A question to you asexual people.

[Dogstile]

I see you, yes you with the hat, and the diabolical moustache! You! You define yourself as an asexual yes? Now I must ask you, have you ever been "intimate" with anyone. In my personal experience many of my asexual friends haven't ever had sex and say they don't have interest in it. That's completely fine as if I was of the "try it before you judge" camp I would have tried weed.

But many of their arguments for not being interested seem based on some horror story of people catching some horrible disease or getting terribly hurt by a sexual relationship and it makes me sad that these story's have made people decide not to try this delicious spice of life.

So asexual people, have you "done the deed"?

Edit: I realise this may be a silly question

 

[BlumiereBleck]

They have probably not conceded. In my theory they just say they're asexual cause some girls find it sweet.

 

[Private Custard]

They have probably not conceded. In my theory they just say they're asexual cause some girls find it sweet.

You can't really generalise like that.

On the one hand, you could be correct. On the other hand, your theory is totally and utterly fucking wrong.

In my case, it's the latter!

 

[Riku'sTwilight]

You commented on my thread so I thought it only fair to comment on yours.

Yes I have been intimate with people, not all the way intimate but intimate enough. It was precisely because of being intimate with people that I realised it wasn't for me

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I cannot answer as I am heterosexual. I do have a question to post here though:

There are significant biological, mental and physiological drives towards sexuality. Would you asexual individuals say you are experiencing extra stress because of your choice?

[sub]Just curious, that's all.[/sub]

 

[Tharwen]

I have another question!

Do you find people physically unattractive, or is it just the act of sex itself that you don't like?

 

[Lieju]

There's also the fact that many young people think they are supposed to feel sexual feelings way younger than their biology does, and when they don't, they define themselves as asexual.
I heard of a case where a 13-year old girl was worried there was something wrong with her, since she wasn't interested in sex.

I started to have sexual feelings relatively late, when I was well over 20. That seems to be the way it is in our family, many of my relatives are the same way.

So I'm saying asexual people might become interested in these things later, and some people who have told me they were asexual were very young, so that might change.

Of course it might go the other way as well, and when you become older, you might become less interested in sex.

 

[vxicepickxv]

Yes, I've tried it, with several different people, because sometimes you can just have bad sex, and then enjoy it with someone else.

As for physical attraction standards, some people are physically unattractive, and some are attractive. At least that's how it is for me. Of course, I'm trying to find an asexual woman that I could probably share an emotional relationship with, as we can still have emotional relationship, without a physical one.

 

[_Janny_]

Hmmm, how about you think of it this way: you're a straight guy, right? And you say you're not interested in other men. How can you dismiss it until you've tried?

So you don't have to try everything in order to be sure of something. IMO, anyway.

 

[Antitonic]

So asexual people, have you "done the deed"?

Edit: I realise this may be a silly question

No. Nor do I wish to. As I've stated in previous topics, the thought of it makes me ill. If I wanted a life experience that would induce vomiting I'd drink turpentine, as that's (among other things) more socially acceptable to exchange money for.

I cannot answer as I am heterosexual. I do have a question to post here though:

There are significant biological, mental and physiological drives towards sexuality. Would you asexual individuals say you are experiencing extra stress because of your choice?

[sub]Just curious, that's all.[/sub]

I can only speak for myself, but the only extra stress I notice is going out of my way to avoid sex in media, such as fast-forwarding through sex scenes in movies and the like. I can joke around with the subject, but about half the time any serious discussion gets quickly topic-changed.

I have another question!

Do you find people physically unattractive, or is it just the act of sex itself that you don't like?

I can kind of see how some people get considered "attractive" when others don't, but I don't really see it myself. To me, people are more or less just people.

 

[Jonluw]

I'm not really asexual, but...

I guess that "delicious spice of life" doesn't sound so tempting. I mean, I could argue all day that habanero is really awesome, and everybody should totally have a piece. Still, the last time I gave it to someone she spent the next half hour or so drinking water.

I just don't figure I could ever function well in a relationship; but I'm a virgin and only seventeen years old, so I guess it is a tad bit early to say anything for sure yet.

So, to OP's question: No, I guess I haven't really been intimate with someone before.

 

[SonicWaffle]

In my personal experience many of my asexual friends haven't ever had sex and say they don't have interest in it.

This is the part that struck me as strange. You have many asexual friends? I've been walking around this planet for almost 24 years, and never once has someone identified themselves to me as asexual. I know people who don't have sex for various reasons, and some who simply have not yet, but nobody who claims they're completely indifferent to it. Isn't the drive for sex supposed to be a biological imperitive?

 

[minarri]

Not to be weird, but just what do you mean by "asexual people"? I thought that "asexual" meant "having no sex" i.e. being neither male nor female. If that's the case is there anyone who really meets that definition?

 

[_Janny_]

Not to be weird, but just what do you mean by "asexual people"? I thought that "asexual" meant "having no sex" i.e. being neither male nor female. If that's the case is there anyone who really meets that definition?

The term has more than one meaning. Just check wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

 

[Antitonic]

Spoiler: Snip

So asexual people, have you "done the deed"?

Edit: I realise this may be a silly question

No. Nor do I wish to. As I've stated in previous topics, the thought of it makes me ill. If I wanted a life experience that would induce vomiting I'd drink turpentine, as that's (among other things) more socially acceptable to exchange money for.

I cannot answer as I am heterosexual. I do have a question to post here though:

There are significant biological, mental and physiological drives towards sexuality. Would you asexual individuals say you are experiencing extra stress because of your choice?

[sub]Just curious, that's all.[/sub]

I can only speak for myself, but the only extra stress I notice is going out of my way to avoid sex in media, such as fast-forwarding through sex scenes in movies and the like. I can joke around with the subject, but about half the time any serious discussion gets quickly topic-changed.

I have another question!

Do you find people physically unattractive, or is it just the act of sex itself that you don't like?

I can kind of see how some people get considered "attractive" when others don't, but I don't really see it myself. To me, people are more or less just people.

See you're asexual, which is great cause now I can use you to ask a question that's been bugging me since the last thread on the subject. Why is it so hard for people to recognize the difference between asexual, and someone with a diminished sex drive (or as I like to call them, hypo sexual because it makes me sound smart)

Obviously, I'm answering from the inside looking out, but if I were to hazard a guess, I'd say it's because at a cursory glance they look the same. They'd both be people, who despite having not physical complications (ie: damaged organs or dead), are just not having sex. Only when people take the time to look deeper would they find differences.

What annoys me more is people who don't understand the difference between "asexuality" and "asexual reproduction".

 

[Nomanslander]

Say you're just celibate....-_-

Using the word asexual like that just sounds silly, no matter if it's the same definition.

Anyways, if anything I consider myself sexually frustration, but I blamed that for being an American, a nation discovered by Quakers and Puritans....-_-

 

[Estocavio]

Well im Asexual because im utterly paranoid.

If anyone appears seductive to me, i consider them to be deceptive liars, trying to get something out of me.
If you buy a girl a drink at a bar, she gets free alcohol.
If you give a girl a lift for whatever reason, she gets a free taxi service.
If you give a girl advice, she will likely claim it as her own idea.
If a girl asks you for a favor shortly after you meet, she expects you to fulfil it due to your gender. Most of them at least. Ive seen three exceptions.
If a girl is dressed seductively in a public place, shes an attention seeker, or a social addict.

Im not even going to go on.
Also, im clearly Cynical.

Paranoia + Cynicism = Asexuality

 

[Prince Regent]

I see you, yes you with the hat

Yes I have,

but more imporantly: Hats ARE sexy!
(and I demand an apology to all us sexy hat wearers)