About sex

[helldragonX]

For me it is a constant minor urge, kinda like a humming in the background....I dunno that the best way I can describe it.

 

[Shycte]

I would like to beileve that sex is about opening up to someone else. You remove all problems in the world and there is nothing to tie you down. It is just you and the person you love, and you are free, and you are togheter.

When you feel and urge to share this experience with someone. When you want to goo deep and touch another humans soul, that is a sex drive.

Or maybe she's hot and you want to bonk all night long. Could be that to.

 

[Shycte]

For me it is a constant minor urge, kinda like a humming in the background....I dunno that the best way I can describe it.

And constantly humming in one's pants. Amirite?

 

[Pvtghostgummy]

Nonexistent. I have worked hard on self betterment to have a sex drive, I have suppressed it into nonexistence.

I do have a drive too couple with a woman and have children.

What....

 

[Thebiggestpanda]

So, from what I can gather, it's a subtle thing? It's just, with everyone around me wanting to nail anything with a heartbeat and an hairless armpit I was expecting something more ... obsessive ... no that's not the right word ... compulsive? Mentally over-powering? ... I was expecting it to have more .. umph behind it.

haha umph is one word. I developed a little early and had a pretty strong sex drive by the time I was in third grade. For me at least, a sex drive is when you see someone and think "jesus I gotta have her". Basically the stronger it is, the more sex you'll want to have.

I think the more important thing to pay attention to is how comatible you and your partner are when it comes to sex. You wanna find someone who has close to the same ammount of drive as you do.

 

[Verp]

Those who are saying that he's overanalysing this... Remember that talking about feelings when you don't have them or aren't sure if you have them is difficult. When you don't have any personal experiences to draw from, you end up dancing around the subject because you rely on what you have learned mostly from other people. When talking about sex, people even very often just imply things or otherwise say things very vaguely because they want to be polite or because they assume they don't need to go into detail because you know them already from your own past experiences. You just basically lack the tools you're supposed to pick this apart with so you end up taking a massive detour to get to the core of the subject.

This matter becomes especially frustrating when there are people who both expect you to be interested and inquisitive about sex but at the same time try to rob you of the mental tools you usually use to analyse and process things. Let people try to make sense of the world on their own terms. There are many things that may come completely naturally to you so you don't really have to think about them, but other people may have to really think about them because they want to understand things even if they don't experience them the way you do.

As for the OP, I have nothing to add to the sex drive thing because I'm an aromantic ace with no libido. Although I think I know what sex drive technically is, descriptions of it are still bewildering to me and I'm 23 years old.

 

[the Dept of Science]

If you've never truly felt it, try not masturbating for a period of time (1 week at least). After a few days you start to get turned on really easily, dirty thought pop into your head at the slightest provocation and soon you will feel like if you don't let off the pressure, you are going to get a wet dream.

 

[ramboondiea]

i personal think the term sex drive is a broad term, i dont think it just means the urge to have sex, i reckon its an overall urge to pursue anything beyond acquittance with someone.

 

[Gilhelmi]

Nonexistent. I have worked hard on self betterment to have a sex drive, I have suppressed it into nonexistence.

I do have a drive too couple with a woman and have children.

yep, i understand what you're saying... but are you sure about nonexistence ? isn't it contradictory to say you want to couple with a woman without a pulsion ?


now funny question: are you a robot? XD
(dont take it personally)

Not really, I just want to focus on the relationship and not the sex.

now the funny answer: I have yet to disprove the fact that I am a cyborg.
(hehehe)

 

[helldragonX]

For me it is a constant minor urge, kinda like a humming in the background....I dunno that the best way I can describe it.

And constantly humming in one's pants. Amirite?

I was more talking about at the back of my mind, but ya there too.

 

[Orcus The Ultimate]

Nonexistent. I have worked hard on self betterment to have a sex drive, I have suppressed it into nonexistence.

I do have a drive too couple with a woman and have children.

yep, i understand what you're saying... but are you sure about nonexistence ? isn't it contradictory to say you want to couple with a woman without a pulsion ?


now funny question: are you a robot? XD
(dont take it personally)

Not really, I just want to focus on the relationship and not the sex.

now the funny answer: I have yet to disprove the fact that I am a cyborg.
(hehehe)

Finally! someone with a sense of humor!

btw: it is good to seek the most important part of a couple, instead of what's "in" or "cool"

 

[CrashBang]

I have no idea what heart burn feels like. I don't know if I've had it or not cos I can't work out or understand what it feels like so yeah I understand what you're going through
Except that I don't because a sex drive is just the need and desire to have sex with someone but I have no clue what heart burn is

 

[pharaoh malik]

Before I begin I think it's necessary to point out a couple things; I'm only 16; I'm a virgin; I don't know my sexuality; the whole 'not knowing' thing is starting to irk me.

Now to my main point. As humans we experience our world through a subjective view, and we can only sympathise with others through experience (at least, I imagine that is a limitation most of us have). So when it comes to the idea of a sex drive, I can't tell whether I'm normal or not because I can't get inside the head of other people[footnote]And I would prefer to ask through the anonymity and wider audience potential of the internet than throw my parents/siblings/some of my friends a curve-ball[/footnote]. My issue is this; I ca't tell what a sex-drive is meant to feel like because I can't experience what others can, and therefore I can't know if what I feel (or lack thereof) is what others feel or not.

So this is my question; What does a sex drive feel like to you? I ask because I want to know if I've experienced it and simply dismissed it as nothing, or if I haven't experienced it (yet?). It's also an interesting social experiment as well, to see if everyone who thinks they have/does have a sex drive feels it the same way as everyone else.

NOTE: Apologies to all those getting sick of these gay/sex/love/relationship threads, this has been bothering me for a while and I figured it would be less annoying if I throw it in as part of a whole bunch of threads rather than have it as a stand-alone sex-thread.

I think you're adorable and I want to hug you.

=w= You remind me of myself back in the days... hahaha. Okay enough of that.

Anyway. I was asking myself the same thing for a very long time. I wanted answers and I wanted them right away -- but that's not something that you can really control. You really gotta do the boring thing and wait for the answers to come to you. I'm just now coming to terms with my sexuality and I'm 21. You're 16, you're still young and you've got a lot of other things to worry about. Honestly, as far as the virginity goes -- I think it's something to be proud of and it's something you'll only regret rushing. Once you realize what you want, everything will seem a whole lot easier. Unfortunately I really can't tell you when that's gonna happen. It varies person to person.

Sex drives... can vary to certain degrees. I remember back when I was 16 having some sort of a sex drive, but not the same inclination I do now, at 21. At the time part of what I was feeling was curiosity and uncertainty -- mixed with some mildly pleasant feelings in the lower area. xD;; (well you asked) But... back then I wasn't ready for any sort of sexual activity and so I'm not sure if what I was feeling was really an inclination towards sex or the start of what would become a full fledged sex drive. Though -- masturbating was something I could do for fun, and guilt free in order to get rid of those mild urges. Now, well, now I just consider it all a completely different thing. My mind has recently been blown my a certain man in my life and I'm seeing sexuality on a whole new level. Just like life, I think it's one of those things that you learn through experience, and with time. And I sure as hell think it's one of those things you don't need to rush. I mean, all the people I know who rush into it not ready for it end up seriously regretting it. And that's something I wouldn't want for anybody.