Why do we Have Fetishes?

[Bearsong]

*snip*!

That actually is a great analysis.

Especially the Asian thing. I believe I've pinpointed my reasons for why I love asian women.

As a child, I was almost obsessed with Japanese anime, therefore, I have a strong love of their culture and especially their women. I've always been a very cultured person, but I have a strange love for the Japanese culture in particular and I believe this is where that love stems from.

Though, I have one fetish I didn't mention before. Hands. That's the weird one for me, but when I see a woman's hands as smooth and soft it practically makes my heart melt. This I can't pinpoint. I have no idea where this comes from.

That is not realy odd. I know odd Paraphilias and hands is somewhere at the bottom of the list for me... right above cultural fetishes. Appendage fetishes can come from a multitude of sources just like any other. For some people with, say, foot fetishes they have told me they're first recollection of being sexually aroused was by seeing a beautiful 's feet and not being totally grossed out. For hands it may be a tactile fascination. Smooth/soft hands equal comfort and arousal. Again it's not a bad thing and there are stranger fetishes out there.

 

[Julianking93]

*snip*!

That actually is a great analysis.

Especially the Asian thing. I believe I've pinpointed my reasons for why I love asian women.

As a child, I was almost obsessed with Japanese anime, therefore, I have a strong love of their culture and especially their women. I've always been a very cultured person, but I have a strange love for the Japanese culture in particular and I believe this is where that love stems from.

Though, I have one fetish I didn't mention before. Hands. That's the weird one for me, but when I see a woman's hands as smooth and soft it practically makes my heart melt. This I can't pinpoint. I have no idea where this comes from.

That is not realy odd. I know odd Paraphilias and hands is somewhere at the bottom of the list for me... right above cultural fetishes. Appendage fetishes can come from a multitude of sources just like any other. For some people with, say, foot fetishes they have told me they're first recollection of being sexually aroused was by seeing a beautiful 's feet and not being totally grossed out. For hands it may be a tactile fascination. Smooth/soft hands equal comfort and arousal. Again it's not a bad thing and there are stranger fetishes out there.

True. I know people with blood fetishes.

But its not just hands, its skin in general. When you said comfort, I think thats it. One of my favorite things to do with a partner is to cuddle with them and hold them close. I love the feeling of smooth skin on mine. Its the most arousing thing to me next to a beautiful asian and that might be where I get the Asian fetish from as well. Asian women tend to have beautiful skin.

*whew* I better stop. I'm getting slightly aroused from talking about this.

Anyway, I love your analysis, you've been great help.

 

[skywalkerlion]

Well, it's hereditary, and it's also from influences as a young child.

And as Wikipedia tells us, it includes objectification of human beings in the fetish category. So preferences, otherwise known as 'people just like that stuff', is completely different.

 

[Smagmuck_]

Becuase were all sick fucks.
I kidd, I kidd.
OT: I don't know why.

 

[Julianking93]

Becuase were all sick fucks.
I kidd, I kidd.

No you're not.

We are all sick fucks.

 

[MrSnugglesworth]

I dunno.


But mine would have to be Lingerie.

Fuck being naked, a girl in some nice lingerie is way hotter than a naked one in my opinion.

 

[BonsaiK]

Something I've always wondered and no one's given me a good answer to. Its usually just, "People just like that stuff" but I want a serious psychological answer.

So, simple question, why do people prefer certain sexual things or find hands or feet sexy? I for one have a typical Asian fetish and my jaw usually drops at the sight of hot Japanese girls, but why? What answers might the Escapist have?

And, for discussion's sake, what fetishes do you have and do you know why? Its the internet so you can be honest.

Fetishes happen through association of certain activities or feelings with other activities or feelings. For instance girls who like a really strong male may have lacked a strong father figure, or maybe they DID have a really strong father figure and part of them subconsciously wants to replicate that again. Whereas girls who don't really care two hoots about that sort of thing may have had a more balanced childhood. Guys who like girls with really big boobs might have a "mother" thing going on deep in their subconscious, maybe they didn't get enough hugs as a child or something. There's all sorts of fetishes and all sorts of reasons for them. Ultimately I don't think the reasons matter much though, as long as people are happy to cater for each other's tastes. When it becomes a problem is when one person has a fetish that the other person finds unacceptable.

I'm not going to discuss my personal fetishes because it would be very explicit and probably cop me a probation or something. Nobody needs to know unless they're planning on sharing my bedroom.

 

[Haunted Serenity]

Theres only what like 10% of the human brain mapped? Probaly another (atleast in mine) 25% doing absolutly nothing but trying to out do the other cells in liberated thoughts and pleasures.

 

[Jaranja]

A mixture of our surroundings like what we see others think is sexy and it being imprinted into our brains when born.

Imprints in stone can be covered by sand, remember.

 

[Julianking93]

Something I've always wondered and no one's given me a good answer to. Its usually just, "People just like that stuff" but I want a serious psychological answer.

