Would you be turned off if you knew your partner had "many" partners before you?
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Well that's a pretty dumb question, those past partners beget experience which probably means a better lay overall, so in conclusion, I really don't give a shit, although given what others have brought up, a condom would probably be advisable in such a situation.
Erg... I doubt I am on the same page with the majority. I would straight out judge a girl based on how many guys she has been in a X amount of time. Everyone with an active sex life is capable to see reason in regards to how many people they date/screw. I have traditional values whom would assume more good on a pretty girl limiting her experiences for special relationships and label a more free, frequent girl to be less likely to be trustworthy in a committed relationship, fail to appreciate my committed and disrespect themselves.
One Night standers - I see as lower part of society (sorry to offend you modern society). Only in special cases could I imagine its fine. Anyway my view on that is mostly towards those who are consistent with it.
In a way I (for good or bad reasons) find a girls intimacy very very special and wish all understand and believe that too. Also in my mind, a perfect world would involve couples only making love in long term relationships or marriage but for too many reasons its not viable these days, both logical reasons and simply the lust people have.
That's my opinion anyway. Don't worry I am not one of those preaching fools who openly tell people what to do with themselves. As long as nothing is pushed onto me everyone can do what they like with my mouth shut.
One Night standers - I see as lower part of society (sorry to offend you modern society). Only in special cases could I imagine its fine. Anyway my view on that is mostly towards those who are consistent with it.
In a way I (for good or bad reasons) find a girls intimacy very very special and wish all understand and believe that too. Also in my mind, a perfect world would involve couples only making love in long term relationships or marriage but for too many reasons its not viable these days, both logical reasons and simply the lust people have.
That's my opinion anyway. Don't worry I am not one of those preaching fools who openly tell people what to do with themselves. As long as nothing is pushed onto me everyone can do what they like with my mouth shut.
50 would be my number, I don't know why, seems reasonable for me though. I am married, however, and my wife had less than half that when we got married, when she was 29.
i think that its supposed to mean something, be important, have value and importance.
its like ice cream, absolutely amazing in the right moment. but too much and everything goes sour... by that i mean your genitals rot off and you cant emotionally connect with anyone else.
ive been with one person and its the girl i am marrying, who has only ever been with me. i had the chance to be with others but i knew it would be nothing but sport bumping. tyler and marla sex. genital slamming with someone who doesnt even know my last name.
i understand the other viewpoint that people who have very few partners are inexperienced... but i think of it more as specialization. every person is different with different likes and dislikes. being only with my fiance has allowed me to learn everything about her and she knows everything about me.
WARNING HORRIBLE PUN INBOUND: a jack of all trades is a master of none... so for me, many partners is a deal breaker.
its like ice cream, absolutely amazing in the right moment. but too much and everything goes sour... by that i mean your genitals rot off and you cant emotionally connect with anyone else.
ive been with one person and its the girl i am marrying, who has only ever been with me. i had the chance to be with others but i knew it would be nothing but sport bumping. tyler and marla sex. genital slamming with someone who doesnt even know my last name.
i understand the other viewpoint that people who have very few partners are inexperienced... but i think of it more as specialization. every person is different with different likes and dislikes. being only with my fiance has allowed me to learn everything about her and she knows everything about me.
WARNING HORRIBLE PUN INBOUND: a jack of all trades is a master of none... so for me, many partners is a deal breaker.
My answer is "it depends". On a lot of things. Just a short list:
How many is "many?
Did she contract any diseases? (Has she been tested of late?)
Did these encounters result in unpleasant. . . alteration of certain body structures?
How much do I like the person?
How good is she in bed?
Do I know any of her past partners?
How many is "many?
Did she contract any diseases? (Has she been tested of late?)
Did these encounters result in unpleasant. . . alteration of certain body structures?
How much do I like the person?
How good is she in bed?
Do I know any of her past partners?
ehh it depends on honestly, after meeting some girls i know and learning their "back" history from some other people, you won't catch me touching them with a 10 foot pole.
but i would also say it depends on how many partners, not necessarily how MUCH they've done it (although that might be in the toss up depending on how "recent" that is)
meh..like i said its kind of situational, but i'd be more inclined depending on how many "partners" they have had, if it is above our age? definite no, and you'll probably never be crossed into a sexual thought of mine ever again.
but i would also say it depends on how many partners, not necessarily how MUCH they've done it (although that might be in the toss up depending on how "recent" that is)
meh..like i said its kind of situational, but i'd be more inclined depending on how many "partners" they have had, if it is above our age? definite no, and you'll probably never be crossed into a sexual thought of mine ever again.
Nope. My partner spent the majority of his adult life before meeting me drunkenly fucking his way through half the female population (and probably some of the male population too) of our town, and probably more than that in his hometown before moving.
It pissed me off when I first learnt about it, but I'm no saint either. Sure I wasn't as bad, but everyone makes questionable decisions. Plus my annoyance mostly stemmed from a) the way I found about it, and b) The fact he didn't tell me himself.
Besides, I'd feel like a prick for making a big deal out of it. Since for him it was just sexuality-based confusion and trying to deny his guy-loving tendencies, which I can perfectly understand. His reasons are certainly better than mine, which amount to "because why the fuck not?"
It pissed me off when I first learnt about it, but I'm no saint either. Sure I wasn't as bad, but everyone makes questionable decisions. Plus my annoyance mostly stemmed from a) the way I found about it, and b) The fact he didn't tell me himself.
Besides, I'd feel like a prick for making a big deal out of it. Since for him it was just sexuality-based confusion and trying to deny his guy-loving tendencies, which I can perfectly understand. His reasons are certainly better than mine, which amount to "because why the fuck not?"
Nah. My wife and I briefly dated in high school and it was pretty lame. We met up again five years after high school (she'd gotten her degree, I did a stint in the Air Force and was just starting college) and it was great. We'd each learned a lot from other people and were pretty open about it. In part because we came from a small town and remained friends so talked occasionally. I knew she'd dated both the offensive and defensive captains of her college football team and had quite a few wild stories in there. She knew I'd dated the daughter of a Playmate and spent a couple of months one summer helping the drama department of an all-girl college build sets and had some pretty wild stories there as well.
We'd both always had safe sex, were STD free and it was never really an issue for either of us.
We'd both always had safe sex, were STD free and it was never really an issue for either of us.
