Why Hermione + Ron didn't work but should have.

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Ok, I know this was brought up some time ago, and some of you may not care. However if you clicked your way to here odds are you have some curiosity so I hope you enjoy my thoughts on the issue about the romantic interaction between ron and hermione.

First, let's talk about why it seems like kind of a mismatched relationship. Well, Hermione is basically mega awesome. Where as Ron is... well, to call him average is generous. In fact, Ron is rather dwarfed by Hermione in comparison. Ron isn't super social or attractive, where as Hermione becomes a total babe (she dates Victor Crumb who is the best athlete in the wizarding word...not bad Hermione). Ron is only able to get a date to the Yule Ball thanks to Harry's help. Hermione becomes knowledgable about basically everything under the sun and is more prepared than marine corp snipers that I know. Meanwhile, Ron struggles in most classes and isn't that grand athletically (he only gets on the Gryffindor Quidditch team because Hermione cheats for him). I mean, we can see why Ron would fall for Hermione, but from Hermione's perspective what does Ron have to offer? He isn't that handsome, he isn't that smart, he isn't that athletic, and he doesn't treat her that well sooooo....what? Heck, Harry is better than Ron in almost every way, so why doesn't she give scarface a ring? Well, Ron is funny, but hell, there are lots of funny guys in the world. Why go with the below average ginger?

I could go on and give more in-depth examples about why Ron and Hermione don't work, but that isn't the point I'm going for. I'm not trying to list the symptoms. I'm hunting for the disease.

In my opinion the disease is character management.

What do I mean by character management? I mean keeping your characters acting in a way that is both consistent with your characters while also allowing them to grow as the story unfolds. It is my opinion that this is where things started to fall apart for Romione or whatever you may call the couple.

However before I do anything productive like, let's talk about some of the core types of groups you find in story telling. This list is not comprehensive, but a lot fits into these categories so just go with it.
1. The Loner
-ex: James Bond, Spiderman
2. The Duo
-ex: Shaun of the Dead, every buddy cop movie ever
3. The Trio.
-ex: Star Trek (the original series), Buffy the Vampire Slayer
4. The Four Humors
- The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Scooby Doo, The Three Musketeers (ironically)

Most of these groups, excluding the 'loner,' are about radically different perspectives coming together to find the best solution for a problem (the loner does this too but in a weird way that I'm not going into).

In the Duo you have two people who are very different come together to solve a problem. The problem would most likely defeat each member of the duo if they were to go at it alone, but each member of the duo is complemented by the other. Together the two are able to reach a solution that fits somewhere in between how each would normally solve a problem. ex: Scully thinks this is all rubbish. Mulder thinks this is legit. Scully and Mulder keep an open mind about the case.

In the Trio you have the Duo simply expanded. One person is one extreme, one person is the other extreme, and the third person (normally the protagonist) is somewhere in the middle. The middle man's job is to find a plan between the two extremes that provides the best solution. ex: Sam wants to call the cops, Fiona wants to blow stuff up, Michael decides to blow stuff up then call the cops.

The Four humors is a further expansion where you have 4 people with radically different viewpoints and talents that work together (depending on the strengths of the others in the group to achieve a goal). ex: House wants to do something logical but kind of crazy. Cameron is morally outraged. Foreman thinks it's lupus. Chase thinks.... that maybe House is right....I know that example sucked but this one isn't Harry Potter and I feel like you get the picture

So, obviously Harry Potter is the trio.

Why did I just go into this whole song and dance? Well, I likely have mild attention problems, but also because this lays out why Ron and Hermione fail by showing what they were suppose to be.

This is a direct quote from the interview with JK Rowling where she expressed that Ron and Hermione should not have ended up together.

"For reasons that have very little to do with literature and far more to do with me clinging to the plot as I first imagined it, Hermione ended up with Ron."

So she liked the couple at first. Well, what happened?

Basically, Hermione becomes too good at everything and Ron becomes too bad at everything.

