I'm gonna take the chivalrous route and say that I (the man) must pay. This is not because I don't think women can't pay, because I know they can, but it just seems right to do so. It's the gentlemanly thing to do.
You're a guy on a date. Who pays?
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Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I always pay, never even think about it.
This makes sense to me. I'm always doing the asking anywayTestECull said:
I always pay. I've had a couple small arguments with girls, who said they wanted to pay all/half, but I don't like that.
Whenever I take my girlfriend out, I always keep it in my mind to be the one to pay, but she always insists on paying for her own meals. I'm totally fine with that. However, I can't think of a single girl I've dated who hasn't done the same. I've never been on a date where the girl made me pay for any of her stuff.
Also, I like the "Whoever initiated the date" idea, but if I was asked out, I'd think that I'm only paying for my half.
Also, I like the "Whoever initiated the date" idea, but if I was asked out, I'd think that I'm only paying for my half.
That is the biggest load of bullshit I've ever read... well the first and last part.The Gnome King said:The "*****" always, always pays. Sometimes that's the guy, sometimes that's the girl.
Otherwise, unless you're in a serious relationship or doing a "hey I'll get lunch this time, you get it next time" - go dutch.
Women don't need their meals paid for by men in this day and age. There are more employed women in the US and in college than men right now, FYI.
Paying for a woman's meals and trying too hard is a sure way to get booted into "friend" status from "potential alpha male-boyfriend-lover" status.
You'd think that with the economy still in shambles, money would be a greater representation of power than it once was. What else screams 'provider' than a guy who is willing to cover an expensive meal like it was nothing? It has nothing to do with being a ***** or not. It shows that you are comfortable with your money. You'd probably look like more of a ***** if you never paid for her meal, or even got her to pay for your meal. One of my good friends has this problem. His exes all say the same thing. "He never really stepped up as a man financially."
Paying for a woman's meal is not trying too hard. Some women still appreciate the sentiment. And you can drop the whole 'friend-zone', 'alpha-male' garbage. The alpha mentality is used by people who are too insecure or stupid to be themselves around women and need to adopt someone else's methods to stand a chance at relationships. By your logic, I'd be friend zoned by a good 85% of my dates. If many of them didn't lead to a fun night in their bedroom or mine, it lead to a decent or strong relationship. Maybe a failure rate of 10% where nothing happens or we become friends. Still, nothing that would convince me to change my approach.
I usually pay for at least part of it. I usually pay for her movie tickets and stuff, and she pays her own food.
I pay not because it's expected of me, but rather because its a nice thing to do, especially considering she pays rent, and I still live with my parents (I have way more disposable income).
I pay not because it's expected of me, but rather because its a nice thing to do, especially considering she pays rent, and I still live with my parents (I have way more disposable income).
Guy should pay, reguardless. I don't know if that's old fashioned, or whatever. But pride in being a guy/respect for the lady should make you want to pay. Now if they want to go Dutch, then yes, do that.. But only if they offer
I'd say split it evenly but if I were feeling gentlemanly or just trying to get with the girl I'd pay.
I usually end up paying. Because my subconscious wants to play the 'gentleman' card. It's bloody expensive... Sigh
This. My girlfriend and I usually each pay half, but when one of us offers to pay in full, the other typically obliges.TehCookie said:
Going dutch makes life soooo much easier. Less fighting, and then comes the time where she dosnt have enough, it always happens latter on.(For those of you who dont know what that is, its you pay for YOUR food, tickets ect.)
i will offer if i have the money but if i don't i will usually turn down a date. now if we both have the money and she speaks up and says she will pay, i will play it off but soon back off and know she paid and if the relationship goes anywhere i will keep it in mind so i will make sure that it cant be held over my head down the line
For me it depends on who asks out who.
If she asks you then she pays, if you ask her then you pay. If you end up going for someone who is often too shy to ask you (or vice versa) then you either split it 50/50, do rock paper scissors or just swap who pays for every date after that (I.E- 1st: You, 2nd: Her, 3rd: You, 4th: Her, etc.)
If she asks you then she pays, if you ask her then you pay. If you end up going for someone who is often too shy to ask you (or vice versa) then you either split it 50/50, do rock paper scissors or just swap who pays for every date after that (I.E- 1st: You, 2nd: Her, 3rd: You, 4th: Her, etc.)
Oddly, rarely been out on dates... what few I've been on, whoever has the money, I guess (sometimes me, sometimes her, if both, we split).
