Would you remain married to your spouse if they became disabled or deformed?
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At that age there'd also be more practical things to consider, like inheritance and taxes. Given that complete loss of mind usually happens pretty late in Alzheimer's, I might stick around for a bit for that reason. Losing your home because you divorced someone who has lost their mind seems pretty shitty. I mean, how are you expected to have a relationship with that person? All in all though, I hope my partner would share my view that suicide is better than putting people through seeing you go through Alzheimer's.Whateveralot said:
Actually, you are right. I misused white knighting as I had previously been led to believe it simply means bending over backwards to try to impress women through acting like a supposed hero. My bad. As for the rest of it, you're also right there. You would be right that there are a couple more reasons. If someone loves their wife because of their personality, character, and everything else that is tied with our brain then what reason do they have to stay around when said personality and character is gone? If that is really why someone loves their wife, and looks don't matter, then the loved one's body is irrelevant, correct? Well, when the loved one becomes brain dead and loses everything that makes them who they are as a person, that doesn't suddenly change the relevancy of the physical body. Now, a husband who is unwilling to let go of the physical body could do it for a few reasons. Either the husband actually does value the physical body on a shallow level a whole lot in order to go through the hell to preserve the body, the husband is naive and thinks the person is some how going to recover in any significant psychological way from a total and prolonged brain shut down, or the husband is using clinging to the physical representation of what he loved as a way to avoid dealing with the fact that everything that he loved about the person is gone. Because after all, he fell in love with her mind and her looks are irrelevant, right?Cavan said:
Long answer short, it's not as different as some would have you believe. My main point was to highlight some serious inconsistencies.thaluikhain said:
Yes I would, in fact the last guy I had a crush on was in a wheelchair.
You don't stop loving someone just because they have an accident. If I was in the situation where they needed serious care I would leave it to professionals because it only hurts both parties lives in the long run to try and struggle on with it alone.
You don't stop loving someone just because they have an accident. If I was in the situation where they needed serious care I would leave it to professionals because it only hurts both parties lives in the long run to try and struggle on with it alone.
What do we mean by disabled or deformed? If it was extremely severe, then we'd have to have a frank conversation about it.
If my lady ended up quadriplegic then we'd have to have a real frank conversation about the future. Just trying to white-knight the situation and tough it up can be destructive in itself, for everyone involved and that includes children.
If my lady ended up quadriplegic then we'd have to have a real frank conversation about the future. Just trying to white-knight the situation and tough it up can be destructive in itself, for everyone involved and that includes children.
Well if I marry, it's not going to be because she is "hot", it would be because I love her and she means everything to me, I can't comprehend leaving someone over something like that.The only thing I can think of that I maybe would, is that they're so mentally challenged that they don't even recognize me anymore, but by that point, they would be pretty much already dead to me, it wouldn't be the woman I married by that point.
Its already likely that within 10 years my girlfriend is going to be on disibility and wheelchair bound because she has rheumatoid arthritis, which is rare for her young age, so she'll likely be in a lot of pain by her 40s. Ive come to accept that already.
No. I've been in a few multi-year relationships, and if I had to say what is different about being married to a long-term relationship, it would be the commitment that goes with it. Part of getting married is to take that kind of thing into account - sure, marriages often don't work out, but the intent at least is that it's 'for better or for worse'.