A question for our non-smoking, non-drinking, non-recreational-drugs-using, romance seeking Escapees
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It's simple.
I like my life right now, and I'm happy with it. (I'm not doing the "Hollywood Love" or "Saving myself for someone" thing, but I'm not going to go around having casual sex with every female I meet.)
Anyway, I'm fine with my life right now, and while it's true that things like drinking and smoking can be more fun (I wouldn't know from experience), there are a million better ways to have more fun. I enjoy some sports, I enjoy hanging out with friends, I enjoy writing, listening to music, and playing guitar. The list goes on and on. Most pastimes you enjoy are about equally fun and satisfying. I might enjoy smoking or drinking, but I'd also enjoy other things, and other things are better for your health and intelligence.
TLDR: Lots of things are fun. Out of all the things you could chose to have fun doing, why would you chose those 2?
I like my life right now, and I'm happy with it. (I'm not doing the "Hollywood Love" or "Saving myself for someone" thing, but I'm not going to go around having casual sex with every female I meet.)
Anyway, I'm fine with my life right now, and while it's true that things like drinking and smoking can be more fun (I wouldn't know from experience), there are a million better ways to have more fun. I enjoy some sports, I enjoy hanging out with friends, I enjoy writing, listening to music, and playing guitar. The list goes on and on. Most pastimes you enjoy are about equally fun and satisfying. I might enjoy smoking or drinking, but I'd also enjoy other things, and other things are better for your health and intelligence.
TLDR: Lots of things are fun. Out of all the things you could chose to have fun doing, why would you chose those 2?
I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. But I have no problem with people that do, I mainly don't for health reasons (Free-running and MMA). But I am incredibly happy... Also, I am happy being single because I don't have a ***** holding me down, I've had a lot of girlfriends that are nothing but trouble. It's not the big parties, raves, drugs, or alcohol that makes me happy. It's the small things, sitting outside under the porch in the rain makes me more happy than any substance ever will. I think free-running has also helped me along the way, nothing beats watching the sun rise early in the morning on top of a 3 story building. I personally think you're the one missing out on the true pleasures of life.
I know what I want out of life. I want to tell stories, I want people to read them, I want to get paid for it, and I want to love a woman. There are many other, secondary goals, which I'm working towards at my own pace. And of course there are pointless side trips, like gaming and doodling, because everything can't be important.
I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, because I'm afraid those things could get in the way of my goals. I don't want drugs or alcohol to control my life--and before you say, "It doesn't control mine," or, "I know plenty of people who can do that stuff in moderation," for every person who can control their drug intakes and keep an even keel there's somebody else who gets consumed entirely. It ain't worth the risk, especially since I'm not convinced those things can give me anything I can't get somewhere else.
I do cut loose. I get out on dance floors, and binge on jellybeans, and randomly throw out my most closely guarded secrets. I don't need drugs or alcohol for that.
As far as sex goes, I am legitimately not interested in casual sex. I'm not saying that as some kind of high-minded evolved superbeing guru type--I'm still sexual, and manage those urges in the traditional method, but the thought of having sex with a woman just because I find her attractive is unappealing to me. Not repulsive, just...unappealing. The thought of having sex with a woman I love is somewhat more inspiring, but I haven't met the right woman yet. I'm not abstaining because I'm scared of sex, or because I think it's the right thing to do, or because I think it will keep me morally pure--and I'm not doing it because I don't think I could get a girl, although I've honestly never met anyone who'd motivate me to try. I just don't particularly want to, just like I don't particularly want to take a sewing class or learn Portuguese or watch an Italian soap opera. Not wanting to do those things doesn't make me feel superior, and I've got nothing against anyone who indulges in them, but there's nothing that'd motivate me to try them either.
I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, because I'm afraid those things could get in the way of my goals. I don't want drugs or alcohol to control my life--and before you say, "It doesn't control mine," or, "I know plenty of people who can do that stuff in moderation," for every person who can control their drug intakes and keep an even keel there's somebody else who gets consumed entirely. It ain't worth the risk, especially since I'm not convinced those things can give me anything I can't get somewhere else.
