give you some advice. Listen to your instincts. Quite often your first instinct is the correct one (not always, but often). This is from a combination of genetic training and first hand experience. (first hand experience is much more valuable). In this particular scenario it sounds like your instincts are telling you to wait, as you seem hesitant. My advice is to follow your instincts and make adjustments as necessary. When a mistake is made you will gain experience and become better at that particular response (even plants can do this as they will grow towards the sun). The good/bad (you choose) news is that young love is fleeting love and will probably pass, so what mistakes you make now will be irrelevant in the end (not all the time, so young couples last the rest of their lives). My final most important piece of advice is to take all advice given to you by other people with a grain of salt. Learn how to adjust things into your life and don't follow another person's path.

 

[Kiroy]

I was dating a girl that I thought I really loved, for the first two months it was great. As soon as it hit the third month, she went to hell. I realized she has some serious emotional issues and she's been verbally harassing me after SHE left me.

If I were you I would wait for at least half a year to make sure you really do love her. That or wait for her to say it first. She might be the type that gets freaked out if you say something like love.

 

[TriggerHappyAngel]

The "L" word? Lesbian?

no, im not talking about some logo show, the other "L" word

Lesbians?

Ahh, there it is, the inevitable Scott Pilgrim reference


OT: tell her, don't miss your chance bro

 

[TheRundownRabbit]

Having feelings is a problem? Love is a problem? My friend you are sorely mistaken

 

[Estocavio]

Loser? How could it come to that...

Im sorry

Moving on, in all seriousness.
How balanced is this relationship? If she initiates as much contact as you do, chances are the feeling is mutual

 

[Professor Idle]

"I shouldn't be having this feeling" What, is two months too early? or you shouldn't have feelings at all?

You shouldn't have feelings for people you date! THATS NOT NATURAL!

You beat me to it. Love her?! By gads, of all the taboos there are, why should this be inflicted upon me! CURSES! THE ONLY HEALTHY THING IS TO REPRESS THESE FEELINGS!

Kor bloimey, what a derp thing to say +_+

 

[tunderball]

This is a toughie, a lot harder than it seems.
Ok I'm going to split my response into two completely different answers, the romantic and the realist. You can then decide which is best.

The Romantic in me would say that Love is a glorious thing you should deffinately tell her and sing it from the rooftops too. If you're sure that you do have strong feelings for her then why not tell her.

However the bitter Realist in me would remind you that you've only been going out for 2 months and that love and lust are often mistaken for one another. Why not see how things pan out? And the even more bitter realist in me would also tell you that relationships are all about balance, you're a team, and that means that you should tackle big obstacles together. Now if you tell her that you Love her it totally breaks up this balance, what if she doesn't love you back? What if one of you sees this relationship a lot different to how the other sees it?

So in answer to your original topic and to summarise what a few different people have been saying, NO Love isn't a problem but in my opinion it is a big hurdle every serious relationship has to cross and many people trip over this hurdle and end up face down in the mud with the illusions of how great their relationship was shattered around them. Maybe you should use a little bit of tact, or wait and see how she feels. Or just blurt it out...

Good Luck anyway.

 

[Hazard12]

I think you're allowed to write love on an internet forum. Unless I haven't read the rules properly and am about to incur some horrific moderator wrath.

Anyway, in my experience you'll say it when you can't hold it in anymore. I'm reminded of a great show (Peep Show since you ask); saying I love you first is like shooting first in a duel, if you miss you're fucked. You can't help that this is going to be going on in your brain on some level, holding you back, until at some point you just won't be able to hold it in any longer. Or the feeling will have faded.

 

[Orcus The Ultimate]

ok, ive been dating this girl for 2 months, and for some reason i want to tell her the "L" word. this is getting pretty rediculous, i shouldnt be having these feelings. have any of you experienced this problem, and if so, how did you fix it?

i'd say it's hormones... but if you can't tell her that you love her yet, and i understand you because it happened to me too, maybe it is because you guys dated very quickly and your reaction still need time to asimilate it, to know her more, so that you can trust her more, and then tell her with honesty and no problem that you love her.

 

[LuckyClover95]

Nooo! Wait! That could freak her out, if you love her wait until 6 months and be patient!!

 

[Gaz6231]

For the love of christ. This is a gaming forum, delete this crap!

Finally, another sane voice shouting above the buzz of hormones and insecurity.

Nooo! Wait! That could freak her out, if you love her wait until 6 months and be patient!!

Why six months? Why not seven or five?

 

[SovietSecrets]

Think about saying it and that you really are in love with her. Could just be that fantastic new relationship feeling and you are so happy. But hey its your call, just remember it might be hard to go back after saying that and she might not say it back.