Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?
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If I truly loved her, I would wait however long it took to get married to her. As long as it's not like 20 years or something crazy. Heck, my religion (not really, I don't really believe in it so much) practices premarital chastity anyways so it's not something I'm unfamiliar with.
I've posted this story in many a love thread before, and I don't see why I shouldn't now.
Relationships are more than just about sex. Love is more than just sex. A relationship is a partnership whose only condition is love. Love is undying admiration of an individual.
Sexual pleasure is a passing thing. Not to mention, there are other ways to achieve it. But a lifetime partnership lasts, well, for a lifetime. There is no other way to achieve that sort of companionship.
Relationships are more than just about sex. Love is more than just sex. A relationship is a partnership whose only condition is love. Love is undying admiration of an individual.
Sexual pleasure is a passing thing. Not to mention, there are other ways to achieve it. But a lifetime partnership lasts, well, for a lifetime. There is no other way to achieve that sort of companionship.
Considering on a personal (not religious even though my religious views support my personal views) note I don't believe in sex before marriage anymore.(long story short slept with a bunch of friends that I WAS close to and now we aren't friends anymore due to complications and such) and any relationships I get in now follow that rule.....yeah. Plus the delayed gratification thing makes it so much better. At least in my own opinion.
Also I have to agree. Much fun as it has been having sex I wish I hadn't.Paksenarrion said:
No. Absolutely not. What is the point of a relationship? Why would I promise to not have sex with anybody else if I'm not going to have sex with you either?
I can love somebody I don't have sex with. I wouldn't be in a "relationship" with them though.
I can love somebody I don't have sex with. I wouldn't be in a "relationship" with them though.
Do you know for certain if she is as a devout christian as you have said? It might be she is simply testing your commitment.Everin said:
I somehow doubt it very much that I could.
For me, sex changes everything. It's one of the biggest signs that a relationship is going somewhere.
Without it... things just don't seem proper to me.
For me, sex changes everything. It's one of the biggest signs that a relationship is going somewhere.
Without it... things just don't seem proper to me.
Absolutely NOT. But that's mainly because I know that someone that believes they'll go to hell for pre-marital sex isn't compatible with me in many other ways.
As for if there is some other reasoning for it? I dunno. Maybe, but I sure as fuck better be allowed to masturbate if there is no sex.
As for if there is some other reasoning for it? I dunno. Maybe, but I sure as fuck better be allowed to masturbate if there is no sex.
NO. Never. Not happening. I'm not marrying any guy who hasn't fucked me repeatedly, if only to prove his competence.Everin said:
My spouse and I had sex on our first date.
If someone I was dating said they wouldn't have sex until marriage, I would dump them. In fact, I did so with someone many years ago.
No sex till marriage isn't anything bad, necessarily, and I'd stay in said relationship if that were the case.
I also wouldn't mind the Christian bit.
However, if she were obsessively Christian, tried to shove it down my throat, etc, then I'd be out of there. Nothing against Christianity, I'd do the same thing to an obsessive Islamic girl, or any other religion.
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Can't stand religious crazies.
I also wouldn't mind the Christian bit.
However, if she were obsessively Christian, tried to shove it down my throat, etc, then I'd be out of there. Nothing against Christianity, I'd do the same thing to an obsessive Islamic girl, or any other religion.
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Would she do "other things" with you?Everin said:So, I've been going out with this great girl for a while and we've been spending a lot of time together and all that and we're pretty sure we're in love (i say pretty sure because nothings really taken for granted in my world) and we kiss and all that, but she's Christian and believes that pre-marital sex is sin. Now, I'm not here to complain, I'm completely fine with following her views with that, but I wondered, would other people?
If you were deeply in love with a girl/boy and you wanted to take it a step further but they didn't believe in sex before marriage then would you accept that fact or would you not want to be with them anymore? I guess the question, when it boils down, is:
WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?
Edit: I'm fine with waiting until after marriage to sleep together. In fact, I don't think the relationship needs sex, I think it would be a nice something on the side, cause that's not what I'm in it for. That's my answer
I think if you agree with her views then it is fine. But you shouldn't compromise if it is something you don't agree with and absolutely don't rush into marriage to have sex. Personally I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that because I don't agree with those values and wouldn't compromise my values.
Though I've never been in REAL love, I'd say sex is really what love is all about. The selfishness, the selflessness, the giving and taking, and the desire to be with each other.
Well and proper love, I wouldn't know. But I think sex is vital to any good relationship.
Well and proper love, I wouldn't know. But I think sex is vital to any good relationship.
I don't know if I could handle it. I'm a pretty horny person in general...
"Other things" would make it easier.khaimera said:
I myself find marriage good and bad. It is good, because the children are best brought up with everyone together. But marriage can be bad too= Humans get sick of something being repetitive. They would probably get bored of the same partner over a long time. This is my personal opinion, and i'm way too young to be thinking about marriage, so i dunno if i'm really helping in this topic.