To keep this from getting way to long let's distill the problem by talking about the intellectual qualities of Ron and Hermione, keeping in mind that the structure is a trio where in Ron and Hermione are suppose to be opposites that Harry is the middle ground for. At first Hermione is a type A personality who is filling in Harry on the empirical info, and Ron is the fun friend showing Harry the ropes of the world from a practical level. In this scenario it is important to remember that Ron and Hermione are BOTH intelligent. *record scratch* What? Ron intelligent on the level of Hermione? MADNESS. Let's think about it. In the first book Hermione constantly is bringing up the book "Hogwarts: A History." She does this because she is NOT a mega genius. She constantly quotes this same bloody book over and over again because it is where she gets a huge amount of her knowledge about the school. She is what we might call "book smart." She is clever, but only in that she is strong with memorization and algorithms. When it comes to creatively applying her knowledge, she would struggle. Ron on the other hand is clever in the opposite fashion. Remember how Ron is good at chess? Well chess is an intellectual exercise, especially in books. Ron is not great in school, but on the chess board the only time he ever loses is on the day he realizes that he is in love with Hermione.

Let's look at an example early on that provides the perfect comparison between the two's intellects.

Swish and flick.

In the first book, Harry, Ron, and Hermione are learning a levitation spell, wingardium leviosa. Hermione is all over it. In one try she nails it like a stone pro. Ron sucks and is not able to get it right away. He only is able to do something even passable because Hermione helps him. Later on, Hermione is crying in the bathroom when a troll busts in. Hermione, for all her wit, does not know what to do. She can quote you the book, but that is not going to help right now. Now we need a problem solver. Enter Ron. Ron comes in and uses the levitation spell to knock out the troll and save the day. Why doesn't Hermione do this? She knows the spell. Hell, she is probably better with the spell than Ron. She doesn't use it, because this is not her thing. It would never even occur to her to do such a thing. She is all about book knowledge where as Ron is more about application and creative thinking. Both are important. Without Ron's "street smarts," if you will, the troll would have killed Hermione, and without Hermione's "book smarts" Ron would have never learned how to perform the spell in the first place.

Think about it. Why is Ron funny? It's not just to have a funny character who provides comic relief, we do have Neville after all, it is because Ron is sharp. Ron is smart just not in an easily testable way, Hermione is much more scholastic, and Harry is suppose to be the perfect medium.

This difference but EQUALITY is all over the series, even if it sometimes gets messed up:

Ron is bold and values honor: Malfoy wants a duel? I'll totally be your second Harry. You know I got your back homie.
Hermione is cautious and values the rules: Malfoy wants a duel? Harry don't go you'll get in trouble!

Hermione knows about the origins of the four houses of Hogwarts, but Ron has to explain to her why he went ham on Malfoy for calling her a "mud blood."

Hermione becomes beautiful and starts dating wizard David Beckham.
Ron becomes athletic and becomes the hero of the Gryffindor Quidditch team.

Ever notice that in the first few books Hermione doesn't seem to hang out with Harry as much? Ron is definitely more of a constant fixture. When Christmas time hits in the first book Hermione goes home. However, Ron, the "friendlier" guy...if you will... stays with Harry at Hogwarts even though he has a huge family back at home that would probably like to see him. This is likely because Ron is suppose to seem a bit more social and a closer initial friend than Hermione.

This sets up a great relationship between Hermione and Ron. They are different, but equal. In the same way that men and women are fundamentally different, but equal. They aren't constantly fighting each other. They are constantly challenging each other. Their differences push each other, bring out the best in each other, and complement each other. Their arguments become almost fun in this way. I may be wrong, but I'm fairly certain that at one point in the books it is suggested that Ron does not need Hermione to tutor him so much he just enjoys the company.

What happened then?

Well, as I said...towards the end of the series, Ron generally exists to show that Harry is not a wierdo with only a girl for a friend and to provide comic relief. Meanwhile, Hermione becomes the super hot, super smart, the wonder girl we tend to remember her as.

How did this happen?

Well, in my opinion JK Rowling got too attached to Hermione. I suspect she saw a bit of herself in the character and did a little wish fulfillment making Hermione into a bit of a "Mary Sue." I think JK got a little excited about her female character and made her much more powerful than the story needed her to be. In doing so Hermione began to consume the elements of Ron that made him a good Ying to her Yang. Ron became someone who didn't actually need to be around. Later in the books, Ron is regularly incapacitated (like in the ministry of magic at the end of book 4 or in book 7 when he literally just walks off). Why? because he isn't needed. Anything that Ron can do Hermione can do better. The trio gets reduced to a quasi duo with an awkward ginger third wheel.

Overall, I think that Ron and Hermione aren't the best couple ever, but I think it could have been worse. All I'm really saying is that it could have been better. I hope this shed some light on the issue or at least made you think about the couple in a different way.

If enough people enjoyed this I may do a post about who Harry should have ended up with. If people care about the rumblings of a madman like me. :DS-<
 

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I always liked Ron as a character, he was the Aberforth to Harry's Albus.

