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I have a big imagination that I'm disappointed in myself that I cannot live up to.
I'm incredibly fearful of old age.
Not good with crowds.
Loud places make me sleepy.
Ridiculously nervous around girls.
Fighting depression for 2 years, finally resorted to anti-depressants.
Ashamed of terrible things I've done to other people in the past, even though terrible to me can be small.
I want to try to be friends with everyone, even though my friends don't usually get along with eachother or the people I'm trying to get along with are completely different from me.
Massive stints of Anxiety.
I want to be the person that cares about everyone but life seems to have beaten that out of me.
I have trouble focusing my willpower even though I have a massive amount of it.
I'm going to stop now this is depressing...
I'm incredibly fearful of old age.
Not good with crowds.
Loud places make me sleepy.
Ridiculously nervous around girls.
Fighting depression for 2 years, finally resorted to anti-depressants.
Ashamed of terrible things I've done to other people in the past, even though terrible to me can be small.
I want to try to be friends with everyone, even though my friends don't usually get along with eachother or the people I'm trying to get along with are completely different from me.
Massive stints of Anxiety.
I want to be the person that cares about everyone but life seems to have beaten that out of me.
I have trouble focusing my willpower even though I have a massive amount of it.
I'm going to stop now this is depressing...
Ha.
Well, For two reasons I wont state something that is that negative.
According to a few people, I am "Too" good. I am principled, moral, you name it. I always choose the right path, even if it is incredibly painful. I try and act like a gentleman. Always. I have been called "The perfect boyfriend", whilst I was at college my partner and I were "That couple". In conversations we would be brought up as the couple that works, I have genuinely heard people say "I wish you were more like [redacted] sometimes" or "I wish we could be more like [redacted] and [redacted], they never fight".
This is a flaw cause it does make my life a living hell sometimes, has destroyed more then one relationship, killed someone I loved (Literally. Or at least my inaction/action that I chose lead to her death). But oh well, its me. It also massively inflated my ego for a few years. And meant when the inevitable mental breakdown appeared, well, I did not have that many people around me. When some lies about me appeared (Just before the breakdown and a major factor within the breakdown) they were believed simply because I always act in such an honorable way, if I can, so I must be hiding something big.
This leads on to a second problem. Because I act in such a manner and will help out anyone who needs it I seem to attract a kind of person that NEEDS help. This has meant that as of yet all of my relationships have been difficult and ended very, very badly. Its not that I am "Preying" on these poor men and women, its that I don't want to make them sad so I try and avoid saying no. Which causes problems in the long run.
Well, For two reasons I wont state something that is that negative.
According to a few people, I am "Too" good. I am principled, moral, you name it. I always choose the right path, even if it is incredibly painful. I try and act like a gentleman. Always. I have been called "The perfect boyfriend", whilst I was at college my partner and I were "That couple". In conversations we would be brought up as the couple that works, I have genuinely heard people say "I wish you were more like [redacted] sometimes" or "I wish we could be more like [redacted] and [redacted], they never fight".
This is a flaw cause it does make my life a living hell sometimes, has destroyed more then one relationship, killed someone I loved (Literally. Or at least my inaction/action that I chose lead to her death). But oh well, its me. It also massively inflated my ego for a few years. And meant when the inevitable mental breakdown appeared, well, I did not have that many people around me. When some lies about me appeared (Just before the breakdown and a major factor within the breakdown) they were believed simply because I always act in such an honorable way, if I can, so I must be hiding something big.
This leads on to a second problem. Because I act in such a manner and will help out anyone who needs it I seem to attract a kind of person that NEEDS help. This has meant that as of yet all of my relationships have been difficult and ended very, very badly. Its not that I am "Preying" on these poor men and women, its that I don't want to make them sad so I try and avoid saying no. Which causes problems in the long run.
For a lot of reasons, I'm pretty insecure about my own ability, as such I tend to take too much on and get anxious if it's not perfect.
Usually I can pull it off, but I'm always stressing out from worry and workload.
Usually I can pull it off, but I'm always stressing out from worry and workload.
Horribly Unmotivated: I know I have stuff to do, I know I really need to do it. And then I just don't.
Sensitive: I think I have a bad habit of taking things personally. A friend hasn't spoken to me in a week? Obviously they hate me, and I'm a terrible person for letting it happen.
