Alcohol

[Shru1kan]

Oh here's a random vent thread.

My night, as in last night.

One of my best friends goes to a kegger even though I beg her not to, and totally gets hammered. She wont text back or pick up her cell.

During this, I am basically worried out of my mind, going insane because I know its just a bunch of younger girls (she was maybe the only 16 year old there, rest were 13-15) and guys that are 17+. Yeah, you do that math.

Around midnight, when the ball dropped in New York, my parents pop open a cheap bottle of some unidentifiable crap. They hand me a shot and I think, "what the hell, it might ease my nerves" and toss it back in one gulp. First drink in my life.

Around 2AM, I get a text, a little buzzed because I think the stuff was probably 99% alcohol, and shes wandering around town, tipsy. A small, but big town, cops out, and I'm dead tired and buzzed, I cant go look for her without getting picked up. I worry more, and being buzzed already, swig half the bottle (maybe the equivalent of a can of soda for reference)

All I know is I was awake all night, net history tells me so. I get a text at 630AM from her, crying. Saying I was right about that party. By now I'm clear headed and surprisingly not hung over. She was raped. By an older drunk guy. Oral and she thinks maybe vaginal. Didn't wear a condom.

Now, shes been basically fine, either shock hasn't set in or she doesn't care too much (on the pill, her mom made her go on it for no reason), but I think its because the beer obscured the memory.


Somehow... somehow I think I won't ever drink again. I don't think she will either, because the final twist she told me was that her rapist was supposed to be a friend.


EDIT:: DETAILS::

-She was out of town (next one over, unfamiliar, 3 miles away basically from my house, 6 to hers), I was in town.
-Parents dont care too much about what she does.
-Parents dont care about HER for that matter.
-I wouldnt know where the party was, she got pissed when I tried to talk her out of going.
-No clue how she got back home, on either end, she was a town over.
-My details might not make sense because I was pretty fucked up too.

DOUBLE EDIT::

For those saying its regret rather than rape, she wandered around town and walked home 6 miles by herself. Wouldn't she be with PEOPLE if it was consentual? I have a feeling she was taken advantage of and then tossed out in the cold. Right?

 

[Radeonx]

There's a giant hole in your story.
She was drunk, and it was her friend.
That kind of leads me to believe that she was hammered and had sex with him, because I've heard of that before. If not, well, that sucks.

 

[DuplicateValue]

Oh........well I hope she's alright. Why didn't you go to this party?

 

[ChromeAlchemist]

There's a giant hole in your story.
She was drunk, and it was her friend.
That kind of leads me to believe that she was hammered and had sex with him, because I've heard of that before. If not, well, that sucks.

While I would like to agree, it would be horrible for people not to believe you if you claimed such a thing. But yes, in the past girls have gotten drunk, agreed to sex, and claimed rape afterwards. I don't think I can really comment.

Plus, I don't know how long this will last, I guess the title is pretty ambiguous so...

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Shru1kan]

There's a giant hole in your story.
She was drunk, and it was her friend.
That kind of leads me to believe that she was hammered and had sex with him, because I've heard of that before. If not, well, that sucks.

You know, maybe. I can't say with 100% certainty, but from her reaction of horror this morning I don't think she would have even considered it sober.

 

[Radeonx]

On the topic of alcohol, I am very, very hungover right now. I had so much to drink that me and most of the guys at the party I was at streaked at midnight and ran around a church, lol.

Obviously someone knows how to party.

 

[Kortney]

You should have gone to the party with her in the first place if you were so worried about her.

 

[Shru1kan]

Okay, Im gonna update the OP because I suck at visualizing personal matters from the 3rd person.

 

[MurderousToaster]

I've never really drunk, apart from Lager Shandies (For those of you not in teh knowz, like I am, a lager shandy is some beer in a glass with lemonade added to it.)

I'm only fourteen, but I've never found a taste for beer.

 

[Frankydee]

That sucks man, just goes to show though.
there is such a thing as being responsible.
And not saying it wasn't her fault or anything but she certainly contributed to it.
[sub]which kindah surprises me with some of the shit I got away with...[/sub]

 

[Supreme Unleaded]

Um, lets see, she goes to a party. She KNEW everyone would get hammered, because we all know that someones gunna bring beer. She knew there were older guys there.