He was constantly over-shadowed by both of his friends, not intentionally but it was still there. It bothered him but he most of the time kept it bottled up because they were his friends.

Ron will never be the brightest or most athletic but he'll always be there when you need him the most.

So I liked that the underdog got the girl. Though personally I always thought he and Luna would have made a better pairing.
 

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Yes, Hermione was much better than Ron (I'd also argue than Harry as well, but that's just me).

So? She's not allowed to be with Ron because of this?

When you go on a date, do you compare test results or something? Cause, I don't think that's how that works.

To me, this seems reminiscent of the attitude that says guys earn girlfriends. There are lots of problems with that.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Yes, Hermione was much better than Ron (I'd also argue than Harry as well, but that's just me).

So? She's not allowed to be with Ron because of this?

When you go on a date, do you compare test results or something? Cause, I don't think that's how that works.

To me, this seems reminiscent of the attitude that says guys earn girlfriends. There are lots of problems with that.
I think what he is saying is that, story wise, there is no reason for them to have ended up together other than JK wanting them too, which is arguably shoddy story telling and, I think, commendable.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Yes, Hermione was much better than Ron (I'd also argue than Harry as well, but that's just me).

So? She's not allowed to be with Ron because of this?

When you go on a date, do you compare test results or something? Cause, I don't think that's how that works.

To me, this seems reminiscent of the attitude that says guys earn girlfriends. There are lots of problems with that.
I basically came here to say this in slightly different wording, thank for stealing my job


Why wouldnt she want to date ron. He's a great guy. He's fun and loyal and an all round decent guy. Yes he's fucking stupid and a bit of wimp but by saying she shouldnt date him because "she could do better" is as theluikhain said saying that men earn women and only a good looking athletic guy can get the "best women". Attraction is a mutual thing and its purely subjective what youve just done OP is objectify romance which you just cant do. X must like Y because of Z is not a healthy way to look at how relationships are formed

I think the whole point of Hermiones success is that she is muggle born. She doesnt come from a wizard bloodline and she still kicks everyones arse. Ron on the other hand is a weasley who are pure blood wizards yet he is incompetence personified. This just goes to show that hard work and dedication goes a lot further than blood rights.
 

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shootthebandit said:
I think the whole point of Hermiones success is that she is muggle born. She doesnt come from a wizard bloodline and she still kicks everyones arse. Ron on the other hand is a weasley who are pure blood wizards yet he is incompetence personified. This just goes to show that hard work and dedication goes a lot further than blood rights.
Apparently it's a big thing in fan-fic for Hermione to discover she's actually pureblood, because of course she does.

Dunno if I'd call Ron incompetent as such, he seemed more average to me, and just mostly didn't care about school that much.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Yes, Hermione was much better than Ron (I'd also argue than Harry as well, but that's just me).

So? She's not allowed to be with Ron because of this?

When you go on a date, do you compare test results or something? Cause, I don't think that's how that works.

To me, this seems reminiscent of the attitude that says guys earn girlfriends. There are lots of problems with that.
I just plain don't think she had a lot in common with Ron. It's like the two main characters from SPEED hooking up, they became attracted to each other after the whirlwind adventure they had but, hey, that adventure ends. "Honey can you kill that spider?" "Just like we killed that giant one years ago, am I right?!" "*sighs unfullfilled* yes, Ron."

That's the short story I want JK to write. Where they're in their 30s, and their mariages are failing and Harry and Hermione have a one night stand. Lets face it, they had more in common.
 

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Eh, when you're 11, 12 and 13, hanging around and being friends with the opposite gender is not the easiest thing. So the fact that Harry and Hermione didn't hang out much isn't something that strikes me as being an indication of anything but how old the kids were.

As for who Harry should have ended up with? No one we know. Why? He spent 7 years being "The Boy Who Lived" and "The One Who Will Defeat Voldemort", now he's defeated Voldemort. Who is Harry Potter now? He's spent his entire wizard life being pointed in the direction of Voldemort (by fate and by Dumbledore, among others) so it's just natural that he's going to think about a career that lets him get paid for this (Auror). But now that his future isn't set, maybe it's time for Harry to travel the world, to try to figure out just who he wants to be. Along the way he figures out who he is (which may be an Auror), meets someone who doesn't know anything about "The Boy Who Lived" except as a quaint little story from a far away place (Hey, maybe she's Canadian? Or Australian? Somewhere far away from Europe, anyway) and ignores it when she gets to know Harry Potter. Being able to ignore that baggage lets her like Harry for WHO he is, not WHAT he is, and it lets Harry be who he is as well.