So, simple question, why do people prefer certain sexual things or find hands or feet sexy? I for one have a typical Asian fetish and my jaw usually drops at the sight of hot Japanese girls, but why? What answers might the Escapist have?

And, for discussion's sake, what fetishes do you have and do you know why? Its the internet so you can be honest.

Fetishes happen through association of certain activities or feelings with other activities or feelings. For instance girls who like a really strong male may have lacked a strong father figure, or maybe they DID have a really strong father figure and part of them subconsciously wants to replicate that again. Whereas girls who don't really care two hoots about that sort of thing may have had a more balanced childhood. Guys who like girls with really big boobs might have a "mother" thing going on deep in their subconscious, maybe they didn't get enough hugs as a child or something. There's all sorts of fetishes and all sorts of reasons for them. Ultimately I don't think the reasons matter much though, as long as people are happy to cater for each other's tastes. When it becomes a problem is when one person has a fetish that the other person finds unacceptable.

I'm not going to discuss my personal fetishes because it would be very explicit and probably cop me a probation or something. Nobody needs to know unless they're planning on sharing my bedroom.

Once again, you've managed at analyzing topics like no other. If so though, where did my fetishes come from?

I like Japanese girls, hands, smooth skin, lingerie, small breasts and glasses. Where the hell did I get all that from?

 

[Andantil]

As much as i'd like to say something cheesy like "(In the voice of a black preacher)Because the good lord said so!", I won't. but I did...
Anyway, I don't know. I'm into all sorts of fetishy things, but i honestly don't know at all. I hang around /d/ and gurochan a lot, so in my case it's probably just a lack of morals.

 

[Jark212]

Because there awesome...

Spoiler: large size and possible sexual content

 

[Samcanuck]

Pleasure created by a mixture of positive reinforment and sex beging's the fetish. Creating a taboo of that pleasurable act then helps take that pleasurable activity and set the act in stone as a fetish.

 

[thom_cat_]

Redheads and Asians yeah...
I think race-based ones are genetic, so your gene-pool widens.

 

[BonsaiK]

Something I've always wondered and no one's given me a good answer to. Its usually just, "People just like that stuff" but I want a serious psychological answer.

So, simple question, why do people prefer certain sexual things or find hands or feet sexy? I for one have a typical Asian fetish and my jaw usually drops at the sight of hot Japanese girls, but why? What answers might the Escapist have?

And, for discussion's sake, what fetishes do you have and do you know why? Its the internet so you can be honest.

Fetishes happen through association of certain activities or feelings with other activities or feelings. For instance girls who like a really strong male may have lacked a strong father figure, or maybe they DID have a really strong father figure and part of them subconsciously wants to replicate that again. Whereas girls who don't really care two hoots about that sort of thing may have had a more balanced childhood. Guys who like girls with really big boobs might have a "mother" thing going on deep in their subconscious, maybe they didn't get enough hugs as a child or something. There's all sorts of fetishes and all sorts of reasons for them. Ultimately I don't think the reasons matter much though, as long as people are happy to cater for each other's tastes. When it becomes a problem is when one person has a fetish that the other person finds unacceptable.

I'm not going to discuss my personal fetishes because it would be very explicit and probably cop me a probation or something. Nobody needs to know unless they're planning on sharing my bedroom.

Once again, you've managed at analyzing topics like no other. If so though, where did my fetishes come from?

I like Japanese girls, hands, smooth skin, lingerie, small breasts and glasses. Where the hell did I get all that from?

Japanese girls - it's the idea of experiencing something different, also you like small boobs and that's more the norm with Asian girls, so those two things are probably related. Why Japan in particular - probably just because Japan is trendy. Do you like Korean girls? I personally think Korean girls are way cuter and leave Japanese girls for dead. What about Chinese girls? There's more Chinese girls out there than any other type of girls, they're hot and worth fetishising just because of the numbers and probabilities involved (I'm biased because I'm part-Chinese by the way, but you wouldn't know it by looking at me). Think about it.

Smooth skin - everyone likes that. That's just natural biological response and doesn't even count as a fetish.

Glasses accentuate the eyes which are the window to the soul. It's natural to like girl's eyes, that just means that you like girls and you are interested in how they think. I like glasses too, I like how they make a girl look smarter, due to the long-held cultural stereotype of girls with glasses being all nerdy and shit. I wish girls would leave them on in the bedroom but they never do. The old saying "guys don't make passes at girls with glasses" could never be more incorrect.

Lingerie fetishes often come from watching too much high-budget porn where that's just about all they wear. If you're going to watch porn, amatuer hardcore stuff is better for your brain and overall sexual development than high-budget soft-focus frilly-knickers nonsense that trains your brain to desire situations which will never exist for you. Given a choice, you're better off fetishing stuff than could actually realistically happen to you, so you don't run into "I can only get it up if you wear that particular underwear" performance-related issues down the track.

