It seems like genuine insecurity and resulting jealousy to me. When we feel afraid (such as insecurity) we try to control things. We do this for various reasons, mostly because we believe the more control we have, the less likely something bad will happen -- in reality this behavior creates more problems than it could ever solve. In your specific case, it sounds like you have not had a serious relationship (or a relationship at all) before this and your anxiety and preoccupation with the idea of one is getting in the way. The knowledge that she has had in the past people who have meant something to her creates doubt and trepidation in your mind. To you, if you are the only one she has ever thought of romantically, your odds of "keeping her" increase. The thought that you may be compared to past experiences or that you may too become just another name in her past could play a major role as well.IcyEvils said:About 10 months ago, with the girl I'm still with. I told her I really liked her, she said she liked me too. I asked could I kiss her, then our lips met. It was ok, nothing huge. We've got plenty of styles now though :3
It bugs me though, even now, that I wasn't her first kiss. She says she regrets etc and wishes she'd waited for me, and some boys even managed to bite her lip and make her bleed.
Anyone know of a way to stop thinking about it? Kind of like jealousy I wasn't there first. It's ruining me, and she just feels guilty. If anyone has suggestions please say!
I made out with my brother's ex-gilfriend at his 21st birthday whilst she was engaged to another guy.Colour-Scientist said:I
So, what was your first kiss like? Was it pleasant or traumatizing? How old were you and where were you? Was the person special?
Mine was a similar age, I met her down by the river when I was going for a walk. My sisters had both gotten boyfriends around the age of 16. Being the paranoid bastard I am, I was worried they'd be all strict about the whole thing, so I kept it secret. We were sitting in the field by the river we always met in and she tapped me on the shoulder and just went for it. Was a bit surprising, and I wasn't that good at it, but I remember fondly.Colour-Scientist said:I know this thread has been done to death but I do love the stories.
Mine was when I was 12 or 13
That's fucking creepy... I'm surprised she didn't punch people who did that.IcyEvils said:some boys even managed to bite her lip and make her bleed.
That's one of the more interesting first kiss stories I've heard. Weirdly romantic sounding...ReservoirAngel said:OT: I was 18 during my first kiss, which is just embarassing. What's more embarassing though was the fact that it happened after I'd fallen over like a bumbling retard, smashed my head on the floor and apparently almost fallen into the guy's swimming pool. Woke up after a short while and the pathetic conversation that followed lead to that first kiss.
Then I ended up in hospital afterwards. Apparently smacking your skull on tiled flooring at high speed isn't too good for you.
Kopikatsu said:I'm 19 (Almost 20), and I still haven't had a first kiss yet. Such is the price of being a level 30 Warlock in Modern d20. (EPIC LEVELS.)