A quick question about a possible relationship....
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Ok, now listen to me and you will be just fine.....Julianking93 said:
You know where she works, you now have her number, you've got her name probably her facebook or IM or what ever and if you don't you can easily get it from what you've already got so you've fought half the battle.
She's not going anywhere, she's not going to just one day not be there and you will have no way to find her so you can just take your time and use her number and everything else you can get to talk to her with to just get to know her better. Make (yes i said MAKE not let) a friendship develop over time and drop little hints that you like her like asking to go out somewhere (as friends) but just ask her so you are alone together and just do the gentlemanly things that girls think are sweet.
After you get to know each other better and if you still really like her (she may even not be with your cousin then so no problems there)then take the first move. Personally i wouldn't really care about the whole cousin thing if YOU don't either then who cares what anybody else thinks!! if you feel the time is right just tell her about how much of a low life he is and how she deserves better etc etc someone who thinks shes special for who she is and will treat her right, someone like, i duno, YOU!
Anyway, this ones on me but next time i will charge at my usual hourly rate....
The issue is pretty unavoidable, seeing as you go to the movies anyways (girl or no girl).
She's given you her number, so call and find out where you stand.
Besides, you have only spoken to her at the movies, which is in public. With a call, she might be willing to spill the beans (maybe thats why she gave out her number).
She's given you her number, so call and find out where you stand.
Besides, you have only spoken to her at the movies, which is in public. With a call, she might be willing to spill the beans (maybe thats why she gave out her number).
Ah, I'm going to go the other way here...
I have done a lot of stupid stuff when it comes to women and while you will kick yourself silly afterwards for being stupid, in the end you do learn from those experiences and you become better at understanding the fairer sex. But you could very well regret NOT calling her.
As for your cousin, look, family is family and tends to survive worse things. If they are not married of engaged, then you are not entirely crossing a line here. Just do not get anyone pregnant.
Hey, call her, go have a cup of coffee and get some perspective. Ask her about her boyfriend and try to figure out what she wants. If it looks like she's just going to mess you around, don't do it. If she wants to see you behind your cousin's back, don't do it. But if she is looking for someone new and they break up, it's your prerogative to make a move.
Also, I do not know the status of your relationship with your cousin (though the fact that you didn't even know she's his girlfriend says something), but if you are going to hook up with her, you should tell him. Not to get his permission - it's not his to give - but it is his right to know.
I have done a lot of stupid stuff when it comes to women and while you will kick yourself silly afterwards for being stupid, in the end you do learn from those experiences and you become better at understanding the fairer sex. But you could very well regret NOT calling her.
As for your cousin, look, family is family and tends to survive worse things. If they are not married of engaged, then you are not entirely crossing a line here. Just do not get anyone pregnant.
Hey, call her, go have a cup of coffee and get some perspective. Ask her about her boyfriend and try to figure out what she wants. If it looks like she's just going to mess you around, don't do it. If she wants to see you behind your cousin's back, don't do it. But if she is looking for someone new and they break up, it's your prerogative to make a move.
Also, I do not know the status of your relationship with your cousin (though the fact that you didn't even know she's his girlfriend says something), but if you are going to hook up with her, you should tell him. Not to get his permission - it's not his to give - but it is his right to know.
Well, like I said the last time with your issue of the attached-girl (I think that was you) give her a try. If she's serious, then congrats on a new relationship!Julianking93 said:
However, if it turns out that she's using you to get back at your step-cousin, then listen to Admiral Ackbar:
BAIL OUT! BAIL OUT!
In the 90s, I used to go to the theater once a month & only once a year in the 2000s. You must be REALLY easy to please if you can tollerate what's playing 48 times a year.
I love that advice.S.R.S. said:
and hell, go for it man, take it from someone with too many regrets, you don't want this eating away at you if you don't take a chance.
You know, female officers in my WoW guild give out their number to the other officers...it doesn't mean they're trying to arrange to cheat on their boyfriends or a relationship or anything...
It seems she likes you but is very confused what to do about it. Maybe you guys could hang out now and then, see how everything really feels, since no one knows how you'd like or dislike anything until it happens, you know...? And then if it goes well, -then- you have a problem.
It seems she likes you but is very confused what to do about it. Maybe you guys could hang out now and then, see how everything really feels, since no one knows how you'd like or dislike anything until it happens, you know...? And then if it goes well, -then- you have a problem.
Dude, calm down. I say you should ask her out, just like a friend at first. The worst case scenario you make a new cool friend or lose nothing but some time while in her company.Julianking93 said:
Build your way up. Make her feel comfortable with you. Gain her trust. Show her you're an honest man. Then when you feel it's right tell her that you have some feeling for her, but you seem to be receiving mixed messages from her.
Tell her that you, by no means intent to come between her and your cousin(if there is some to come between). Tell her that you like her, but you don't want to cause any problems for her.
I don't think I'm making my point clear here, but that's exactly what I would do.
I was in an similar situation 2 times. The end game for me was that I have gained to good friends(of the opposite sex) for life which both promised me that if things don't work out in their current relationships, then they're willing to try something serious with me, too.
Well one of them still gives me the impression she would like a 3-some, but I'm pretty sure that her boyfriend would never agree(nor do I).
I believe this may sum it up.TheNumber1Zero said:
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But, OT: Why not text her and just get talking to her, get to know why she gave you her number?
Wait, wait, wait.... She TALKED to you??!?!?!?!?!?! õ.Ö
She is obviously in love with you. Club her down and bring her to your cave!
She is obviously in love with you. Club her down and bring her to your cave!
Ok, I'm sorry. But EVERYONE has problems of thieir own.Ekonk said:
In my honest opinion, I think she just talks to you because she dates your cousine.
many people I've never seen before, just suddently start to talk to me like the've known me their whole life. But it allways turns out they are dating someone from my family, working with someone from my family or is in the same school as someone from my family
If a girl likes you you should know. If you don't know or are unsure then you can be pretty sure she doesn't like you enough. The right girl would not have said 'nothing' when you said excuse me. Do what you want but don't go in thinking this could be anything other than a short term relationship at best.