Worst thing your current Boy/Girl Friend has done to you.
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Single. Almost 5 years of emotional and mental abuse to sum it all up. Otherwise very long story. Skilled manipulator that it took that long to figure out that was what was going on and to be strong enough to leave him. And that was almost 5 years off and on for us dating. Cheated on me, used me to cheat on other girls(and then told me it was MY fault they were mad at me when he didn't tell me he was dating them in the first place).
well lets see my first GF dumped me cause she said she was useing me till this other guy broke up with his GF and then had the nerv 2 years later if she could crash at my place for a few months. Jokes on her XD i've got a much better looking Girlfriend now and i've got a deacent job and she doesnt lol victory
Current bf is awesome. 1 year absolutely no problems. No fights, any even slight disagreement we talk calmly and either agree to disagree or we actually listen to each other! This is amazing for me after my previous experiences. With him that is.
His roommate on the other hand? Makes me breakdown crying and essentially "breaks" me the rest of the time I'm visiting. Was in a very abusive relationship a few years ago, and his roommate has very very bad anger issues. Slams doors, stomps around, slams down dishes, yells at everyone over everything, and the only things out of his mouth are insults. Suffice to say it's really hard to go over and be with my bf when his roommate is a raging prick that scares the shit out of me and simply being in his presence makes me cry.
So not exactly a thing my boyfriend has done to me. But with how bad my depression is, it's to the point where my psychiatrist is thinking I shouldn't be visiting my BF until he's got his own place.
His roommate on the other hand? Makes me breakdown crying and essentially "breaks" me the rest of the time I'm visiting. Was in a very abusive relationship a few years ago, and his roommate has very very bad anger issues. Slams doors, stomps around, slams down dishes, yells at everyone over everything, and the only things out of his mouth are insults. Suffice to say it's really hard to go over and be with my bf when his roommate is a raging prick that scares the shit out of me and simply being in his presence makes me cry.
So not exactly a thing my boyfriend has done to me. But with how bad my depression is, it's to the point where my psychiatrist is thinking I shouldn't be visiting my BF until he's got his own place.
Haha, me, having a "quality life"... Yeah, that's never gonna happen, no biggie though, I'm used to constantly having to fight to survive, fight to stay sane, learning new and exciting ways to stay fed on $5/month and many many other things...Jenvas1306 said:
Simply put, the phrase "Shit happens." pretty much describes my entire life, which may sound like I'm bitching, or sound bad, but really, it's not that bad overall, cuz I'm almost never bored, I always have some sort of challenge to face, and hell right now, I have a roof over my head, enough food to keep from starving, a job, and internet access, so I'm doin pretty great right now.
Also, when you're pretty well constantly poor, and have no real "future" to speak of, no major ambition that's attainable, and are pretty well looking at a life of hardship 'till something eventually manages to kill you, you know that the friends you have that actually stick with you, are fucking amazing people, and to me, that's worth more than any money, worth more than all the stuff on this damn rock put together, worth more than all the sex I could ever enjoy.
So yeah, even though on the scale of elligability when it comes to finding a woman, on a scale of 1-10 I rank somewhere around a 3 (not because of looks, I'm average there, not butt ugly or anything), mainly due to a combination of my personality(I am constantly fighting depression, which is really "fun"), and the fact that my financial situation is pretty bleak, I'll probably never be able to afford a house, likely won't ever have the luxury of retiring, and as far as being able to afford to do anything, like traveling, yeah, pretty well fucked there too, also the herpes thing, really doesn't help either, I'm dirty now, unclean, tainted.
But hell, by now I've pretty well accepted that, and as far as I'm concerned, the only reason to live, and my only ambition, is to live to enjoy what I can manage, and to honour my friends, and spend my life helping them as they've helped me, and having fun when I can.
Yeah, I'm not much of an enviable person, but at least it makes it hard for jealousy to become an issue with my friends/family... So that's a good thing.Rose and Thorn said:
But yeah, GF before her, took me for about $1100, before telling me that it was all a lie, and that I was essencially a joke.
Well y'know what they say, what doesn't kill you... Makes you find new ways to hate yourself for the rest of your already miserable existence... But hey, I've gotten pretty good at making jokes about how shit my life is, and might eventually become a comedian, if I could ever get an act down, and find someone who had the connections to put my sorry ass on stage.disgruntledgamer said:
Call my act "And you thought YOUR day was bad..." or something, subject matter would be my life, the life of a broke ass dude who's generally unfortunate in day to day life, and for some reason hasn't given up, and has friends who for some strange(though appreciated) reason, still bother to stick by me and keep my sorry ass afloat.
Thing is, the only time I seem to be able to make it seem funny, without it becoming a total downer, and sounding like a pathetic sob story is when I'm either high outa my tree, or drunk off my ass...
There's was one time like a year ago where I was complaining to my girlfriend over the phone about how my job at the time was draining me completely and how it sucked. She stopped me mid sentence with a sigh and asked, "I'm sorry, but are you always going to be like this?"
I got pretty fucking mad.
I think that was the only fight we've ever had that carried over onto the next day.
