I was going to ask if it had to be current, then I read the rules. So, off we go.
My ex broke up with me years ago, but we stayed in touch. Sort of had an on again off again relationship for a while. Then, last year, we decided to try it again seeing as we've both grown up a bit. So, I go visit her for the weekend, we have a great time, and make plans for our next get together. She lives about two hours away. We sent each other texts, e-mails, and all that fun stuff. A month goes by of this, and it's coming up on when I'm suppose to go visit her again. All of a sudden, she disappears. Doesn't respond to texts, e-mails, Facebook, or phone calls. I thought this weird, as I would at least hear from her once a day--or she'd tell me she was going out of town. Three days later, she sends me a message saying that she had spent the weekend with some guy who had asked her out on a date and that she was sorry, but things seemed to be going really well with this guy and that I probably shouldn't come and visit the following weekend "Please don't hate me, we can still be friends, and all that good stuff". I admit that made me sad and I felt a little betrayed, but okay. We're two hours apart, both in our late twenties, and it's easier to date someone you live closer to than someone far away. So I accepted it.
I kid you not, four days later (the Monday after I was suppose to come visit her), I get a text out of the blue asking if "(Is she) a hard person to love?" Turns out that the guy she had had so much fun with just wanted to sleep with her, and after he pushed her too fast and she said no, he left her and called her names. And she was sorry and missed talking with me late at night and wished I had come up and visited instead. Every warning bell in my head was going off, my friends were shaking their heads and warning me, but like a fool I took the bait. I confronted her about it, asked her if she was just using me, and she admitted that she might be, but she wasn't sure. So I told her okay, we'll try again. Made plans for her to come visit me in two weeks. Took the whole week off, made plans to do stuff, and just have a good time. Three days later, SHE PULLS THE SAME STUNT. EXACT. SAME. A guy asked her out at work, she said yes, they hit it off, and she's sorry but she won't be able to come down and visit "I'm so sorry. You hate me now, don't you? I wouldn't blame you if you do." First time, fine, I understand. Second time? I still get mad thinking about it. And it kills me, because all my friends and parents warned me this would happen, and I still fell for it. I finally see her as everyone else I know sees her: manipulative and selfish. And me the fool.
The kicker though, the twist of the knife, was that on the week she was going to come visit while I'm sitting home alone with nothing to do, she posted on her Facebook: "(Insert guy's name) is the best boyfriend ever!" I deleted her after that. To my knowledge, she's still with this guy and I still can't help but feel betrayed, even a year later. I wish I could move on like so many people tell me to.