Mental Issues: I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety (though by this point, that seems to be common place .__.). Neither of them cause me that much trouble any more, but sometimes I have little episodes.
Unattractive: And I know it.
It hurts my self esteem and even on good days, when I think I look decent, the sight of a pretty girl crushes it completely. Makes it difficult for me to accept compliments from anyone.
Untidy: lolsobad. I think I'm getting a little better with this though.
Unassertive: I have opinions and thoughts and feelings, but there's not a cat in hell's chance of me expressing these most of the time because I always expect to be put down and belittled for what I think.
Untrusting: I don't trust people easily at all. If someone tries to be friendly towards me, I regard them with unbridled suspicion until time and persistence convinces me they're not actually a twat. It doesn't happen often.
There's a ton more, but I can't think of them right now.
Sensitive: I think I have a bad habit of taking things personally. A friend hasn't spoken to me in a week? Obviously they hate me, and I'm a terrible person for letting it happen.
Mental Issues: I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety (though by this point, that seems to be common place .__.). Neither of them cause me that much trouble any more, but sometimes I have little episodes.
Unattractive: And I know it.
It hurts my self esteem and even on good days, when I think I look decent, the sight of a pretty girl crushes it completely. Makes it difficult for me to accept compliments from anyone.Untidy: lolsobad. I think I'm getting a little better with this though.
Unassertive: I have opinions and thoughts and feelings, but there's not a cat in hell's chance of me expressing these most of the time because I always expect to be put down and belittled for what I think.
Untrusting: I don't trust people easily at all. If someone tries to be friendly towards me, I regard them with unbridled suspicion until time and persistence convinces me they're not actually a twat. It doesn't happen often.
There's a ton more, but I can't think of them right now.
I lack confidence and live in fear of failure.
Whats worst is I compensate with a narcissistic "Barney-esc" like attitude where I'm awesome.
Generally it helps quite a bit when going for a job interview, not so much in a day to day life.
Whats worst is I compensate with a narcissistic "Barney-esc" like attitude where I'm awesome.
Generally it helps quite a bit when going for a job interview, not so much in a day to day life.
I am both incredibly arrogant and yet have massive self-esteem issues.
Paradox wins automatically.
Basically it's all about how I perceive myself vs how other people perceive me and whether I am aware of their perception. I can brag all say long about how amazing a writer I am, or how great a guitarist/singer, or what a moving actor I can be.
Then someone actually comes up to me and says 'wow, that was a really good set you just played. You're a great guitarist!' And I immediately fold in on myself and start mumbling something indistinct before escaping out of the pub.
I can shrug off criticism, and I can boast about myself, but I absolutely cannot accept compliments. Years of high school bullying left me with a sense of deep unease whenever someone says something nice, because I assume they're about to do or say something truly horrible to me after lulling me into a false sense of security.
Paradox wins automatically.
Basically it's all about how I perceive myself vs how other people perceive me and whether I am aware of their perception. I can brag all say long about how amazing a writer I am, or how great a guitarist/singer, or what a moving actor I can be.
Then someone actually comes up to me and says 'wow, that was a really good set you just played. You're a great guitarist!' And I immediately fold in on myself and start mumbling something indistinct before escaping out of the pub.
I can shrug off criticism, and I can boast about myself, but I absolutely cannot accept compliments. Years of high school bullying left me with a sense of deep unease whenever someone says something nice, because I assume they're about to do or say something truly horrible to me after lulling me into a false sense of security.
I'd say I've got a fair few.
Incredibly lazy/ no motivation
Wasting my potential as I'm apparently incredibly smart I just don't do anything with it
Extremely detached from reality.
Egotistical, I view myself as the most intelligent person on the planet yet know I'm not because if I was I would have gotten better than D in English at A-Level but I deny this with false reasoning that a piece of paper can't tell me how smart I am.
Hypocrit, long term mostly. Due to my short attention span my opinions on things can change in about 3 weeks.
My most glaring flaw is my constant lying. I enjoy altering what people think I do compared to what I'm actually like and this spawned from years of bullying where I craved any attention and saw how easy it was to manipulate people.
Incredibly lazy/ no motivation
Wasting my potential as I'm apparently incredibly smart I just don't do anything with it
Extremely detached from reality.
