Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?

[tombman888]

Yes, i would stay with them.

 

[GeneralDefiance]

just do everything but have sex, and since your not having straightforward sex your not breaking any bible guidelines, god will be cool with it, and when has the bible ever been vague or nonspecific about its lessons ,right?

 

[Luke Cartner]

would you buy a car you had never driven? Ok relationships are not about sex; but really the only difference between a girlfriend and a friend who is a girl is you are sleeping together. So isn't it a good idea to who if she is girlfriend material or a girl who is your friend material before she stops being your girlfriend and starts being your wife?
Afterall you have that period of having small children (the best form of birth control known to man) not to have sex...

 

[Cryo84R]

Anyone who answers yes is a virgin.

 

[OutforEC]

Nope.

First off, as an atheist, someone that religious is going to be incompatible with me long term.
Second, I follow the advice of my mother who told me that you should not enter into a long term serious legal commitment like marriage without having sex with that person and living with them for at least a year.

Your mother is a smart, smart woman. I've always held the same belief, since you learn so much more about a person when you're living with them.

OT, for me it would really depend upon the reason. If we already had a healthy and loving relationship and then it became non-sexual, cool. If it's something that we had to work around beforehand, I don't think I'd be that ok with it.

 

[BlackSaint09]

Putting all the obvious potential problems with doing that aside and answering youre question:
Yes. If i loved her i would have nothing against waitng till we get married until we have sex.

 

[Mace Tulio]

I could survive a loving relationship, marital or otherwise without any form of sexual contact. I'm not particularly big on sex, but a relationship based on love and affection I am very comfortable in.

 

[SkellgrimOrDave]

Anyone who answers yes is a virgin.

This.

Sex is fucking wonderful, blag all you want about "emotional connections", but in the end, sex matters, and no, before you say it, none of you are assexual, you just have no libido and are almost emotionally dead.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Absolutely. Love is about more than just sex.

And a relationship is about more then love, lack of sexual intimacy is a huge indicator of something being horribly wrong.

Well I was there plenty of times and love only sustains you for so long before you start noticing your mind conjured perfect little world has some cracks and the reality behind it isn't all that pretty.

 

[blankedboy]

Gay marriage is illegal in New Zealand.
:3

 

[The-Bad-Blooded]

totally, make love, not sexual frustration (obviously not make love in the literal sense, as in, have love)

 

[Communist partisan]

If it was a person that just didn't like sex I would visit hookers, wouldn't hesitate a second.

And if I was together with some religious person talking about love and not before marriage than fuck that... I'm outta there.

 

[DeathChairOfHell]

First of all: GUARANTEED not garuanteed

OT: Well, if she has like a "no sex because of some religious/traditional reason, I'd make up a weird ass rule that she'd hate! Take THAT for compromise!

 

[ColeusRattus]

Seeing as "love" is a neat little biochemical trick of pheromones and hormones to get people to have sex with each other, having no premarital sex is quite a dumb thing.

Also, there's another point speaking against a relationship with that girl:

If she just not doing "the act", but oral sex, petting and masturbation are okay with her, she's obviously a hypocrite.
According to the bible, sex only has a procreational meaning, and any "fun" derived from it is actually sinful. So any sexual act NOT making you have babies is as much a sin as premarital sex, even if you don't penetrate her vagina.
So she can't possibly be a true devout christian, but is, to speak in internet terms, a mere religious troll.

 

[Talespinner]

I've had my share of relationships. I've been married as well. And you know, in every single one of those cases the sex lasted longer than the love. And in every case I thought it was "true" love when the relationship started. The sad truth is that you CAN NOT under any circumstances tell whether or not the relationship you're going into is going to stay a loving one. That, at least for me, makes this whole self-righteous "Relationships are about undying love" attitude extremely silly and ignorant. I can only assume that the people saying these things have never been in any real long-term relationships.

Furthermore; sex is the only thing that separates a boyfriend/girlfriend from just a very close and dear friend. I have and have had many friends that I enjoy sleeping with (sleeping; the platonic version of the word) and many friends I've trusted and loved as much as I have a partner. What made these people friends rather than lovers was that there was no sexual attraction. At least not enough to justify ruining a friendship to attempt a relationship.

Of course all this comes from the perspective of a person that find marriage a pointless and silly institution and the idea of "saving yourself" an archaic misconception from the dark ages where people rejected all logic and flocked behind preachings of phoney salvation instead.

And hell, even then I very much doubt people actually obeyed those rules...

 

[Kathinka]

i couldn't be together with such a religious nut in the first place. but even if i were: no, i couldn't stay with them. sex is too important and, let's face it, way to awesome to miss out on.

 

[Paksenarrion]

The thread title made me think of those old Men's Warehouse commercials:

I'M GEORGE ZIMMER OF MEN'S WAREHOUSE. DESPITE MY NAME AND DEEP BARITONE, MY BODY IS THAT OF A SEXY 27-YEAR OLD WOMAN. I'M NO STRANGER TO LOVE; I KNOW THE RULES, AND I'M THINKING "FULL COMMITMENT". I JUST WANT TO TELL YOU HOW I'M FEELING TO MAKE YOU UNDERSTAND. I'M NEVER GOING TO GIVE YOU UP, OR LET YOU DOWN. I'M NEVER GOING TO RUN AROUND AND DESERT YOU. I'M NEVER GOING TO MAKE YOU CRY, OR SAY GOODBYE. I'M NEVER GOING TO TELL A LIE AND HURT YOU.

BUT WE'RE ALSO NEVER GOING TO HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. I GUARANTEE IT.

 

[Biosophilogical]

I wish I wish I had kept my V card.

You can share mine, I'm not really using it for anything.

OT: Well for starters, in your case ... no, but that's more of a case of someone having blind faith, which is more of a personality flaw that I wouldn't be okay with for any great duration. Also, if you take the Topic-question, then if you both loved each other, and if sex wasn't a part of your relationship, then why do you need monogamy? I thought the whole point of a monogamous relationship was for the whole 'disease, pregnancy, social-conventions' thing. I mean, if sex isn't a part of your relationship, why should your outside sex life affect your relationship in any way? And if they loved you back, they wouldn't want you to be sexually frustrated on account of them (I don't really have much of a desire for sex (mandatory: at this point/so far), so it wouldn't really be an issue for me).

Also, why 'be with them', couldn't you just be platonic soul-mates or something? Maybe buy a house together as co-owners? Like a bromance except with someone of your sexually preferred sex (unless you are gay, at which point just take out the 'except')