Any Trans Escapists?

[Serenegoose]

Did you have many issues with facial hair? or did laser or electrolysis help with that?
I don't have the best skin due to having to shave every day as my facial hair literally grows after 3 hours of shaving and to get a thorough enough shave I usually accidentally cut myself.
Makeup is a ***** for me because of it.
I'm 22 now and I always freak out that I've left it too late and I won't be passable at all >.<, but most of all right now more than anything I just don't want to have to shave my damn face every day.
-Tabs<3-

I've not been able to afford laser or electrolysis yet - however I used to have not ideal facial hair (certainly no nightmare story but inconvenient) hormones have sufficiently softened it, reduced its growth rate, and paled it so that I can go 2 and a bit days between shaving without anything being visible. Hormones definitely help in that regard.

 

[Daedalus1942]

Did you have many issues with facial hair? or did laser or electrolysis help with that?
I don't have the best skin due to having to shave every day as my facial hair literally grows after 3 hours of shaving and to get a thorough enough shave I usually accidentally cut myself.
Makeup is a ***** for me because of it.
I'm 22 now and I always freak out that I've left it too late and I won't be passable at all >.<, but most of all right now more than anything I just don't want to have to shave my damn face every day.
-Tabs<3-

I've not been able to afford laser or electrolysis yet - however I used to have not ideal facial hair (certainly no nightmare story but inconvenient) hormones have sufficiently softened it, reduced its growth rate, and paled it so that I can go 2 and a bit days between shaving without anything being visible. Hormones definitely help in that regard.

Yay! That puts my mind so much at ease, you are awesome. May I add you? I swear it's not cause i think you're cute...
Okies... well maybe it is but still... xD
-Tabs<3-

 

[Serenegoose]

Yay! That puts my mind so much at ease, you are awesome. May I add you? I swear it's not cause i think you're cute...
Okies... well maybe it is but still... xD
-Tabs<3-

Go right ahead, by all means.

 

[Verp]

Hi hetero male here. (Since everyone else say what they are I would have felt left out otherwise)
Just wanted to ask about the asexual/aromance thing.
Aren't they very closeley related psychologically? I mean isn't love/romance an step towards reproduction in a way that sex is?(even though lust and reproduction has differenses)
Mayby an odd question but it interests me and the more I know the less akward I would fell around persons with different sexualities.

I have no doubt that they are closely related, but considering that you can have one without the other leads me to believe that there is some disparity between the two. Hell, I know of people who are sexually attracted to one sex and romantically attracted to another, so they ought to be at least somewhat separate things, even though they're both cogs in the same machine.

I think that one ought to remember that humans are very complex animals and that sex and long-term partnership exist for more than to ensure the successful conceiving of offspring -- conceiving is easy, actually keeping offspring and members of one's kin is the hard part. Not only that, but lacking just a few key parts may shift the focus of humans' natural instincts into making people do something other than the instincts "intend" to, it seems.

Thank you for the answer : )
I also wondered you said that you where aromance right?
If so what are your favorite medias or genres in media?
I only ask since there are quite alot (in my excperience) of romance in books, movies, games etc.
Do you just skim over those parts or... I'm honestly at a loss here since I have no idea what other options there are.

Yeah, I'm aromantic. I'm very fond of lots of different types of media, but especially video games, comics, and films. Romance doesn't bother me that much unless it hogs the spotlight despite not contributing anything important to the experience. Like, having a romantic subplot for the sake of having a romantic subplot or for having an easy way to crank the drama up to eleven is really cheap and annoying. Sex scenes are easy to ignore even when they're bad, but bad romance is quick to spoil an otherwise good piece of work.

Also, there have been some cases where the romantic scenes have been well written, but it's still been somewhat disappointing that they just had to be there because the work could've stood very well on its own without it. Like, you feel like rolling your eyes and going "Gee, not like there aren't enough romantic movies in this world already", but I try to suck it up and remind myself that I'm in the minority.

When it comes to genres... Well, anything that has romance or sex as the main point of the whole deal is something I usually avoid altogether, so no wedding catastrophe movies or dating sims or anything. Otherwise, a lot of things go -- when it comes to film, I like gore, comedy, drama, thriller, sci-fi, fantasy, and then some. When it comes to video games, I enjoy almost everything except JRPG's, simulations, and realistic sports and racing games.

EDIT: Oh yeah! I remembered something. There have actually been some games that have severely squicked me unexpectedly. For example, I felt really uncomfortable that having your character kiss other characters was pretty much mandatory in Bully. Otherwise, I don't mind kissing and such, but it's somehow different when it's MY avatar doing it, it hits just too close to home. Every time I play Bully and other games like that, I have to, well, look away and put my fingers into my ears while the character I control snogs with someone or else I'll feel pretty damn uncomfortable.

