A question to you asexual people.

[Daniel Laeben-Rosen]

I cannot answer as I am heterosexual. I do have a question to post here though:

There are significant biological, mental and physiological drives towards sexuality. Would you asexual individuals say you are experiencing extra stress because of your choice?

[sub]Just curious, that's all.[/sub]

Well to be fair, the same drives towards sexuality also exist in the opposite direction. That is, drawing people away from sexuality. It's sort of a biological "birth-control" on a planetary scale.
Hope that answers your question. Unless it's already been answered in which case; I appologize.

 

[Private Custard]

I just going to guess that you are either under the age of balls kicking in. Or you where treated badly by a girl who you really liked and hope that some day you will look back on how you used to be and laugh.

I'm 22 and have never dated. I've rejected a handful of offers though, from both genders.

Mmmmmmmmmm somehow I really don't believe you. I can't be bothered to ask more questions as I don't care that much.

You cared enough to troll the thread up to this point. Why stop now??

 

[Jkudo]

Don't know if I'd call myself asexual. I find girls very attractive. But sex still creeps me out rather than turning me on. I haven't tried it, but watching standard porn is like watching one of the Saw movies. Furthermore, I have friends who have broken up with girlfriends and the sex withdrawal symptoms aren't pretty.

I can understand you seeing "Standard" porn that way. It can get a bit.....yea. It just has a less than wonderful way of depicting sex, enjoyable sometimes but often times more vulgar and kinda rude(can't find the right word for it). This also might seem weird but i'd recommend maybe softcore pornography, seems a bit more...idk tasteful i guess.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

I am the closest I can be to asexual while still being heterosexual.

My standards are so astronomically high that everyone I see I don't consider to be a potential partner, personality or aesthetically. Essentially, I am so tightarsed, I'm technically asexual as my perfect range cannot be contained by this species without massive social anxiety and/or mental illnesses.

As a result, my pursuits for sexuality have dimmed to darkness. Not sure if this is even what some types of asexuals feel like, I'm probably in the group that needs to be massively impressed to the point of impossibility.

I'm not really ashamed of this, really, I just don't like social interaction altogether, and my sexuality is lumped in there with it, so I'm as asexual as I can be yet still being able to identify as straight.

 

[Hap2]

I think most asexual people are just masquerading as such because it's more flattering than saying they've never had any relationships and are a virgin because no one wanted to have one with them.

Not all, of course. I'm sure there are people who feel no sexual urges at all, but I think it might be possible with enough stimulation and possibly alcohol to change all that.

Perhaps there are some who are indeed masquerading, but I doubt very few would choose to do so if they really feel sexual attraction. It is not something that can be turned off, or on for that matter, at a person's will, it just is what it is. I went through my teenage years believing I was heterosexual, but I was always nagged by the question in my head, 'is that really true', and it took me a long time and a lot of confusion to dispel a lot of beliefs and truly accept myself. I am much more content with being myself around people than ever before, because I do not have any social obligations of being sexual, something which I am not. So it was definitely freeing to find out about the existence of asexuality.

I am a hetero romantic asexual, meaning, I prefer the opposite sex for emotional relationships, with sometimes an intellectual connection as well. And yes, I have indeed been in a relationship before, and never felt any sort of sexual attraction to the one I loved, nor to anyone else for that matter (on all genders). I do understand aesthetic attraction, and I do like to be physically intimate (hugging, and cuddling, basically), but there is no intrinsic physical want or desire for sex with anyone. Arousal does happen from time to time, but it is never from any sexual desire for any person.

An important note to remember, one's behaviours are different from sexual attraction. A celibate person is one who chooses to ignore or repress their sexual desires for a person/persons, whereas being asexual means there is no sexual attraction whatsoever.

The best FAQ on asexuality, and online community for asexuals and those curious about it is here: http://www.asexuality.org

 

[Hap2]

Double Post, server must've lagged out.