Why do so many guys here suck at talking to or doing pretty much anything with girls?

[Triple G]

I've seen a few threads with people who find it impossible to talk to girl, people who are afraid of girls, people who see girls as completely foreign and some incredibly disturbing opinions about girls in general ("Are women jealous of men" thread).

So, why is is? Now before you announce your abilities, keep in mind that I don't care how badly afraid you are or how long it's been since you felt the touch of a woman and I especially don't care if you actually can talk to girls or have a relationship or have had sex. Telling me your exploits doesn't help determine WHY people here are so bad.

Weak spirit. Most(I say "most" because there are exception, if you are an exception then roll with it and stop telling me wrong because I ain't) gamers are losers who can't open their mouth for anything. Dude I attend a grammar school and are doing my A-levels now and I see people so often failing at the most simple things because they can't open their mouth or be direct for one goddamn fucking second. It's just a lack of confidence. I had the same problem until I started telling myself to stop being such an idiot and forcing myself to do things.

And people: Stop treating women like some mysterious, divine creatures. yes I know, it's hard to do if you're standing in front of a really nice and hot and popular girl not to fuck up. but every time you're in this situation think about this: This same girl that floods your system with her pheromones right now hangs out and is friends with those stupid main-stream douchebags who think you're a freak because you like to game several hours a day, thinking they're cool. But you, who think that those pricks should go play with something radioactive or impale themselves do not fall for their tricks. YOU are superior. And if you are superior, then behave the right way. This doesn't mean that you should be rude to this brainless instrument of society or act like she's not worth to talk to you. just KNOW that you're superior. Be nice, if she's nice to you. Don't let her get too cocky though, you gotta show her that you're not just some prick she can toy with. Never be her dog.

 

[dex-dex]

well maybe a majority of gamers have problems because they have been shut down by shallow girls who want themselves to be the centre of the guy's life and not the games or maybe just have not found a girl who shares their same love for gaming as they do

or they are just bat shit out of luck

 

[Anstrup]

Hmm

The media of internet forums might paint an inaccurate picture of the world?

 

[Kasawd]

I recently was out with a male friend of mine, and ran into an old female friend, from High School. After a few minutes of catching up, and getting her number, he looked at me, and said 'how did you do that?' I was surprised. But, judging by a few of the responses I'm seeing here, it seems it's not all that uncommon.

I have no issue talking to anyone, of either gender (or both...good party) and because of this, I cannot fairly judge how hard it is for the people who do have trouble with it.

The damned cancer and their help threads are choking the boards. The worst part?! No one is advising them to kill themselves, anymore! The ones who can't triforce are ruining ebaumsworld!

Or, making it better, it's hard t otell.

EDIT: Sorry about that. I hit the incorrect quote button. My dial-up messes with me once more.

 

[sokka14]

WOAH, WOAH, WOAH, I can speak to girls.


[sup]I just can't speak to boys[/sup]

oi oi. there's a reason for that.
love the avatar and location btw.

OT: it's pretty simple, i have less in common with most girls. it's also why i don't talk to like jocks and that either.

 

[sam13lfc]

I'm talking to a girl right now, and she's not even imaginary ^.^

 

[katsabas]

Speak for yourself, buddy. I am good at both video games and girls. So, tough noogies.

 

[Kasawd]

I grew up in a small community. There was only one other male in my class so I was forced to make friends with all of the girls. I have absolutely no problem socialzing with girls, now. Finding someone to date is quite the task for me, though. Mostly because my mental standards are too high.

Luckily, I may have found someone who fits the bill.

 

[Chris^^]

pretty much everyones already pointed out the 'gaming forum' issue


i dont really have much trouble with talking to/getting girls, just keeping them haha

 

[About 115 Ninjas]

I'm a guy, and a majority of my friends are girls. A lot of the girls I know (including the one I'm dating) find my geekyness to be an endearing quality. I think the main trouble with a lot of gamers is that they have this, "I am mighty, I game," mentality. Arrogance in this world is only good if you can play a sport with a ball. Arrogance with electronics just makes girls turn their noses up, unless your fixing their laptop.

I don't know, I've just never had trouble talking with any gender or race or whatever. I just like being friends with people. A lot of people seem to have this thought that people = shit sandwich. I like people.

 

[Caprice0083]

Well, the firs thing that comes to mind is age/maturity level. And they are two different, yet related things. This says nothing about video games, though. Its not how you act with your friends or anything like that. This maturity is the ability to take a look at oneself and examine past relationships, crushes, flings; and find the common threads holding them together... or tearing them apart.

