InterAirplay said:
scobie said:
E.X.D. said:
I'm going to interject here. It seems by this point everyone participating in this discussion has come to the consensus that they will call black people black regardless of what they wish to be called and call them ignorant if they take issue. I am black. I do not mind being called black I prefer it over african american, but there are those who take offense at the term black and you must respect that.
I fail to see why I must. Offence is not always the fault of the offender - sometimes people take offence at things that really don't warrant it. If someone took offence at my innocent use of the word black to describe a group of people, I would apologise and try to placate them because I am spineless and loathe personal confrontation. Inside, however, I would be thinking that they were an oversensitive tosser. I find our society's utter horror of causing offence bizarre. I have been offended at things in my life and it usually ain't that bad.
I would sit somewhere between these views, believing that whether or not offense is caused is up to both parties. In this case, "black" can easily be seen as a non-offensive term given how it is used in the media and in general culture these days, and someone using it will therefore, most likely be using it with non-harmful intent. For the person being referred to as "black" to suddenly take offense when it would be incredibly likely none was intended, is just oversensitive and all blame is on the part of the offended party - it IS possible to choose not to get offended. They could at least point out that they dislike the term before getting offended.
Now, if the person making the statement used a more ambiguous term, THEN taking offence might be more acceptable. While it may be a misunderstanding, the person making the statement is partly to blame for using such a term without clarifying his intent, and the offended person is partly to blame for assuming the intended meaning even when it is ambiguous.
If the person in question uses a racial slur but claims that it was said with no intent to offend, the offended person has every right to be offended. Likewise, if they use "black" with clear full intent to offend, then the offended party in question is once again justified.
Actually, this is a pretty good summary of my views on the matter. I'm not sure exactly where you think your opinions differ from my own.
E.X.D. said:
You don't have to apologize or be sorry but if there offended don't antagonize them by calling them black its not something that's hard and most people aren't offended by it but if they are just respect that.
Like I said, I'd try to placate them because I am a wimp. If I suddenly grew a spine, however, I'd call them out for disrupting what is hypothetically a perfectly good discussion by being a bit of a dick, just as I would call out anyone else who introduced unnecessary speedbumps into the long road that is social discourse. I'd try to persuade them that they were wrong to take offence at what I had said. If they didn't accept that, I'd do one of two things. I'd probably just walk away, because life is too short. Alternatively, if I really wanted to get along with them, I'd accept that they just felt differently to me and drop it, although I still wouldn't particularly like it. I'd tolerate their views and work around them, because we've got to get along somehow, but I wouldn't respect their views because I'd think they were wrong.
It occurs to me as I write this that this has actually happened to me before, and I responded exactly as I just described. Just replace the use of the word "black" with any form of blasphemy, and "hypothetical easily-offended black person" with "devout Christian girl I desperately wanted to bang".