Not too major. I really don't have any room to complain
I got pretty fucking mad.
I think that was the only fight we've ever had that carried over onto the next day.
Not too major. I really don't have any room to complain
well it seems life is allways a *****, for everyone in their own way. Even I dont have a lot of sympathy for people who dont know what to spend their money on anymore.DoomyMcDoom said:
But I'm out of the overly depressive time of my life and have learned that its a thing of your point of view for most people. So far I've got a roof above my head and a warm bed, that I can even share with someone I like quite a bit. Naturally I'm also happy about every day I dont get murdered out of hate for who I am. So things could be worse.
But if someone actively did something to make the situation even worse, like in your case, revenge would be quite tempting. Maybe do something good and brand a warning onto her forehead, a big "SLUT" is sure very decorative.
For me, depression is something of a more... Chemical thing, in my brain, not really a perspective thing, sometimes it's made worse by having major deficiencies in my diet, usually that comes from not being able to afford food...Jenvas1306 said:
Revenge is a thing that if done for something against one's self, generally only serves to make one look like an asshole...
If anyone say, raped a friend of mine of a family member, or did something inherrently bad of the sort to one of my people, then I would consider revenge to be a given.
As far as people doing things to me, well, they tend to get their's without me ever having to lift a finger, and not even because of anything outright done to them by friends of mine in most cases either, hell, half the people who've done me wrong in the past have been killed in accidents, died of cancer, or had their businesses and lives fall apart due to the economy, if someone is enough of a prick, to do harm to someone who only ever seeks peace with others, chances are, when they fall, ain't nobody gonna offer 'em a hand to help 'em back up.
My current partner of 6 and a half years whom I have two children with has cheated on me.
He introduced me to a work friend of his as we had similar aged babies and we went to Zumba together, she came over to my daughters 1st birthday, I even handed down clothes to her for her daughter.
Found out the day after Valentines day this year they had been having an affair since the summer. They hadn't slept together it was just a few kisses here and there but it devastated me. Not sure I'll ever get over it.
He introduced me to a work friend of his as we had similar aged babies and we went to Zumba together, she came over to my daughters 1st birthday, I even handed down clothes to her for her daughter.
Found out the day after Valentines day this year they had been having an affair since the summer. They hadn't slept together it was just a few kisses here and there but it devastated me. Not sure I'll ever get over it.
I'm really sorry to hear that. My first boyfriend was abusive, so I know that being around people with tempers can be really intimidating. It's not fair that his behaviour is affecting you when you are only there to see your boyfriend. Maybe you should ask your boyfriend to have a word with him to see if he can cool it a bit when you are around? You shouldn't have to accept that kind of behaviour at all.darklilac said:
OT: The problem with me and my boyfriend I guess is that we don't talk. I can talk to my friends for hours and hours, but he barely talks to me for a few minutes without sounding like he'd rather be doing something else.
Mine probably pales in others, but she tried to break up in a text message in the first month because she was afraid she'd hurt me eventually. (Seriously, she has a martyr complex and doesn't trust herself, and we're each-other's first normal relationship.)
I called her up and talked her through her feelings and insecurities about it while she cried. I let her choose at the end and she chose for us to stay together. Thank God too, when I read the message my heart skipped a beat.
PS We knew each other three years before we started dating, just in case anyone's going to make some stupid accusation we had just met and barely know each other.
I called her up and talked her through her feelings and insecurities about it while she cried. I let her choose at the end and she chose for us to stay together. Thank God too, when I read the message my heart skipped a beat.
PS We knew each other three years before we started dating, just in case anyone's going to make some stupid accusation we had just met and barely know each other.
Damn ninjas!smithy_2045 said:
My last one? Nothing, really, the passion just wasn't there.
Before that...nothing. It ended because she had massive problems with trusting men for understandable reasons. Also, living on two different continents made regular contact hard, and I'm just not good with long-distance relationships.
Erm probably either punch me in the face or throttle me. Other than that she's pretty perfect and I have no idea why she's with an idiot like me, poor girl.
Thankyou. >< Yes my BF has talked to him, and his roommate has before agreed to cool it. But it really doesn't matter as once something's set him off he cannot control himself in any way. Everything sets him off though... His attitude is shitty, and he thinks when people have problems with him it's their fault, not his. So he *sorta* apologizes in a backhanded way and then continues acting like a prick. Since technically his roommate owns the house and is renting the downstairs to my BF and two others, he just says "It's my house I'll do what I want and you have to respect me". There's really no winning.Girl With One Eye said:
That's actually a pretty awful sounding situation... Communicating is very important. >< Have you tried talking to him about it?
So you would be ok with being murdered as long as it wasn't out of hate...........................Jenvas1306 said:
seriously, thats quite indelicate trolling. no naturally i dont want to get murdered out of any reason or even without reason, just that for me the most likely reason would be cause of hate. Nov 19th was TDOA (transgender day of awareness). Gets you scared to belong to a group that is socially seen as so low and unaccepted/understooddisgruntledgamer said:
If I had to pick something, I suppose that my boyfriend got really drunk and threw up all over my bed once. Such a classy fellow.
He's so cute.
He's so cute.