Honestly, though, I've heard this from both guys and girls! The first thing that I always ask is what kind of people are you attracted to? Sometimes, people fall in love with an Ideal Mate, that can be rather estranged from reality. I work with a girl who will "only date thugs" because she likes that.... well, I'm not sure what she finds so attractive about 'gangstas' to tell you the truth. However, she's been cheated on by her last 3 boyfriends. I say, try stepping out of that particular social circle. Oivey, if she would just come and play a night's worth of D&D with me, I could hook her up! "No," she says, "thats not my kind of guy." I replied, "exactly." To put it bluntly, she really needs to think outside of her box. Why has she placed such strict boundries on what she considers to be boyfriend material? Why is she limiting herself?

Because she's an idiot who can't think outside the box. Those types are not worth the time or energy! That reminds me of the girls i'm around, if you aint got money we can't have fun, wrong bytch! I got it for cheap and I can wine and dine you for cheap too! Ramen noodles with some wine coolers and xBox360 trick! RECESSION!

 

[maddawg IAJI]

I usally only find talking to a girl I've never met before diffcult. I can talk to the opposite sex just fine if I've known them for a while or if we're talking over a chat room or somthing, but I'm not so great in face to face conversations.

 

[sokka14]

Have a shave.
Have a haircut.
Have a wash.
Get a shirt that fits.
Get some Jeans that fit.
Have a drink.

Sorted.

that's my philosophy too. look good get pissed and find some shallow pointless girl to have a one night stand with.

life's good for us, right???

 

[Slayer_2]

I feel like making a thread about people who ask the dumbest question ever.

So, you're saying that you actually can't think of ONE reason that gamers, geeks, and social outcasts aren't lady killers? Oh boy...

 

[TOGSolid]

I've got a great job that has a notorious reputation for bringing out the backstabbing ***** aspect of a woman's personality (note this comment is not fueled by personal experience, but rather by the multitude of stories I hear from other sailors, and specifically my fellow engineers, about their gals completely screwing them over), I've got a hobby I've loved for over twenty years that most gals would just whine about (nothing sadder than seeing a gamer browse games only to have his ***** of a girl come over and comment "don't you have enough games?"), and I have no desire to have kids. Finally, the average girl, hell the average person is about as interesting to talk to as a sodding plank of wood. I've had more in depth conversations with my toaster oven and frankly, I just don't see why I should waste my time.

I'm not socially awkward, I just don't give a fuck about what most people have to say.

So you tell me how my life would be improved by a gal. Actually, no, scratch that. You tell me why you're all so hung up on just having to have a woman (or guy, whatever makes you happy) by your side. You tell me why society and marketing has put such enormous pressure on everyone to find someone to be with.

We're a generation of men raised by women, I'm wondering if another woman is really what we need.

 

[esperandote]

I've learned by observation that guys that aren't good talking to girls don't have sisters, like me, and viceversa...

That actually kind of makes sense.
I have two sisters, both older, and never had girl talking issues.
Although...my best friend also never had girl talking issues (He was far more a ladies man then I ever was) and he didn't have any sisters...though he had a lot of cousins close by who were girls...maybe that counts? I don't know.
Sort of makes sense on the surface, though.

Growing up I lived with my mom and my two older sisters (who always had they girl-friends around) and I've always been quite smooth talkin to girls, however my friend who has grown up in a house with just his mom and his bro, isn't the most amazing girl-chatter-upper ever (but of course he's way better looking than me, so he get's a few more than I usualy do, because he's got that shy mysterious thing goin on)

I honestly think what esperandote is true. Maybe we just get use to how girls think, maybe we're just more comfortable with girls because we've been around them so much, or, in my case, we've had to watch so many chick flicks with our sisters that we know what to say that makes girls go "awwww"

Guys who have sisters probably have an easier time talking to girls then guy's who don't, at least there's a pretty clear connection, I think.

Yay, my theory has been well recieved. Yeah, i think close female cousins count.

 

[Diablini]

Because girls like douche bags. We aren't douche bags and don't like douche bags to get laid.

 

[nativebelle]

WOAH, WOAH, WOAH, I can speak to girls.


[sup]I just can't speak to boys[/sup]

oi oi. there's a reason for that.
love the avatar and location btw.

OT: it's pretty simple, i have less in common with most girls. it's also why i don't talk to like jocks and that either.

My tiny female brain can't handle manly conversation?
Chris Morris is a genius. So are people from Newcastle. Possibly.

 

[Desert Tiger]

Because if I made a thread about how I have absolutely no problems talking to girls and that I just wanted you all to know that I wouldn't be a very popular guy, now would I?

 

[Macgyvercas]

If we talked to girls, it would require us leaving the TV/Computer and turning off (insert favorite game here).

Scary thought.

Actually, I can't talk, seeing as I have a girlfriend.