Your biggest turn OFF?

[TheDarkestDerp]

"Alpha" males... UGH... *rolls her eyes* those easily intimidated macho douchebags that seem to frequent every bar and club in town, insuring every drunk girl in the universe needs a wingman to block for her...

Howso easily intimidated?
Also, girls have wingmen? How do they function?
Forgive my ignorance!

Well, the kind who go out of their way to show off how very 'manly' they are. Ridiculous attire, far too much after-shave. Always butting in to any conversation to show off how very knowledgable they are, or virile if appropriate.

You need to be clear here.
Is it wrong that I interrupt two women in conversation, by offering my thoughts? I mean, they can sit there and look all pretty... Sometimes you simply have to butt in, and then ask if one of them cares to dance(or something to the like).
I mean, alright - I can actually see your point when thinking about it... But what would you propose instead?

Yes, if your thoughts or presence were never asked for or requested, it is generally considered a bit presumptory and rude to "butt in", love. Though I suppose if you did things appropriately and respectfully, "Excuse me, couldn't help overhearing but...", or just simply introduce yourself politely before jumping into other people's affairs, that sort of affair, you'd be seen as a bit more desirable, suave even, but then again, then you wouldn't be the kind of ass I'm describing.
NO, they generally are a bit more of the "show-off" type, the "manly man" who has so small and easily damaged an ego he has to make a show of every little thing he does, a display like some manner of peacock. If he's not being "Ooo'ed" and "awe'ed" at by every being in the immediate vicinity he'll go home crying to his mum. *chuckles* VERY distasteful.

Nothing wrong with asking a girl to dance though... *smiles*

Easily intimidated... *groans* The kind of jackoff that will cut the sleeves out of his shirt to give ua all a more compelling view of his chest hair and aroma... *fans the air*

What does that have to do with them being easily intimidated, though?
I agree that a lot of men need a proper sense of dress, but I don't see the relevance there

See my previous description, love. *grins* It's generally a simple display of false-confidence, the kind of thing done by lonely boys who need a good spankin' to set them straight but never will have the guts to be open to the idea. Confidence and arrogance are often easily confused by the unwary, but displays such as this are fairly obvious, and at least in America, generally tied to a specific personality type, one I find somewhat irksome.

Female wingmen? *chuckles* Not too different from males, love. Generally looking out for their partner, hleping 'em score when needed, or helping them keep from heading home with Captain DOuchebag, when they get too shnockered.

So they are a little different, then. (Wing)Men will generally never cock-block another man. Hell, even if the woman is extremely repulsive they wont - just for the laughs the next day!

Do women do that as well, though? One(the wingman) go occupy the one(s) that aren't the target for the other woman? I guess it makes sense. I'll have to see if I can spot that, from now on![/quote]

"generally Never"? Are you sure, love? I've seen many MANY times one of my male friends or lovers block his buddy from going home with an evil ex, gold-digger or a "dog". *chuckles* Women are no different in this regard to dating and hooking up with a lover. As you and I have discussed earlier, alcohol can REALLY upset one's capacity for better judgement, and a good wingman doesn't let their friend fly into a suicide mission. *chuckles* Or sail into dangerous waters... whatever analogy works best.

Egads, but I need to get someone to explain the whole "quoting" thing to me sometime. I'm sorry for the ramshackled appearance, there.

 

[Jonluw]

Oh yeah and small genitalia.

I do so hate to be this shallow but...this has been a deal-breaker once or twice in the past for me. I don't like admitting that size is that important to me, but it's pretty important, yeah.

Now you've made me curious...
If you don't mind my asking; how small is too small?

Well I'm the bottom in any given relationship I'm in, so for me "too small" would essentially mean "smaller than mine".

I imagine that could have been bothersome, were you exceptionally large.

 

[Verlander]

Conservative values, closed mindedness, and sexually, a woman who can't experiment...

 

[Wilko316]

Bland personalities, if I strike up a conversation with someone I really don't want one word answers with no other response.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

Oh yeah and small genitalia.

I do so hate to be this shallow but...this has been a deal-breaker once or twice in the past for me. I don't like admitting that size is that important to me, but it's pretty important, yeah.

Now you've made me curious...
If you don't mind my asking; how small is too small?

