A question to you asexual people.

[orangecharger]

A question to you asexual people.

Who you calling you people? LOL

A little more OT: This exists? Does anyone who claims to be "asexual" have a birthday prior to 1990? This strikes me as the usual social outcast teenage thing. Where they can all go be outcasts together (ha!). Anyone remember the goth kids from your high school days? Guess what 10 years later they aren't goth anymore. Funny thing that. For this need to declare something weird about themselves in order to gain attention this is an easy setup - and is genius for that. You don't even have to buy the costumes and the makeup! LOL. There are some people in my age group that would applaud the simplicity and the awesomeness of it all.

I am curious though -- Asexual suggests that arousal can happen for these folks. They didn't choose "Non-sexual" (though the wiki article considers that the same) as their label for example. If it's not humans of either your own gender or the opposite that turn you on, what exactly turns you on? I have a hard time believing teenage males (let's say 17-19) in particular are completely uninterested in anything to do with sex. So what are they imagining in their private alone time?

 

[orangecharger]

As a follow up to my post above -- I believe there are the 1% out there that truly feel this way. I also think there are people who are masquerading in this realm because it's a comfortable space. Does anyone that's truly asexual feel they have impostors in their midst?

 

[Nomanslander]

Well im Asexual because im utterly paranoid.

If anyone appears seductive to me, i consider them to be deceptive liars, trying to get something out of me.
If you buy a girl a drink at a bar, she gets free alcohol.
If you give a girl a lift for whatever reason, she gets a free taxi service.
If you give a girl advice, she will likely claim it as her own idea.
If a girl asks you for a favor shortly after you meet, she expects you to fulfil it due to your gender. Most of them at least. Ive seen three exceptions.
If a girl is dressed seductively in a public place, shes an attention seeker, or a social addict.

Im not even going to go on.
Also, im clearly Cynical.

Paranoia + Cynicism = Asexuality

Actually, you're giving signs of being sexually frustrated instead of being celibate.

Welcome to the club....=P

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

I have, with multiple partners. Some of it was due to emotional blackmail (ugh), but the rest was just to make absolutely sure that I wasn't kidding myself or missing anything due to errors on my part. It wasn't particularly pleasurable (even with the ones who clearly knew what they were doing), and more often than not, it just ended up being a whole lot of work for a horribly under-stimulating payoff. The orgasms were far less intense than the ones I achieve through masturbation* (and that's when I actually could orgasm), and every single experience could be succinctly described as "disappointing". Neither availability nor quality of sex are my problem, it's just a total lack of desire.

Also, I should probably clarify this: when I say I still find women attractive (as I have in previous threads), I mean that I can still figure out who's going to be considered beautiful by others; a personal take, on the other hand, won't draw me towards them unless I'm looking to put myself in a position of power by associating with women who are going to have a lot of social control thanks to their aesthetics. The ability to recognize this is definitely owed to my biology, but there's a failure to launch somewhere along the line in the neurological pathways. I wouldn't describe it as a dysfunction, but somebody clearly wasn't paying very close attention when they were soldering my circuits, so to speak.

[sub]*No, the fact that I masturbate regularly isn't a contradiction in any way. It's just a biological need that I'm taking care of. Also, it passes the time.[/sub]

 

[Antitonic]

Anyway, I would just like to add that asexuals, regardless of physiological or emotional reasons have a responsibility to be aromantic as well.

Not necessarily. I'd definitely suggest people be honest about the nature of the potential relationship right from the start, though. What would have happened if that women told the man when they met that it was never going to be more than cuddling (for example)? To be honest, if she wasn't getting other things out of that relationship (such as gifts), I'd be surprised.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

Both yes and no, I have and have not.
Although, any experiences I have and have not had are not what make me nonsexual.
I just am.
And I'm luckier than so many people because of it.

-All Hail Britannia Snip-

Anyway, I would just like to add that asexuals, regardless of physiological or emotional reasons have a responsibility to be aromantic as well.

Wait, why should we also be aromantic?
I can be in a relationship for things other than sex ¬.¬
Then again, I don't make a secret of being nonsexual... so anyone I would be in a relationship with would know.
Also, please don't use that 1% statistic. I doubt it is true.
Almost as bad as people quoting the statistics from wikipedia, when they are 20 years old, from a small portion of an area in Britain, during an AIDS outbreak >.<
Just had to point that out...

 

[Wardnath]

No, and I honestly don't see the need to do so in the near future.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Okay, I am not asexual because of some bullshit about STIs or horrible romantic backlash or whatever.
I am asexual because I just am. I'm just not interested.

It's a sexuality, just like being gay or straight. An asexual person does not need a reason to be asexual, just like a gay person does not need a reason to not like the opposite sex. They are just built that way.

I am, however, aromantic because of horrible romantic backlash. So points for that.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

-All Hail Britannia Snip-
There are significant biological, mental and physiological drives towards sexuality. Would you asexual individuals say you are experiencing extra stress because of your choice?

[sub]Just curious, that's all.[/sub]

I wouldn't say I am experiencing any extra stress, because... well, no reason. Not desiring sex, and thus, not participating in it, doesn't cause any extra stress.
Just life causes stress >.>

I have another question!

Do you find people physically unattractive, or is it just the act of sex itself that you don't like?

