You should try internet dating?
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Is this in Calgary? I heard something on the radio about some sort of internet love triangle gone awry this morning....but it was really early and I wasn't really listening... Is THAT what happened?TakeyB0y2 said:
I do not trust internet dating at all, end of story. As much as I hate people, I would still rather meet someone in a bar and take things from there rather than wasting more time on my computer...
Well first off leave the past when trying to find someone new, the quarrel you had was with them and it is now behind you.
Online dating... don't do it.
Dating more then anything else has an essential personal component and on the internets, well let's just say I can play the perfect girl if I decide to amuse myself.
Getting to know people is really hard even in person, on the internet it is impossible, so if you actually want to meet someone worth while put in the work that's necessary.
Online dating... don't do it.
Dating more then anything else has an essential personal component and on the internets, well let's just say I can play the perfect girl if I decide to amuse myself.
Getting to know people is really hard even in person, on the internet it is impossible, so if you actually want to meet someone worth while put in the work that's necessary.
I did it after my last breakup and actually met my current girlfriend because of it. I thought it wouldn't work too well...surprisingly it can work...depends on situation, distance, area, ect.
It's a weird thing to admit, but internet dating isn't horrible if you get lucky, though after a breakup it's a nice place to at least sit for awhile, at least it was for me
It's a weird thing to admit, but internet dating isn't horrible if you get lucky, though after a breakup it's a nice place to at least sit for awhile, at least it was for me
I've actually seen success stories with people that did online dating, but they used servies like Match.com to find a partner.
This is a new age, you are no longer confined to dating within driving distance.
This is a new age, you are no longer confined to dating within driving distance.
Oh yes, internet dating....
I like to think i'm above that, and am confident and sociable enough to meet women in real-life and strike up relationships with them. Alas i am not, and so wil probably resort to internet dating when i'm forty something and going through a mid-life crisis revolving around in what can be summed up as "forever alone".
They say lynx deodorant smells like teenage desperation, well internet dating is mature-adult desperation.
I like to think i'm above that, and am confident and sociable enough to meet women in real-life and strike up relationships with them. Alas i am not, and so wil probably resort to internet dating when i'm forty something and going through a mid-life crisis revolving around in what can be summed up as "forever alone".
They say lynx deodorant smells like teenage desperation, well internet dating is mature-adult desperation.
My current girlfriend and I can only communicate via the internets.
I met her through my friend who moved to Michigan, but I was in contact with him. I didn't use a dating site. Best people still start out as friends, just like in real life.
I met her through my friend who moved to Michigan, but I was in contact with him. I didn't use a dating site. Best people still start out as friends, just like in real life.
I'd say you should try it, but with a few notes:
- Take it to RL as soon as possible. Find a girl online, get a first impression online and then take here on a RL date. There's a lot of things you can only find out about someone in RL. Body language, touches, smiles, voices, visible emotions etc. etc. etc. All of them extremely important in relationships and you can only find out about them in RL. Find the girl online, date her in RL.
- Beware of the crazy. There's a relatively high amount of crazy online. And when dating and sex are involved, no matter how rational and logical you are, all of us tend to do some of our thinking with our cocks (or clits, although women seem to be better at pretending they don't, aided in no small way by social stigma). Have somebody you trust to tell about your dates (possibly your mom or a good friend) and tell them most everything, so that even if you're thinking with your cock (or clit) and incapable of detecting the crazy you still have someone thinking with their brains to advise you.
- Know what you want. As soon as you take it online you'll likely be confronted by a relatively high amount of people to choose from. Know which things you desire from your partner (things like similar intelligence, religion, moral views, hobbies/interests etc. and her having comfortable looks). If you know what you want you'll save yourself a lot of time and with the girls you do meet you're much more likely to get anywhere as you'll be able to act much more confident and almost nobody (male or female) enjoys having to provide the confidence for two people. Also note how I say comfortable looks and not hot looks, if you get to know somebody and genuinely like them your brain will start taking some crazy turns after a while and you will start finding her/him very attractive (by virtue of association with past good times and admirable qualities she/he possesses), unless there's something that genuinely bothers you.