I do cut loose. I get out on dance floors, and binge on jellybeans, and randomly throw out my most closely guarded secrets. I don't need drugs or alcohol for that.
As far as sex goes, I am legitimately not interested in casual sex. I'm not saying that as some kind of high-minded evolved superbeing guru type--I'm still sexual, and manage those urges in the traditional method, but the thought of having sex with a woman just because I find her attractive is unappealing to me. Not repulsive, just...unappealing. The thought of having sex with a woman I love is somewhat more inspiring, but I haven't met the right woman yet. I'm not abstaining because I'm scared of sex, or because I think it's the right thing to do, or because I think it will keep me morally pure--and I'm not doing it because I don't think I could get a girl, although I've honestly never met anyone who'd motivate me to try. I just don't particularly want to, just like I don't particularly want to take a sewing class or learn Portuguese or watch an Italian soap opera. Not wanting to do those things doesn't make me feel superior, and I've got nothing against anyone who indulges in them, but there's nothing that'd motivate me to try them either.
I'm quite happy.
And even with your addendums, you sound rather like a self-important prick. Might be my imagination, though.
And even with your addendums, you sound rather like a self-important prick. Might be my imagination, though.
My life is very boring why thank you. Skydiving, Sword Fighting, Bike Rides along Death Road... ok no I don't actually do any of that, but I'm really at a loss on why you think anyone who doesn't drink, do drugs, or has lots of casual sex is having a boring life.
What you're asking is basically the same as me asking "If you're not an Artist, is your life empty because of it?" Just because it's your idea of fun doesn't mean it's mine, I find my fun and happiness elsewhere.
All the activities you mention tend to be very social things (excluding the sex), those are not the only things you can do to have fun in a social setting I'm sure you realize. Someone who goes out and dances every night I'm sure is having a grand time in a social setting without needing to do any of the activities you mention, I would say they'd be having a fun, happy night.
For me, I don't do any of that and I actually think I'm more normal for it. I embrace my happiness, fight my depression, and have fun without the need for mind-altering chemicals. I'm not for casual sex with strangers, only with people I'm well acquainted withNot that I've had any yet, but that's beside the point.. And Alcohol, be it Wine, Beer, or Rum, I would only drink on occasion or for the taste. Like I said, I really don't like the idea of frequently drinking a chemical known to impair brain function in even minor doses.
So to answer your question, I am Normal. I deal with my problems and can be very happy with my life despite my choice to avoid assistance from hazardous chemicals and no-strings-attached sex.
They aren't Magic Keys to fun.
What you're asking is basically the same as me asking "If you're not an Artist, is your life empty because of it?" Just because it's your idea of fun doesn't mean it's mine, I find my fun and happiness elsewhere.
All the activities you mention tend to be very social things (excluding the sex), those are not the only things you can do to have fun in a social setting I'm sure you realize. Someone who goes out and dances every night I'm sure is having a grand time in a social setting without needing to do any of the activities you mention, I would say they'd be having a fun, happy night.
For me, I don't do any of that and I actually think I'm more normal for it. I embrace my happiness, fight my depression, and have fun without the need for mind-altering chemicals. I'm not for casual sex with strangers, only with people I'm well acquainted withNot that I've had any yet, but that's beside the point.. And Alcohol, be it Wine, Beer, or Rum, I would only drink on occasion or for the taste. Like I said, I really don't like the idea of frequently drinking a chemical known to impair brain function in even minor doses.
So to answer your question, I am Normal. I deal with my problems and can be very happy with my life despite my choice to avoid assistance from hazardous chemicals and no-strings-attached sex.
They aren't Magic Keys to fun.
I get high on life.
I've been pretty straightedge.....except for that one time....whoo, boy. Let's just say I was in a predicament that involved being chained to a steering wheel,naked, with a dozen prostitutes in my car, a bag of cocaine in my lap and a dwarf dressed in S&M gear. What an odd night....