Well, it isn't the dislike of sex (I believe the term for that is antisexual, but I can't rightly remember >.>), it is just the lack of drive, interest, and desire in that area. It is still possible to find people attractive, but we just aren't sexually attracted. We may like them for their personality, or pretty much anything >.>

-All Hail Britannia Snip-

Thanks for pointing out that there is "Asexual", and then there is "Nonsexual" :3
I normally have to explain it to someone >.> Perhaps people will read your post, and not be as confused...

 

[TiloXofXTanto]

Well, as a general rule, I've abandoned all prospects of sex, and all things like it, so the answer would of course be: No.

However, my reasons for staying asexual are not out of fear or suspicion, but from a personal choice inspired by a mental disgust for sexual activities. I do feel the same sexual urges as normal people, but I am slowly erasing such biological urges as time goes on and I get farther away from the point where I first developed such hormonal instincts. I cannot distinguish between different levels of physical beauty in people and cannot recognize the ones that are even blatantly obvious, but that's caused more by my complete and utter lack of an aesthetic sense.

Also, to one random person asking about the whole, sex drive being biologically imperative: A sex drive is an instinct caused by the most primitive parts of the mind, humans have the capabilities to overcome this instinct (or through a hormonal imbalance, not have this instinct) and abandon their Id's urgings for sex.

 

[shootthebandit]

lol im asexual and i reproduce asexually, every now and then ill just divide

 

[rockyoumonkeys]

I'd always assumed that people who considered themselves "asexual" did so because they had such crippling social anxiety that they figured "I'm never gonna get a date with anyone ever, so I'll just say I'm asexual and make it seem like it's a deliberate life choice."

 

[sageoftruth]

Don't know if I'd call myself asexual. I find girls very attractive. But sex still creeps me out rather than turning me on. I haven't tried it, but watching standard porn is like watching one of the Saw movies. Furthermore, I have friends who have broken up with girlfriends and the sex withdrawal symptoms aren't pretty.

 

[Estocavio]

Well im Asexual because im utterly paranoid.

If anyone appears seductive to me, i consider them to be deceptive liars, trying to get something out of me.
If you buy a girl a drink at a bar, she gets free alcohol.
If you give a girl a lift for whatever reason, she gets a free taxi service.
If you give a girl advice, she will likely claim it as her own idea.
If a girl asks you for a favor shortly after you meet, she expects you to fulfil it due to your gender. Most of them at least. Ive seen three exceptions.
If a girl is dressed seductively in a public place, shes an attention seeker, or a social addict.

Im not even going to go on.
Also, im clearly Cynical.

Paranoia + Cynicism = Asexuality

Actually, you're giving signs of being sexually frustrated instead of being celibate.

Welcome to the club....=P

Sexually frustrated? Ive never actually tried any of these things, its educated guesswork based on Chaos Theory in Psychiatry
And i have no sexual interest in anyone or anything, therefore im Asexual

 

[Dogstile]

There has been very little (too little) research on the subject, and I don't see how the OP knows "many" asexuals as they are under 1% of the WW population. Unless he/she chose this social circle for that reason or that social circle chose him/her.

I know them. I don't hang out with them much nor talk to them and by many I mean roughly 5 people. Of this 5 2 of them know eachother. But i've noticed similar traits in all of them. All have been interested until the age of 15 or 16 (etc) until one day they decided its not worth the effort of trying and became "asexual".

Its less of me knowing them as a friend and me knowing them and talking to them for a little while every now and then, nothing more.

They're all also people who tend to have trouble understanding how other people "tick" and I believe it may be due to this aswell. But its all speculation, and its an interesting thing to explore.

I probably should change that "many" to "a few" though.

Hmmm, how about you think of it this way: you're a straight guy, right? And you say you're not interested in other men. How can you dismiss it until you've tried?

So you don't have to try everything in order to be sure of something. IMO, anyway.

I used an example like that in my opening post sir. Please read. And by the way, yes, i know i'm straight because i've tried both. Didn't get as far as being nekkid in front of a guy, felt too awkward. There's your answer to that.

lol im asexual and i reproduce asexually, every now and then ill just divide

Yeah, we all find the term funny. You're not the first to notice that people label it under something completely different, but people do label it, so asexual it is.

I'd always assumed that people who considered themselves "asexual" did so because they had such crippling social anxiety that they figured "I'm never gonna get a date with anyone ever, so I'll just say I'm asexual and make it seem like it's a deliberate life choice."

Yeah, it seems that way with the guys I know. (yes all my "asexual" ((christ i hate the label)) friends are male)

Don't know if I'd call myself asexual. I find girls very attractive. But sex still creeps me out rather than turning me on. I haven't tried it, but watching standard porn is like watching one of the Saw movies. Furthermore, I have friends who have broken up with girlfriends and the sex withdrawal symptoms aren't pretty.

Like saw? Holy shit, what type of porn have you seen!?! And sex withdrawal symptoms? Normally I find that the person is putting it on to be "cool". I've never experienced them myself, but hey, it could be possible.

 

[Fozzo]

Not asexual, just shit with women :/

 

[Erana]

I cannot answer as I am heterosexual. I do have a question to post here though:

There are significant biological, mental and physiological drives towards sexuality. Would you asexual individuals say you are experiencing extra stress because of your choice?

[sub]Just curious, that's all.[/sub]

Its not a choice. At least not for me. I've never been infatuated with anyone because I have some hormonal issues.