Well I'm the bottom in any given relationship I'm in, so for me "too small" would essentially mean "smaller than mine".

I imagine that could have been bothersome, were you exceptionally large.

Actually no. I'd be considered pretty small myself by normal standards. but I've known a few guys who talked and acted a big game but didn't 'measure up'.

 

[Jonluw]

Oh yeah and small genitalia.

I do so hate to be this shallow but...this has been a deal-breaker once or twice in the past for me. I don't like admitting that size is that important to me, but it's pretty important, yeah.

Now you've made me curious...
If you don't mind my asking; how small is too small?

Well I'm the bottom in any given relationship I'm in, so for me "too small" would essentially mean "smaller than mine".

I imagine that could have been bothersome, were you exceptionally large.

Actually no. I'd be considered pretty small myself by normal standards. but I've known a few guys who talked and acted a big game but didn't 'measure up'.

Guys who actually claimed to have large members, or just the kind of guys who act all macho?

 

[s0denone]

Yes, if your thoughts or presence were never asked for or requested, it is generally considered a bit presumptory and rude to "butt in", love. Though I suppose if you did things appropriately and respectfully, "Excuse me, couldn't help overhearing but...", or just simply introduce yourself politely before jumping into other people's affairs, that sort of affair, you'd be seen as a bit more desirable, suave even, but then again, then you wouldn't be the kind of ass I'm describing.
NO, they generally are a bit more of the "show-off" type, the "manly man" who has so small and easily damaged an ego he has to make a show of every little thing he does, a display like some manner of peacock. If he's not being "Ooo'ed" and "awe'ed" at by every being in the immediate vicinity he'll go home crying to his mum. *chuckles* VERY distasteful.

I see.
So it's alright to butt in if done in a courteous manner, instead of an arrogant, presumptuous(I'm certain you want to hear what I have to say)manner?
Glad to hear it!

But how do you make the distinction?
Can you make up an example where someone is butting into a conversation that wouldn't be rude?

Nothing wrong with asking a girl to dance though... *smiles*

I should think not!
But what about when said girl is in a discussion with someone else?
Would you consider it rude if you, while debating some sort of topic with a friend of yours, I barge in, asking you to dance?

I mean, not if I say "Hey sluts" turn to face you and say "Wanna dance?"
But if I go up to you, say "excuse me"(openly interrupting your conversation) and then ask "Want to dance?"
Would that be rude?

I think this is a unique look into the female mind, so thanks for letting me!
As much as I tell myself I know women, I have to admit I don't know you at all

See my previous description, love. *grins* It's generally a simple display of false-confidence, the kind of thing done by lonely boys who need a good spankin' to set them straight but never will have the guts to be open to the idea. Confidence and arrogance are often easily confused by the unwary, but displays such as this are fairly obvious, and at least in America, generally tied to a specific personality type, one I find somewhat irksome.

Haha "Need a good spankin' to set them straight". I will have to remember that.

I see your point here, now, so no need continuing this particular discussion.

"generally Never"? Are you sure, love? I've seen many MANY times one of my male friends or lovers block his buddy from going home with an evil ex, gold-digger or a "dog".
*chuckles* Women are no different in this regard to dating and hooking up with a lover. As you and I have discussed earlier, alcohol can REALLY upset one's capacity for better judgement, and a good wingman doesn't let their friend fly into a suicide mission. *chuckles* Or sail into dangerous waters... whatever analogy works best.

I suppose it depends entirely on your particular circle of friends(and thus wingman).
General consensus amongst me and my circle of friends is that "If you're drunk enough to go home with her, it's your own fault".

An "evil ex" I will concede. That would never be allowed to happen.
What do you mean by "gold-digger"?

Egads, but I need to get someone to explain the whole "quoting" thing to me sometime. I'm sorry for the ramshackled appearance, there.

Well, it really isn't that difficult. Type [.quote] and [./quote], without the dots, to start and end quotations. I would think it quite easy, in fact

 

[Cavouku]

I'm going to call these preferences "doors", like security doors, because I'm a horribly selective person, and I'm probably more picky than I have any right to be.

First Door; Confirmable female of approachable attractiveness. I'm not looking for supermodel, but someone I can look at and never think of being ashamed of.