Who should Ron and Hermoine end up with? I can see them getting together, but more along the lines of the two of them going their separate ways now that Harry isn't there to hold the group together. Ron gets married to someone else, Hermoine gets married to someone else, neither marriage lasts for too long because they're both missing something that they just aren't able to figure out. Then they meet up again after a decade or more apart and now as adults - true adults, not "Just Out of School I'm A Grown Up Now?" adults, they find that they're each others best compliment. Whey they were kids it was always the three of them - Ron, Hermoine and Harry - and they never really saw each other as separate pair. There was no Ron and Hermoine; there was Ron and Hermoine waiting for Harry, there was Ron and Hermoine working with Harry, but Harry was always part of the equation in some way. Now that Harry isn't in the equation, the two find that yes, actually, they want there to be a Ron plus Hermoine after all.

All of this is somewhat anti-Potterverse, though. Potterverse is far closer to a Fairy Tale than Real Life, so the idea of Harry going on a soul search to find out who he is, Ron and Hermoine getting married to other people and getting divorced, these just don't fit in the Potterverse. (I'm not even sure if Wizards CAN get divorced, for example - how many of the characters in the books are divorced? I can't think of one. Widowed, yes, but not divorced.) When it comes to the Potterverse, the ending works fine for me.
 

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CrazyCajun777 said:
So...basically you're saying Hermione is a shallow ***** who should only be attracted to the funniest, most intelligent, most dashing thing with a penis?
 

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While I didn't read the entire wall of text that OP posted, I gathered a lot from the first two paragraphs.

With the genders reversed, I do damn well in school and used to be pretty freaking fit (being a state-level swimmer). And I dated girls who were dumb as bricks, because I liked them.

That's just it. I *liked* them. No rhyme or reason. Hermione doesn't need a reason to like Ron, because that's not how love works. There aren't very good ways to convey that over text, but that's also very realistic in terms of love.

Plus, the contrast between the two; the fact that it was nearly a rivalry of sorts, may have reinforced those hidden-from-the-audience feelings. I've definitely had relationships that were forged from friendly rivalry.

That's my two-second thoughts on the subject.
 

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I think a lot of you aren't quite getting what the OP was trying to say. I don't think it's a question of whether Ron is worthy or something. He's saying that their personalities were handled better in the earlier books so that you really feel that one compliments the other. It's not a matter of saying a guy earned the girl, it's just a matter of making those characters make sense. His post was motivated by J K Rowling's attitude towards the pairing, and what he thinks went wrong to make her feel that way.
 
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You know what they say; take two steps forward, two steps back,
come together cos opposites attract
you know it ain't fiction just a natural fact
come together cos opposites attract
 

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I think you hit the nail on the head. Fandom looooves Hermione but doesn't have a clue what to do with Ron.

I'll add that it's the films that did a lot of the damage here. In the books, Hermione is never described as particularly attractive, except for at the Yule Ball (which she had to apply a ton of make-up for). In the movies, she's played by Emma Watson. In the books, she's got a good work ethic and above-average intelligence. In the films, she's good at everything.

In particular, I'm quite annoyed at the adaptation of the Devil's Snare scene in PS/SS. In the book, Hermione completely panics and forgets she can do magic. Ron has to snap her out of it. In the film, Ron's the one who panics and Hermione has to bail him out. I get the feeling that the person who wrote the screenplay is a bit of a Hermione fan.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Lilani said:
shootthebandit said:
Either I completely misread the OP's post or there are a lot of people posting without reading the wall of text in the first post. The OP isn't implying anything about Hermione not dating Ron or that she shouldn't have dated ron. The OP is lamenting that he thinks Ron was a better character in the earlier books, and that he became sort of a third wheel by the end of the series with Harry being the chosen one and Hermione being hyper competent at everything.

The OP specifically stated that Ron and Hermione worked, he just thought it could have worked better if Ron had kept up with the usefulness he displayed in the first couple books. The OP also seems to be trying to walk back Rowling's comment about Ron and Hermione being a relationship she wished she had written better, to try and understand the reason or logic behind her comments.

Seriously, is there a line in the OP I missed that is making people react like this, or are people just reading the first paragraph of the OP's post and then assuming they know what the rest of it is about. I feel like I'm missing something here.
 