Actually, I don't do anything like that at all. I have to say, I've enjoyed watching people actually live the "party, fun, ploop, flarp" life. I've been amused as the kids in my school frantically try to smoke a cigarette during school and not get caught, not knowing that they reek of smoke. I've seen people do coke off of a pool table at a party. I don't know who they were, they must have a fetish for pool tables. The point is: I don't need anything of those sorts. The people I know take those drugs just to feel pleasure, completely unknowing how moronic they look and how these drugs could possibly destroy their lives. I've seen far too many people fucked over because of drugs, like dropping out of school a few months before graduation. I also tell kids that smoke "I hope you enjoy dying in a hospital bed hooked up to a machine and barely breathing to stay alive, living each day in extreme agony and pain, wishing for the sweet embrace of death". Their response: "I don't care. I'm not 60 yet". There's absolutely no way of getting to people. This anti-drug message brought to you courtesy of Tagball Inc.
As for the sex...I'm a total stud at my
height.
I've been pretty straightedge.....except for that one time....whoo, boy. Let's just say I was in a predicament that involved being chained to a steering wheel,naked, with a dozen prostitutes in my car, a bag of cocaine in my lap and a dwarf dressed in S&M gear. What an odd night....
Actually, I don't do anything like that at all. I have to say, I've enjoyed watching people actually live the "party, fun, ploop, flarp" life. I've been amused as the kids in my school frantically try to smoke a cigarette during school and not get caught, not knowing that they reek of smoke. I've seen people do coke off of a pool table at a party. I don't know who they were, they must have a fetish for pool tables. The point is: I don't need anything of those sorts. The people I know take those drugs just to feel pleasure, completely unknowing how moronic they look and how these drugs could possibly destroy their lives. I've seen far too many people fucked over because of drugs, like dropping out of school a few months before graduation. I also tell kids that smoke "I hope you enjoy dying in a hospital bed hooked up to a machine and barely breathing to stay alive, living each day in extreme agony and pain, wishing for the sweet embrace of death". Their response: "I don't care. I'm not 60 yet". There's absolutely no way of getting to people. This anti-drug message brought to you courtesy of Tagball Inc.
As for the sex...I'm a total stud at my
5"3'
height.
i dont drink(underage)
I dont smoke, but i dont see anything wrong with social smoking of drinking, if legally allowed to.
As for drugs, no, ive have/had friends that use and in a few cases it has ended up badly.
Sex, i don't see anything wrong with casual sex, but i do think you should know the person atleast a tad bit.
I am happy, actually i recently relized that living your life unhappily or worrying about meaningless stuff is stupid. The universe is so big and old. Our lifetime compared to the age of the universe is like a drop of water in the ocean. So find ways to be happy however you choose to live, as others in the thread have said. Remember smiling uses less muscles then frowning, therefore it is easier.
I dont smoke, but i dont see anything wrong with social smoking of drinking, if legally allowed to.
As for drugs, no, ive have/had friends that use and in a few cases it has ended up badly.
Sex, i don't see anything wrong with casual sex, but i do think you should know the person atleast a tad bit.
I am happy, actually i recently relized that living your life unhappily or worrying about meaningless stuff is stupid. The universe is so big and old. Our lifetime compared to the age of the universe is like a drop of water in the ocean. So find ways to be happy however you choose to live, as others in the thread have said. Remember smiling uses less muscles then frowning, therefore it is easier.
I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, I've never had sex, and I'm not even dating anyone currently. I'm one of the happiest people I know. I absolutely love my life.
I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I've never had sex, and I'm not even dating anyone currently, and I think I'm one of the happiest people I know. I love my life.
Hmm. Drugs should never be an outlet to happiness. One should always feel happy and secure in their life before even approaching such things, to enjoy them on a level that isn't so much an escape, but a simple experience.
Granted, I've tried some things that took my concept of "happiness" to an unprecedented level. But, er, aiming to stay there would be an unhealthy pursuit. It wasn't an escape, but it was surely a ride I'm glad I participated in. Same with... experiencing an alternate take on reality. I wasn't seeking to escape reality, but to simply see how much it can bend. Also, very enlightening experiences. Turns out, reality is entirely subjective, and easily fooled.
On that note, this thread initially came across rather badly, I gotta say. One should never measure the comfort of their lives and what they enjoy against that of others. If you're happy living a certain lifestyle, ride it for all it's worth. But never compare it against another's concept of a happy life and be concerned that it can't possibly measure up to your own. That's a rather clear sign of insecurity, in my opinion.
