Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?

[Rayne870]

no sex ever in the relationship...hell no. No sex until a later time of being comfortable or marriage I could deal with. No sex ever means no kids the proper way and no real physical connection and essentially a waste of time when it comes to my needs.

WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?

NO. Never. Not happening. I'm not marrying any guy who hasn't fucked me repeatedly, if only to prove his competence.

My spouse and I had sex on our first date.

If someone I was dating said they wouldn't have sex until marriage, I would dump them. In fact, I did so with someone many years ago.

My ex had a saying for this "test drive the car before you buy it."

 

[Everin]

Yeah, she's definetly a devout Christian, she's been raised on those beliefs and customs. I hope she doesn't question my commitment. But like I said above, I don't mind that she's Christian.

Is it all forms of sex she is abstaining from?

No, she's just abstaining from the actual act of sleeping with me, anything before that is fine by her standards.

 

[Coop83]

Well, it's a difficult question to answer. I've been in relationships with and without sex. I've also been in love and that's where things get difficult. I think that I could warm to the idea of no sex before marriage, though I might be jumping into the whole "Let's get married right now!" attitude, if I were definately in love with said woman.

I think that because I enjoy sex so much, I would have to ask a few questions regarding it - do hand jobs count? I would assume that oral sex counts, by the very nomenclature. If I look at it like a lawyer, I need to find out just what it is, so I can get the most pleasure out of the relationship myself.

I've also known of girls that said no sex before marriage and I talked to them while at work on various evenings back in the day. The one in particular that I remember was in much the same way, saving herself for Mr. Right and when she thought she found him, she waived the NSBM rule. That relationship went sour a few years later and I asked her if she had any regrets. None whatsoever was her reply.

In conclusion, do what you're comfortable with, but don't be afraid to talk about it - you might find something that both of you want to try that's satisfying.

 

[Exocet]

No,for a simple reason:while love isn't about only sex,it is involved.Remove one aspect,and it can crumble.
Never froget what you are,a human being.As much as we try to deny it,we are driven by some instincts,and the desire to mate is one of them.Now that person can believe whatever the hell she wants,but if we can't get along on basic things,it will not end well one way or the other.

Saying I love you and cuddling won't really cut it for 90% of the guys out there if they buy a girl a nice meal,watch a romantic movie and you are at their place,enjoying a great cup of coffee.

 

[Queen Michael]

I'd make it ckear to her that I don't intend to ever get married, and if I'd wanted to I'd make sure that the one I'm getting married to is sexually compatible with me beforehand. But as has been said by others, if she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex 'cause her imaginary friend God told her to and she has to do anything her imaginary friend tells her, (and she knows her imaginary friend always knows best because he wrote he does in a book and that proves it), I'd be out of here unless she's extremely attractive in other ways.
(Sorry if this seems offensive to Christians, but I wanted to make it clear how it would seem to me.)

 

[KingKamor]

I believe that the whole "sex before marriage is sinful" line of thinking is bullshit. I don't care what Christians have to say on the matter, it's all a load of crap. I doubt that I would be able to stand the company of a serious Christian girl unless she has some real nerd chops and an otherwise great personality outside of her religious beliefs.(Can you tell that I'm atheist?)

But if the girl I love simply doesn't want sex in a relationship, then I would have no choice but to respect her decision. If it really is love, then it shouldn't matter. Besides, cuddling is rather nice, and the Bible says nothing about making out, so yeah.

 

[008Zulu_v1legacy]

No, she's just abstaining from the actual act of sleeping with me, anything before that is fine by her standards.

Its funny how even the most devout girl is up for anything (and I mean anything) barring the actual act itself. Its like having your cake and eating it too (its not an indictment of the group as a whole, more an observation based off personal experience).

I say stick with it. With oral, when done right, it wont seem like you are missing out on anything.

 

[lovemyredguitar]

Id try, but id probably end up cheating.

 

[Kyoufuu]

WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?

No, sex is an integral part of relationships for me. I wouldn't even consider getting married to someone before having had sex with them.

Edit: It's a bit like this. You go to a car showroom to look at one of your favourite cars. You REALLY want to buy it cos it looks amazing. You get in the car, twiddle all the knobs, pretend to drive it fast, etc. You ask for a test drive... and the car dealer shakes his head sadly. He tells you you have to BUY the car before you can drive it.

So you buy the car and eagerly take it out for a first drive, and...

I think you get my point.

>Implying sex is the purpose of relationships.

 

[Kyoufuu]

le snip

Here you go - I bolded the part you missed.

Oh, sorry *goes to say "I missed that part" and reads what you wrote* damit, you ninja'd my reply!

 

[kidwithxboxlive]

Yes. If you love her, then you can be with her no matter what... right? riiiiiiiiiiiight?

 

[kidwithxboxlive]

Yes. If you love her, then you can be with her no matter what... right? riiiiiiiiiiiight?

 

[Mikeyfell]

The way I see it sex isn't a "Step" in a relationship.
I always find it weird when people say "We're taking it to the next step."
The way I see it sex is based on attraction and love is based on some unknowable sixth sense feeling.

If my significant other decided that our relationship had to be sexually exclusive (Either because she didn't know that sex and romance are different, or didn't care) I'd have to end it. Because that's just a base level incompatibility that I can't cope with.

 

[easternflame]

I don't believe in marriage as I don't believe in religion. Sex is pleasure. No I wouldn't but not because of sex addiction. It's more like, I think it's a stupid view and I would like to see if sex is good before I get married.

 

[thylasos]

No, sorry. I mean, I'm unsure how I feel about marriage anyway, and sex is a fairly fundamental part of any romantic relationship older than a week or two, for me.

 

[latenightapplepie]

Errrr. No.

I can't get married to anyone I would want to have a sexual/romantic relationship with in my country (read: dudes, and I am one), so that would mean no sex period.

How very lame.

 

[thereverend7]

I think sex is a very important part to a healthy and loving relationship, so it would be hard to stay true and only rely on.... "doing it yourself"

Coming from someone who's been in a good relationship for close to a year now, if this ever happened, I would just have to talk to my girlfriend about getting my need satisfied else where. its not like im gonna be like oh hey i love you so much i never get boners anymore. but at the same time, i would want to stay as true to my girl as possible, because she is the love of my life.

lets just hope that never happens shall we

 

[Dys]

I don't believe in marriage so no. I don't see any difference between platonic love and romantic love without sex, if I love her but can not or will not have sex with her, then she's slam dunk'd the friend zone.

Also, as the old saying goes, I sure as hell wouldn't buy a car before I've had a test drive.

 

[Queen Michael]

I don't see any difference between platonic love and romantic love without sex,

I though they were the same thing.