Egotistical, I view myself as the most intelligent person on the planet yet know I'm not because if I was I would have gotten better than D in English at A-Level but I deny this with false reasoning that a piece of paper can't tell me how smart I am.
Hypocrit, long term mostly. Due to my short attention span my opinions on things can change in about 3 weeks.
My most glaring flaw is my constant lying. I enjoy altering what people think I do compared to what I'm actually like and this spawned from years of bullying where I craved any attention and saw how easy it was to manipulate people.
I let people treat me like crap and talk down to me without sticking up for myself.
I realise this is a much bigger problem when it comes to relationships, but when I love someone, they could treat me like crap or beat me and I'd probably apologise for making their knuckles hurt from punching me.
Absolutely no back-bone and usually back down from fights or confrontations. I'm trying to stop that and not be such a doormat but it's difficult.
I also haven't learned to stop making people my everything because when they fuck off (like they always do) I'm left with nothing.
I realise this is a much bigger problem when it comes to relationships, but when I love someone, they could treat me like crap or beat me and I'd probably apologise for making their knuckles hurt from punching me.
Absolutely no back-bone and usually back down from fights or confrontations. I'm trying to stop that and not be such a doormat but it's difficult.
I also haven't learned to stop making people my everything because when they fuck off (like they always do) I'm left with nothing.
I'm a terrible procrastinator, I can be rather condescending at times, I'm rather easily irritated (though slow to anger), and I'm terrible at social interaction with people I don't know very well, and can come across as rude in my nervousness.
Wow. I'm the same, apart from the bullying.MelasZepheos said:
I'm not arrogant enough. I recently stepped up my arrogance, and discovered that what I think of as focusing too much on myself in conversation, or bragging, is actually perfectly normal.
Got an interesting thought for why that is, actually. Because I'm fucking amazing at everything.[footnote]Apart from League of Legends. I'm shit at that.[/footnote] Sport, academics, public speaking, juggling, I could go on. So really, the only thing that could go wrong, the only reason anybody would dislike me, was if I was arrogant. Now, because that's the only problem, I focused on it a lot, and sort of crushed my own confidence.
Then again, could be making things up there.
I care too much about what others think of me.piinyouri said:
I always second guess myself.
I am insecure in my thoughts, so whenever someone talks to me about their point of view with even a modicum of confidence, I start to wonder if I've been wrong about everything.
I can be lazy/apathetic.
I can get angry and frustrated with the stupidest stuff.
I can be emotionally cold sometimes.
I criticize others as a means to shield my own fragile ego.
I use sarcasm for humour for the same reason above.
I can be stubborn.
I am slow to apologise for things I do wrong, again to maintain my ego.
Loads more but I can't be bothered posting them.
I'm lazy, lack motivaction and impatience at time (I'm patience when it come to waiting or model making). Those trait pretty much the reason why I gave up on trying to draw comicbook stuff.
Some say I'm a bit too self-deprecating. I wouldn't go so far as to say that, but I'm definitely not the type to talk myself up.
I find it hard to get motivated to do things that I'm not immediately interested in. Unfortunately, most of school was something I wasn't immediately interested in, resulting in some spectacularly average marks.
I can have an incredibly short temper, a trait passed on from my Dad.
I'm more scared of rejection than I aught to be, not just in the realm of love but also in my creative endeavours- I'm usually reluctant to show anybody things I've created out of the fear of my work being judged too harshly.
I find it hard to get motivated to do things that I'm not immediately interested in. Unfortunately, most of school was something I wasn't immediately interested in, resulting in some spectacularly average marks.
I can have an incredibly short temper, a trait passed on from my Dad.
I'm more scared of rejection than I aught to be, not just in the realm of love but also in my creative endeavours- I'm usually reluctant to show anybody things I've created out of the fear of my work being judged too harshly.
I procrastinate too much. It takes me ages to get into a project, though once I actually start it then I stick with it until it's done. It's the only way I've been able to carry on my Katawa Shoujo fanfic - regularly going back and doing it instead of leaving it for a while, and losing interest (then again, I am finally invested in it as opposed to my previous projects). When I start something I'm usually good at it, but it just takes me a massive running leap before I actually start...