 

[YoUnG205]

.... Good Question. maybe is got somthing to do with how u is raised?

 

[Julianking93]

Something I've always wondered and no one's given me a good answer to. Its usually just, "People just like that stuff" but I want a serious psychological answer.

So, simple question, why do people prefer certain sexual things or find hands or feet sexy? I for one have a typical Asian fetish and my jaw usually drops at the sight of hot Japanese girls, but why? What answers might the Escapist have?

And, for discussion's sake, what fetishes do you have and do you know why? Its the internet so you can be honest.

Fetishes happen through association of certain activities or feelings with other activities or feelings. For instance girls who like a really strong male may have lacked a strong father figure, or maybe they DID have a really strong father figure and part of them subconsciously wants to replicate that again. Whereas girls who don't really care two hoots about that sort of thing may have had a more balanced childhood. Guys who like girls with really big boobs might have a "mother" thing going on deep in their subconscious, maybe they didn't get enough hugs as a child or something. There's all sorts of fetishes and all sorts of reasons for them. Ultimately I don't think the reasons matter much though, as long as people are happy to cater for each other's tastes. When it becomes a problem is when one person has a fetish that the other person finds unacceptable.

I'm not going to discuss my personal fetishes because it would be very explicit and probably cop me a probation or something. Nobody needs to know unless they're planning on sharing my bedroom.

Once again, you've managed at analyzing topics like no other. If so though, where did my fetishes come from?

I like Japanese girls, hands, smooth skin, lingerie, small breasts and glasses. Where the hell did I get all that from?

Japanese girls - it's the idea of experiencing something different, also you like small boobs and that's more the norm with Asian girls, so those two things are probably related. Why Japan in particular - probably just because Japan is trendy. Do you like Korean girls? I personally think Korean girls are way cuter and leave Japanese girls for dead. What about Chinese girls? There's more Chinese girls out there than any other type of girls, they're hot and worth fetishising just because of the numbers and probabilities involved (I'm biased because I'm part-Chinese by the way, but you wouldn't know it by looking at me). Think about it.

Smooth skin - everyone likes that. That's just natural biological response and doesn't even count as a fetish.

Glasses accentuate the eyes which are the window to the soul. It's natural to like girl's eyes, that just means that you like girls and you are interested in how they think. I like glasses too, I like how they make a girl look smarter, due to the long-held cultural stereotype of girls with glasses being all nerdy and shit. I wish girls would leave them on in the bedroom but they never do. The old saying "guys don't make passes at girls with glasses" could never be more incorrect.

Lingerie fetishes often come from watching too much high-budget porn where that's just about all they wear. If you're going to watch porn, amatuer hardcore stuff is better for your brain and overall sexual development than high-budget soft-focus frilly-knickers nonsense that trains your brain to desire situations which will never exist for you. Given a choice, you're better off fetishing stuff than could actually realistically happen to you, so you don't run into "I can only get it up if you wear that particular underwear" performance-related issues down the track.

True, Japanese (and all Asian girls) have smaller boobs in general. I just don't like large breasts. They're too big, its almost guaranteed they're gonna sag later in life and they're just too much for me. And when you asked if I like Korean or Chinese girls, I really just meant all Asian in general. But to be honest, and I don't want to sound like I'm stereotyping or racist, but I can't tell the difference between Chinese, Korean or Japanese. If you could show me the differences and what makes others hotter, that'd be great.

My love for smooth skin goes deeper than just a biological response. I really really love smooth skin on women. Its almost like a security thing for me, I guess because, as I said, one of my favorite things is to hold and cuddle with a girl, and the smoothness of her skin increases that sensation of holding and being held to me. Its almost like I feel safer with a girl who has smoother skin.

Though, I think you're spot on with the glasses thing. They make a girl look smarter, more mature and a bit more independent. If there are a line of the most beautiful women in the world and I happen to see an attractive girl walk by who wears glasses, I'll go for her instead. And who says they don't leave them on in the bedroom?

And about the lingerie. Thing is, I don't watch a lot of porn. In fact, none really. I'm a nerd when it comes to porn. When I use pornography, I'm usually reading it in the form of erotica and short stories . But I probably shouldn't have said lingerie, instead, I should have just said underwear. I find a girl in just a bra and panties extremely arousing. They don't even have to be fancy lace underwear either. And, btw, her choice of underwear most likely wont inhibit my ability to get aroused unless they're like Granny Panties or something. Ew...

 

[Shurikens and Lightning]

The Italian language usually reduces me to mush. I don't know why, it just does. Not exactly sexual but I don't exactly have experience in that area.

Do you jizz yourself every five minutes in Assassins creed 2?

OT: I dont have a fetish more extreme then thinking, wow asian lesbians are really hot.

 

[TheDoctor455]

I think it has something to do with a subconscious desire, one that is buried deep, and thus we are usually unaware of it until we see it for the first time.