Woman of the escapist, have you ever been put in the ''friend zone''?

[crudus]

Once. Maybe. By accident. I'd rather not elaborate.

Guy here. None of my female friends are in the "friend zone". That place sucks and it is torture being there. Therefore I don't do the same since nobody really deserves to be there.

I don't quite understand. How exactly do you avoid putting someone in the Friend Zone when you're in the kind of situation where that might happen?

I may have a stricter definition of the friend zone than you. Your definition may be "A friend I don't want to date" versus mine "A friend I would never date".

 

[Scobie]

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[Mr Montmorency]

I'm not attractive enough to put anyone into the friend zone, but ever since not caring about getting laid, my luck will probably just change to mock me.

 

[spartan231490]

guy here, I've done it once. I didn't see her in that light. Funnily enough, I was already in her friend zone. It's a long story and I don't feel like typing it.

 

[SUPA FRANKY]

Sadly, no

Also, Guy here. I laughed really hard at the fact that only guys seem to respond, even if the title said Women of the Escapist. Delicious Irony...

Also, I'm a guy...and a hypocrite.

 

[Zykon TheLich]

(as a guy) I've put a lot of girls in the friend zone actually. I feel kinda bad, cause they sit and try to flirt with me so obviously, and when I try to blow them off to give them the hint, they get more aggressive about it.

Guy here. I have tried time and again to give girls the easy let-down (I'm really popular with the ladies, despite never having a girlfriend). They never get the hint. Hell, there's a girl in the next town right now who was let down six years ago and still won't accept it.

Yeah, that's been my experience too. Something about it just didn't compute to them, being told no just meant that that they weren't trying hard enough, or I liked them but was afriad to show my feelings or any other bizarre crap that they made up in their heads to let them keep trying. It has ruined a couple of friendships for me with girls that just wouldn't drop it, in the end I just had to stop being friends.


Also, hurr, guy again

 

[Lust]

If a girl ends up in the "Friend Zone" because of me, it's usually because I'm too scared to make a move.

Or I'm oblivious to her come ons.

 

[Doclector]

I'm a man, and I never have and never will do that to someone. For one thing, that would begin with someone actually being attracted to me. That's impossible.

For another, I have been put there. See, to me, "friend zone" is not just being friends with someone you wanted more from. It's much worse. I have no problem with people who just want to be friends, but what happens in my definition of the friend zone is that person keeps showing affection, hinting at a possible change in mind, actively playing with your emotions for their own sick joy.

The worst part of this is that it leaves you liable to being used. This person will at some point use you in some way, to cover their mistakes, to bare their troubles, to fight their battles. I have no problem with doing this, but it must be reciprocated, I should be able to expect similiar friendly support, that's how good friends work. But in the friend zone, when the problem is gone, to that person, so are you. They pretend you don't exist, actively hurt you some more, anything to make you go away. Before you know it, they are happy, and you are used, hurt, and alone. What's more, they probabally took all your friends.

So, if some girl, or boy, who appeared the most honest person on earth makes you their friend despite your want for more, be on the lookout for their tricks. Sure, they could just want you to be friends, but they could also just want someone to abuse, use, and throw away. Always remember, no creature on this planet is more deceptive and capable at lying than human beings, male or female.

 

[Applejack]

I used to be fat so yes. I was in everyone's friend zone from age 4 to 18 and it's not fun. I still dated but not people I actually liked.

 

[Mr Cwtchy]

I'll just wait here for Bonsaik to arrive and say there's no such thing as a 'Friend Zone'.

Oh screw it. As a male, I've never friend zoned any girls. Because I've never had, nor have, any girl friends.

 

[sketchesformysweet]

Most girls end up in the friend-zone, even if thats not where they want to be with me. But what else am I supposed to do? Start a meaningless relationship with somebody that I don't feel attracted to just because they like me? Sometimes the friend-zone is the best place to be... even though it hurts sometimes.

 

[Mimssy]

I get put in the friend zone a lot. Most of friends are male and I'm almost immediately thought of as one of the guys (despite the fact that my male friends have admitted or been caught talking to my boobs- as opposed to eye contact- on multiple occasions). Guys tend to be comfortable around me, but only as a friend. Maybe I'm too oblivious to see attraction, but for the most part guys that I'm into (which doesn't happen often, I like being single and on my own) only want to be friends or the women are straight.

The worst was the only guy I've ever loved. He put me in the friend zone until I was moving on. As soon as I was okay with only being friends, he made a move on me.

 

[Lust]

The worst was the only guy I've ever loved. He put me in the friend zone until I was moving on. As soon as I was okay with only being friends, he made a move on me.

What a dick.

I remember some girl tried to get my attention right after I was with my first girlfriend. It was flattering, but, I don't think my girlfriend approved.

 

[Mimssy]

The worst was the only guy I've ever loved. He put me in the friend zone until I was moving on. As soon as I was okay with only being friends, he made a move on me.

What a dick.

I remember some girl tried to get my attention right after I was with my first girlfriend. It was flattering, but, I don't think my girlfriend approved.

Best part was, he was dating a friend of mine at the time. He was classy.

 

[Lust]

The worst was the only guy I've ever loved. He put me in the friend zone until I was moving on. As soon as I was okay with only being friends, he made a move on me.

What a dick.

I remember some girl tried to get my attention right after I was with my first girlfriend. It was flattering, but, I don't think my girlfriend approved.

Best part was, he was dating a friend of mine at the time. He was classy.

Classic "date your lover's friend" scenario. I dunno.......................can't blame him for what he tried to do.

I, myself, am not a real monogamous guy. Never really liked the whole "soul-mate" thing. But, I was always alone, still am. Like it that way.

 

[Gezab]

The friend zone is just an excuse by people who can't otherwise get the person they like.
It doesn't actually exist.

 

[newfiegirl 110]

Hell yeah....been there, done that. Funny, but since I've been married, I've had a number of guys inform me that I am their type :S Or better yet, that they were into me when I was single, but they were too intimidated to ask me out???? What's up with that? I do have a large circle of male friends though.

 

[Mimssy]

What wonderful taste in men you have.

You don't know the half of it. I was blind to a lot of his faults for a time. I turned him down and backed off from him even as a friend until his girlfriend knew what happened (they broke up). It still was shitty.