- You're out to find a partner for yourself. You're not out to provide yourself as a partner for somebody else. What she thinks about you is her problem, not yours. If she doesn't see any future in you then find somebody else. Worry about whether or not they are good enough for you and being good enough includes appreciating your qualities without you having to pretend you're somebody else. Treat your dates with respect but it's your opinion that matters, they're adults and thus, presumably, able to take care of themselves.
Hope that helps somewhat, and best of luck whatever you do.
- Take it to RL as soon as possible. Find a girl online, get a first impression online and then take here on a RL date. There's a lot of things you can only find out about someone in RL. Body language, touches, smiles, voices, visible emotions etc. etc. etc. All of them extremely important in relationships and you can only find out about them in RL. Find the girl online, date her in RL.
- Beware of the crazy. There's a relatively high amount of crazy online. And when dating and sex are involved, no matter how rational and logical you are, all of us tend to do some of our thinking with our cocks (or clits, although women seem to be better at pretending they don't, aided in no small way by social stigma). Have somebody you trust to tell about your dates (possibly your mom or a good friend) and tell them most everything, so that even if you're thinking with your cock (or clit) and incapable of detecting the crazy you still have someone thinking with their brains to advise you.
- Know what you want. As soon as you take it online you'll likely be confronted by a relatively high amount of people to choose from. Know which things you desire from your partner (things like similar intelligence, religion, moral views, hobbies/interests etc. and her having comfortable looks). If you know what you want you'll save yourself a lot of time and with the girls you do meet you're much more likely to get anywhere as you'll be able to act much more confident and almost nobody (male or female) enjoys having to provide the confidence for two people. Also note how I say comfortable looks and not hot looks, if you get to know somebody and genuinely like them your brain will start taking some crazy turns after a while and you will start finding her/him very attractive (by virtue of association with past good times and admirable qualities she/he possesses), unless there's something that genuinely bothers you.
- You're out to find a partner for yourself. You're not out to provide yourself as a partner for somebody else. What she thinks about you is her problem, not yours. If she doesn't see any future in you then find somebody else. Worry about whether or not they are good enough for you and being good enough includes appreciating your qualities without you having to pretend you're somebody else. Treat your dates with respect but it's your opinion that matters, they're adults and thus, presumably, able to take care of themselves.
Hope that helps somewhat, and best of luck whatever you do.
Never tried it, probably never will.
I don't know, I just feel like it would be a waste of time if the person lives across the country, or even in another continent all together. Yeah its nice to have someone to talk to and what not, but I have never really been able to connect to people without looking at them and knowing they're real.
Call me paranoid or weird, but I need to see you - not your avatar, not your picture - to know I can trust you enough to be a friend or a significant other.
I don't know, I just feel like it would be a waste of time if the person lives across the country, or even in another continent all together. Yeah its nice to have someone to talk to and what not, but I have never really been able to connect to people without looking at them and knowing they're real.
Call me paranoid or weird, but I need to see you - not your avatar, not your picture - to know I can trust you enough to be a friend or a significant other.
at least with internet dating you can browse the persons interests and beliefs, and most sites require pictures i believe. Not that im talking from experience but im seriously considering it.
Whilst in a bar or a club and you usually dont have much to go on about the person except for what you can physically see.
Whilst in a bar or a club and you usually dont have much to go on about the person except for what you can physically see.
I supose its handy to get to look at a profile page and see if you have anything in common with the person your thinking of contacting, though its worth remembering that things universally seen as turn offs or weird/crazy won't be visible on that profile.
so i guess it will always be a bit of stab in the dark.
but as far as an idea goes i supose its as good a way to meet someone as any.
that said someone once suggested to me that i'd try it and i remember feeling vaguely insulted...
so i guess it will always be a bit of stab in the dark.
but as far as an idea goes i supose its as good a way to meet someone as any.
that said someone once suggested to me that i'd try it and i remember feeling vaguely insulted...