She's stupid.

I can't realy put it any more clearly.

Help her out, be a good friend, but still ,she's stupid.

 

[Wadders]

Well that sure is terrible, but being the cynic I am, I cant help but think that it may have been consenting, and she was just too fucked to remember. That, or she could be pulling the rape card for whatever reason. Or it may be a genuine rape, in which case my heart goes out to her.

You coulda gone to the party with her to make sure she didn't get into any trouble I suppose, but then I guess you dont usually think something that terrible is gonna happen...

 

[Kriptonite]

Oh........well I hope she's alright. Why didn't you go to this party?

Yea, I was rather curious about this myself.

EDIT:: DETAILS::

-She was out of town (next one over, unfamiliar, 3 miles away basically from my house, 6 to hers), I was in town.
-Parents dont care too much about what she does.
-Parents dont care about HER for that matter.
-I wouldnt know where the party was, she got pissed when I tried to talk her out of going.
-No clue how she got back home, on either end, she was a town over.
-My details might not make sense because I was pretty fucked up too.

Oh, well there is nothing you can do at this point other than be there for her and help her through if she has any issues. You said she seems calm about it, but be there nonetheless.

 

[Jadak]

There's a giant hole in your story.
She was drunk, and it was her friend.
That kind of leads me to believe that she was hammered and had sex with him, because I've heard of that before. If not, well, that sucks.

Agreed, not something I'd like to comment on too much without knowing the people, but I've known guys who were accused of rape following very similar situations, much to their surprise.

 

[qeinar]

if you haven't ever had alchohol before, i kinda doubt what you drank was over 60%. would also seem illogical for your parents to give you anything that strong. xD (also alcohol can't be stronger than 96%, and brewing it to be 96% is haard. moonshine made my unexperienced people hardly ever tip over 90%. Not having tasted alchohol before however would probably make it so that you'd get drunk easier, and the amount someone need to get "tipsy" waries heavily from person to person.

Sad storry, and well as someone mentioned before, claiming it was rape when it was not is not to uncommon, although if it was and she knows the guy.. she could try going to the police. ^^

 

[Shru1kan]

if you haven't ever had alchohol before, i kinda doubt what you drank was over 60%. would also seem illogical for your parents to give you anything that strong. xD (also alcohol can't be stronger than 96%, and brewing it to be 96% is haard. moonshine made my unexperienced people hardly ever tip over 90%. Not having tasted alchohol before however would probably make it so that you'd get drunk easier, and the amount someone need to get "tipsy" waries heavily from person to person.

I see my sarcasm was missed.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

There's a giant hole in your story.
She was drunk, and it was her friend.
That kind of leads me to believe that she was hammered and had sex with him, because I've heard of that before. If not, well, that sucks.

While I would like to agree, it would be horrible for people not to believe you if you claimed such a thing. But yes, in the past girls have gotten drunk, agreed to sex, and claimed rape afterwards. I don't think I can really comment.

Plus, I don't know how long this will last, I guess the title is pretty ambiguous so...

yeah i'm of that mind too, she could very well have gotten drunk, said "ok i'll have sex with you" and then after realized and said "omg what did i just do?" and then claimed rape.

tho without going to the hospital and having a rape kit and all that done, there's no real way to tell. so you just have to take her word for what it is.

there was a guy in England who got charged with rape because the girl got so drunk she claims she blacked out and was raped by him. when asked if she would sleep with him when sober, she said no he's ugly and i really do regret sleeping with him. the judge ruled in the guy's favour and let him off cause he felt she just got really drunk and regretted sleeping with the guy and claimed he raped her when she did agree to it while drunk

 

[x0ny]

I've never been to a new years eve party before, cuz I'm always working. I know people become rather crazy when the alcohol has gone to their heads, so I generally avoid these large gatherings. I only go drinking when my friends from high school call me out, which is normally once a year, cuz we're all so busy, some are in other countries doing their phds etc, and even when we do meet, we're drinking responsibly and talking about maths...