Second Door; if they smoke, drink or do drugs, I can't consider them viable.

Third Door; Piercings, tattoos, eccentric clothing and other such things is kinda... it doesn't sit well with me... unless they're from some sort of ancestral tribal thing, like if she's Native, or African, or Maori, etc. I can only respect that... but I couldn't handle the African girls with long necks. My apologies.

Fourth Door; Once I've asserted that I can probably go talk to her now, personality and intelligence are the first things I try and detect. I don't need her to be brilliant, but it's a bonus, and whether smart or stupid, a likable personality is essential, and will really be the key to this relationship later on. My personal most important trait; understanding... Aaand, I know this may be backlash, but I probably couldn't handle a girl who wasn't also a fellow virgin, unless it was somehow excused with good reason (rape... I know there are others, but I cant think of any right now).

Fifth Door; Now's where my preferences come in full force. I will probably not be interested in a girl beyond eye candy or friendship unless I can confirm that she has a crush on me. For some reason, I just couldn't get into a relationship on my own terms, I have to reciprocate that. The more she's into me, in this scenario, the better.

...I think that's it. If you pass those tests, you are completely viable to be with me (for all of you girls who I know really don't care). But one problem. I already have a girlfriend, and she passed (and she's a great little thing, y'know?)

Oh well, this was fun anyways.

 

[Eisenfaust]

the question "what are you thinking?" at any stage of anything... *shudder*

 

[joshthor]

mainly: annoying. and, there is a fine line between annoying and incredibly hot.

 

[Folksoul]

smoking/drinking/other drugs.

 

[Gahars]

Girls with goth/emo/whatever dressing styles.

For whatever reason, nothing turns me off more than that (also stupidity, though both can go hand in hand)

 

[Ross Gilligan]

If they're underage.

You guys have some very odd priorities.

 

[Cuppa Tetleys]

Maybe not the biggest, those will all have been said, but a turn off for me is a girl who is glued to one of or a group of their friends; I like an independent woman with her own mind. I know some people who are constantly in contact with their friends and stay in contact with the nearly 24/7 and I find that really unattractive.

 

[Layzor]

Willys.

 

[MurderousToaster]

Enormous, bouncy, fake breasts.

Seriously, if I see a woman and their boobs shake and jiggle like jelly in a wind tunnel when they move half a foot, I'm in serious danger of being sick. There's a point where sexy ends and sickeningness begins. I'm not saying I like girls who are completely flat (bordering on paedophilia there) but I just don't want ones that look like someone strapped a spacehopper to their chest.

Oh, and people who bang on about anything. This includes people who don't shut up about: politics, religion (or lack thereof - atheists can do this too, and it can occasionally be even more irritating), people they don't like, their job, their friends, school etc. I mean, I can understand conversation just fine, but if they spend about a half hour talking at me about a trivial, pointless issue without letting me speak, I'm just walking away.

 

[Unia]

First things that popped in my head were excess use of alcohol or chemicals. By chemicals I mean hairgel/aftershave/whatever stinky synthetic crap.

Yep, things get awkward if a guy tries to impress me by wearing half a bottle of cologne. "Why am I staying by the open window? It's not you, it's...ok, it's you."

 

[badmunky64]

I immediately lose interest if a girl tells me she's a vegetarian or even worse a vegan.

 

[BlackStar42]

bolded ones I agree with unless we're talking that one that thought germany was in the US then a little seriously did she really think it was in the US

She was dead serious... Let me tell you a story!

It's Grade 10, in French class. The teacher is rambling on about his cats when a girl raises her hand. Stopping the lecture we've all heard so many times, he answers her...
"Excuse me, but I have a question... Is Germany in the United States or Canada?"
With a strange baffled look on his bearded face, the teacher says,
"It's in neither, it's a country all it's own."

Now, I'm going to interrupt this to tell you something very important about this next part... I am actually quoting the girl from this class...

"What?! That makes absolutely no sense! It has to be in either Canada or America... I mean where else could it possibly be!!!"

My relationship with the girl ended very soon after this incident.. I knew she wasn't very bright, but I had no idea she was THAT far gone...

...Oh dear God... That has to take the You Fail Geography Forever crown. The best I heard was my sister, who thought the Middle East was in Canada.