Would you be turned off if you knew your partner had "many" partners before you?

[LiberalSquirrel]

As long as he's clean, no, it wouldn't be a problem. But I want a pretty long commitment before I even think about sleeping with a guy, so anyone who's interested in quickly getting to the more physical parts of a relationship probably wouldn't be happy with me.

 

[Phoenix Arrow]

An ex from 2 years ago lost her virginity to me. About a month ago she wanted to hook up again just for a "DVD". I know shes had plenty of guys. 43 to be exact.

Whaaat? That's a big much, isn't it? Going from virginity to two different guys per month?

This thread seems a bit weird to me actually. I mean, I'll admit I can be a bit of a slut, buy I'm a monogamous slut if that makes sense. But that I mean I've had plenty of sex, but not with so many partners. I'm not jealous though, not in the slightest.

But anyway, it used to bother me. Now, not so much. My first had been around a bit and taught me well so experience has benefits. Noone will remember me as their first, but they'll remember me as their best, right? Hopefully anyway.

 

[Soviet Heavy]

Not really. If they had multiple partners before me, it would give me valuable info on how to treat the relationship. Make it a fun swing before it's inevitable end, instead of throwing myself at them and declaring my love.

 

[ChildofGallifrey]

My girlfriend has had more sexual partners than I have, but she had a very rough home life growing up so I can kind of understand the attention aspect of it (also I chose not to ask for a number. Ignorance is bliss, after all). Also, she's had more partners than I have, but I've *ahem* done the deed more than she has, so I guess it about evens out. I know that we're completely faithful to each other, so I don't worry about it.

That and she told me about a year into our relationship, out of nowhere, that I was the only person who had ever made her orgasm. Knowing that, I can live with her having had more sexual partners than I have had

 

[TehCookie]

It wouldn't be a deal-breaker but it would be a turn-off. It's called making love for a reason, if you are just doing it for the lust do it with someone other than me.

 

[iFail69]

It's just the way I am, but to put it bluntly, yes. When I look into relationships, I look into similarities, and if this person has had a vast quantity of short term relationships, then we obviously don't look at relationships in the same light, which is pretty important, considering this is all about relationships.

Yes, I said relationships a lot, no I will not edit what I put

 

[Broady Brio]

As long as they're not carrying anything EVIL! It also really depends on the tone on how they would say it.

If they bragging about how many guys they've been with. "Yeah, slept with loads of guys! So great!" Then yeah, it'll bother me significantly.

 

[orangeban]

Heck no, I've no right to control their life just because I find the fact that others may of also enjoyed my partner's company icky. Just so long as they don't bring any medical "surprises" from their partner's body to my body.

 

[Nimcha]

Nah, doesn't bother me. Actually I kind of prefer it, I don't people who are fussy about this stuff.

 

[New Frontiersman]

I don't think I'd have a problem with it, it's never really come up for me before though.

like most people here though I'd probably have a problem with it if they had an STD or something.

 

[WitherVoice]

If you like who a person is, it takes gall to ***** about how they became that person.

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

As long as she is clean then im not worried too much.

 

[CrimsonBlaze]

Well, as long as she wasn't/isn't a prostitute or stripper, then we are golden.

 

[runnernda]

I am a girl who has had quite a few sexual partners. When I'm single, I have a few friends with benefits with whom I spend time. But I always use protection, I get tested yearly, and if I'm in a relationship, I'm not going to cheat. If someone doesn't like me because of how much sex I've had or with whom, that's on them. If a guy I'm interested in has had a lot of partners, I might insist he get tested if he hasn't been, but it wouldn't turn me off. It probably just means he's awesome in bed.

 

[everythingbeeps]

There's more to it than just the number. Reasons, recent history, and so on. I'd be more concerned with recent history.

 

[Don Savik]

It says a lot about a person's personality. I would decline if the number isnt reasonable. Go out and have sex and party every night? Well then I doubt you would be suited for a normal relationship. Friends with benefits is kind of silly and immature when it boils down to it. I mean, is sexual pleasure without love that important to you that you can't just masturbate every once and a while? People are just uncontrollably horny.(boy am I gonna get some rage for this post)

But do people really care?

No. They want sex in any way they can get it and thats what it boils down to.

Do I care?

Yes, and thats why im a crayon in a box of markers

 

[ROBOTwithHUMANhair]

stds exist... 1 in 4 adults have one... and being plowed by 30 people is not a desirable trait in any person. of course it matters.

 

[Dimitriov]

That would be a yes. Too many partners is, well, just kind of gross... that applies equally to men as well as women.

 

[JemothSkarii]

I'm wary about how many past boyfriends they've had due to past girlfriends having become interested in other guys while I've been with them. So I'm a paranoid wreck...to me, it matters even how many NON-sexual partners they've had...and I'd prefer it to be zero sexual partners...I have a very romanticized view on sex, so I've been waiting.