Granted, I've tried some things that took my concept of "happiness" to an unprecedented level. But, er, aiming to stay there would be an unhealthy pursuit. It wasn't an escape, but it was surely a ride I'm glad I participated in. Same with... experiencing an alternate take on reality. I wasn't seeking to escape reality, but to simply see how much it can bend. Also, very enlightening experiences. Turns out, reality is entirely subjective, and easily fooled.
On that note, this thread initially came across rather badly, I gotta say. One should never measure the comfort of their lives and what they enjoy against that of others. If you're happy living a certain lifestyle, ride it for all it's worth. But never compare it against another's concept of a happy life and be concerned that it can't possibly measure up to your own. That's a rather clear sign of insecurity, in my opinion.
Gotta say that this made me smile. I can so relate....different issue..same effect.RaphaelsRedemption said:
OT: I don't smoke (my lungs couldn't handle it). I don't drink (well, not much anyway. I don't consider a glass of wine once every couple of weeks, drinking). I have been drunk before and discovered that I have more fun when I'm sober. Never did sleep around though- had no desire to.... and don't regret it. As for drugs... I'm on enough crap to keep me alive- I don't want to mess with anything that can screw that up.
So, am I happy? Generally, yeah. But today was a good day. Ask me again tomorrow
Yea...kinda bored and unfulfilled. But I think that's more from me not "getting in the game" (dating if you can even call it that anymore) earlier on and the long drawn out process of getting a PhD before I get to touch a real job. Plus I have other vices to comfort me: hot sauce, Mt. Dew, junk food, this one's a given but won't mention it, and videogames. None of which are illegal afaik and will kill me no quicker than your aforementioned ones. Except junk food. Yea I'm a dead man walking
I don't smoke because the higher-ups are always raising the price of things like cigarettes.
I don't drink because being drunk sucks (firsthand experience). Also I can't legally buy alcohol until tomorrow.
I don't do recreational drugs because they're expensive and most jobs drug test their employees.
I don't believe in romance. Plus I'm a ghost to females and ugly to boot.
All in all, the OP would kill himself if her were to live my life. No, I'm not happy.
I don't drink because being drunk sucks (firsthand experience). Also I can't legally buy alcohol until tomorrow.
I don't do recreational drugs because they're expensive and most jobs drug test their employees.
I don't believe in romance. Plus I'm a ghost to females and ugly to boot.
All in all, the OP would kill himself if her were to live my life. No, I'm not happy.
I don't really get out much.
I've drank a few times, it's great to do with some friends, just chilling out.
Never smoked pot, but I'm not adverse to doing so (I'm still kinda on the fence about drugs that have negative side-effects).
Never smoked, but again, I'm not adverse to doing so. Tobacco smoke smells pretty good to me.
Never had sex, and of course I'm not adverse to doing so. I'd rather be in a relationship and having sex than just having it with random strangers, though.
All in all, though, I'm a pretty damn happy guy. I blame video games.
I've drank a few times, it's great to do with some friends, just chilling out.
Never smoked pot, but I'm not adverse to doing so (I'm still kinda on the fence about drugs that have negative side-effects).
Never smoked, but again, I'm not adverse to doing so. Tobacco smoke smells pretty good to me.
Never had sex, and of course I'm not adverse to doing so. I'd rather be in a relationship and having sex than just having it with random strangers, though.
All in all, though, I'm a pretty damn happy guy. I blame video games.
I go hiking, sky diving, run ragged in different and new places all the time, have sex in a commited relationship all the time, and feel good doing all of it.So how is it boring? I think to each their own mostly but honestly sometimes i tihnk the people who need drugs and drinking every weekend along with smoking are probably at least partially doing it to liven up their lives because otherwise it would a boring one when it doesn't have to be,(and no i'm not saying that is always the case but i've seen enough ppl i know do it to know its a factor)Go do something random and new, sink ships, adventure wildly, meet new people and always smile when you can and no, a life without that stuff can be rather epic all on it's own.
It means seeing if any females are available and willing.Jonatron said:
Usually only rotten apples fall, aka nothing.