Am I being too cynical?
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Four months is a ludicrously short amount of time to date before marriage. My sister married someone about that quickly one time, he beat her and my nephew frequently. People really need to think about the full implications of their decisions before they jump into them so quickly. It may seem to somebody who is dating someone else that marriage will be like dating the person but forever. What they don't think about is, marriage is kind of like dating the person- but forever (in about 49% of cases).
Last time I was at a wedding reception my thoughts revolved entirely around how many more drinks I could get in before I lost the ability to walk, talk or control my bladder.Pariah87 said:
No, it's just common sense. It's not a matter of cynicism, it's the fact that people don't get to know each other well enough to get married after four months.
A co-worker of mine is getting married and having a child and she's nowhere near responsible enough to do either. I thought "Well, this should be entertaining." The coworker sitting across from me said "So, two weeks tops?" While the girl wasn't there, thank god, but still.
A co-worker of mine is getting married and having a child and she's nowhere near responsible enough to do either. I thought "Well, this should be entertaining." The coworker sitting across from me said "So, two weeks tops?" While the girl wasn't there, thank god, but still.
Yeah but that happens everytime I leave the house assuming I'm not going to work. Luckily it was a rather uneventful evening that ended at 10pm so I was a long way off losing the ability to talk or walk. I don't know why, the double southern comforts don't seem to work anymore...RhombusHatesYou said:
This is my opinion exactly. I wouldn't call it stupid, but a lot of my secondary/highschool friends have kids, are married and they are only 23! Which to me seems far too young. However this is going beyond the topic.Aby_Z said:
This is the whole reason people 'court' for a few years, so they can get to know/live with one another on a day to day basis.
To disagree with pretty much everyone in the thread, yes you're being too cynical.Jroo wuz heer said:
Sure half of all marriages end in divorce, which means half of 'em end with an old gray couple who still love each other. Or at least can still stand each other
As long as you wish the couple well though, even if you wouldn't bet money on their odds, I don't think you have a problem that needs worked out.
That's not cynical that's common sense. To be cynical is to doubt the marriage when they've been dating for years.Jroo wuz heer said:
Its just people jumping into relationships too fast and falling for the same problems. If you're too smart for them you're considered weird.
No I thought the same thing right after I read your post. 4 months is not a long enough time to get to know someone and then decide to marry him/her. You would be too cynical if you had actually said it.
You're definitely cynical, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. It's just your outlook, and based on more evidence than "it's meant to be" so don't worry about it.
Yeah, not cynical, just a realist.
I had a similar situation where it was THREE months after dating, a marriage date was set. The girls mother was just passing away from cancer too, so my initial though was that perhaps somebody was trying to fill a bit of a family hole ASAP since her father had passed away too.
Not to say that's not understandable, or that I was turning my nose up at her loss, but marriage is a commitment that isn't taken as seriously as it should sometimes, and that's not necessarily a good reason to jump in and get hitched.
I had a similar situation where it was THREE months after dating, a marriage date was set. The girls mother was just passing away from cancer too, so my initial though was that perhaps somebody was trying to fill a bit of a family hole ASAP since her father had passed away too.
Not to say that's not understandable, or that I was turning my nose up at her loss, but marriage is a commitment that isn't taken as seriously as it should sometimes, and that's not necessarily a good reason to jump in and get hitched.
There's naive, and there's realistic. There's nothing more nothing between. Cynic is a word created by those who are naive because they want to believe things aren't as bad as those they call cynics say it is.AjimboB said:
OT: You are not cynic, I would think the same thing. Most who marry soon will divorce soon. Most who marry will get a divorce.