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I don't get the knee jerk reaction that's coming around here. The OP isn't saying that Hermione shouldn't have dated Ron because she's smarter and more attractive than him, he's saying that they gave her no reason to like Ron, and I can completely see it too.

First off, since I don't want people reading the same thing into my post, I am not saying that interest can be boiled down into a sum of your positive attributes. There's a lot of things that go into it, compatability, enjoying each others company, charm, etc...

Now, it's been a while since I read the books (or watched the movies), but to my memory, Hermione and Ron were almost constantly in conflict. I can't imagine them having been friends if Harry wasn't there in between them. They had so very few positive social interactions with each other, and seemed to be completely lacking in chemistry. On top of that, many of their interactions were poisoned by Ron's jealousy of Hermione, and when he was jealous he'd become snide and mean to her.

All that they had was this crush on each other that seems to come from nothing in particular. I can understand it from Ron's perspective, he could at least admire her positive qualities. What's Hermione falling for? He's not particularly attractive, he's not very smart, he's rarely kind to her (unless you consider fighting someone else on her accord kind), he's rarely charming and they rarely get along. The only positive towards him is that he's supposed to be funny. Was he really though? Most of his "humor" that I remember were in the snide japes he'd make about Hermione. At best he's a fairly average person, and one who doesn't particularly get along with her or share her interests.

The BEST argument for her liking him I could make relies on the assumption that negging is an effective way to make someone love you

EDIT: I wish to reiterate that I haven't read the books in a while, so I may be remembering some of this incorrectly, this is just what I took out from their relationship. By all means, give me counterexamples if I'm claiming something that's incorrect
 

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ah, a shipping thread. XD I missed those.

Honestly, I arrived at the harry potter fandom too late for ship discussions to still go on, but I don't recall ever having a problem with Hermione and Ron hooking up in the end. Probably because most of the really romantic chemistry between she and Harry was primarily in the early books, so I wasn't super invested in Harry x Hermione by the end.

Now, I DID take issue with Harry and Ginny getting together, if only because it was somewhat rushed, and added a "now everyone's one big happy family!" element to the ending that made it almost sickeningly saccharine, but I was never too passionate about the relationships in the books.

The movies did make me ship Luna with Harry a little bit, though.
 

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I think how Ron should have been written is, he should have been the person there with the most DRIVE. The most dedication. The most oomph behind his spells. This also makes sense too considering he was always getting the short end of the stick right from his childhood. This would be one of the prime motivators of this.

This also could have been written into the story very nicely and easily as a form of conflict. His drive would naturally sooner or later conflict with Harry and/or Hermione in some way, thus opening up new and interesting plot developments as well.
 

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I think a lot of you aren't quite getting what the OP was trying to say. I don't think it's a question of whether Ron is worthy or something. He's saying that their personalities were handled better in the earlier books so that you really feel that one compliments the other. It's not a matter of saying a guy earned the girl, it's just a matter of making those characters make sense. His post was motivated by J K Rowling's attitude towards the pairing, and what he thinks went wrong to make her feel that way.
What this guy said.

In the earlier books Ron and Hermoine are better counterbalances to eachother, but in the later books Ron just sits in the corner dribbling. If JK Rowling was an author worth her salt she could have kept their personalities more consistent and made the whole thing work better. I don't think there were really enough reasons for Ron to be useful in the first place, but it's a problem that got a lot worse throughout the story. I mean, he's good at chess, and that's his only upshot. Sure, he's loyal, but pretty much every major character in the book is borderline-erotically loyal to Harry anyway that it doesn't matter. If I were Harry I would have left Ron after the fourth or fifth book, it's a wonder he didn't get slaughtered.
 

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Well, a lot of the things I want to say in response to this have already been said. So I'm going to go with this one: in the books Hermione isn't described as all that attractive. But Ron is a great character, and as another has said before, I'm glad that the underdog got the girl in the end.

balladbird said:
Now, I DID take issue with Harry and Ginny getting together, if only because it was somewhat rushed, and added a "now everyone's one big happy family!" element to the ending that made it almost sickeningly saccharine, but I was never too passionate about the relationships in the books.

The movies did make me ship Luna with Harry a little bit, though.
I took issue with Harry and Ginny too. It just didn't feel right and I was annoyed with the whole "big happy family" thing too. But also what got to me was the fact that it is a mirror image of James and Lilly. In all honesty I thought Luna and Harry would be a much better match.

That, or Harry and Draco forever. Huehuehuehue
 

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I think a lot of people identified with Harry as a surrogate and thus wanted "him" to end up with Hermione.