 

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Yeah, I'm aromantic. I'm very fond of lots of different types of media, but especially video games, comics, and films. Romance doesn't bother me that much unless it hogs the spotlight despite not contributing anything important to the experience. Like, having a romantic subplot for the sake of having a romantic subplot or for having an easy way to crank the drama up to eleven is really cheap and annoying. Sex scenes are easy to ignore even when they're bad, but bad romance is quick to spoil an otherwise good piece of work.

Also, there have been some cases where the romantic scenes have been well written, but it's still been somewhat disappointing that they just had to be there because the work could've stood very well on its own without it. Like, you feel like rolling your eyes and going "Gee, not like there aren't enough romantic movies in this world already", but I try to suck it up and remind myself that I'm in the minority.

When it comes to genres... Well, anything that has romance or sex as the main point of the whole deal is something I usually avoid altogether, so no wedding catastrophe movies or dating sims or anything. Otherwise, a lot of things go -- when it comes to film, I like gore, comedy, drama, thriller, sci-fi, fantasy, and then some. When it comes to video games, I enjoy almost everything except JRPG's, simulations, and realistic sports and racing games.

Once again thank you for the answer and I really appreciate that you enlighten me on the subject and hope to you all the best in the future.

Edit: Is romance at large squicky to you? I still have some problem with getting the aromantic thing since I quite like the romantic aspects of books and the likes (at least when it is done good)

 

[Verp]

Once again thank you for the answer and I really appreciate that you enlighten me on the subject and hope to you all the best in the future.

Edit: Is romance at large squicky to you? I still have some problem with getting the aromantic thing since I quite like the romantic aspects of books and the likes (at least when it is done good)

At large? No, not really. I'm only truly squicked when my participation is somehow necessary. I couldn't act out romantic scenes in a play, for example. Same with sex -- it tends to be a boring aspect in media, but it doesn't matter to me as long as I don't have a role in it. Even imagining myself having sex or doing things that are romantic in nature feels profoundly unnatural, like trying to imagine myself in an incestuous relationship with either of my parents.

 

[blankedboy]

I'm bisexual (almost as rare as transes i reckon), everyone I know is either in the closet or straight, which is starting to piss me off.
Also, I'm near-certain my dad is VERY homophobic, so I'm gonna try to avoid coming out to him for as long as I can :/

Transes are kuul :3

I'm also Bi but my friends never usually get the signals or even one liners i tend to often say XD.

Same... I dropped at least four hints yesterday, none of them picked up on any of them xD

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

<-- MtF. Welcome to the Escapist!

 

[KefkaCultist]

I'm bisexual (almost as rare as transes i reckon), everyone I know is either in the closet or straight, which is starting to piss me off.
Also, I'm near-certain my dad is VERY homophobic, so I'm gonna try to avoid coming out to him for as long as I can :/

Transes are kuul :3

I'm also Bi but my friends never usually get the signals or even one liners i tend to often say XD.

Same... I dropped at least four hints yesterday, none of them picked up on any of them xD

Hehe only about 8 people (including parents and brother) know of my bisexuality, but I've dropped so many hints in school and no one has caught on to it yet.

 

[interspark]

my sister is trans, she used to be my brother, then one day we were going our seperate ways after visiting our grandma and we stopped at a cafe and he (?) told me that he (?) was transexual and she (?) had changed her sexual identity. looking back i took it suprisingly well, although my mum has yet to break the news to my 7 year old brother, who remains thinking he has a 21 year old brother, which i think is dispicable to be honest

 

[DeASplode]

Do you find sexism offensive?

(Genuine question)

 

[Sleepingzombie]

Some of your wievs seems to similiar to mine, if i remember right. I mean the one "all are born the same and then get a gender".

Also,again if i am correct, you wrote that you considered yourself to be asexual?. If so, that is very interesting for me. My orientation ,for the moment, is just that asexual and I am wondering if there might be something similiar.I dont care if one say he or she and I dont "see" sexes or genders, in mysef as well.

Never been into any gender, am 19 now, but been in love and I recommend it. This is something I have tried to change but newer could or maybe I should say WOULD.

In short: would you mind elaborating on the background(perhaps in a pm).

 

[Izzy Arnold]

Hey there,

I am an Androgynous Female-to-Male Transsexual. If you ever want to chat, I am always around.

 

[Legendairy314]

This is why I love the Escapist. A discussion on "abnormal" sexuality and it hasn't been swallowed up by the many lesser beings of the interwebz. I've never really given any thought into going anything other than straight. It used to be a fear I had in that doing so would be a ticket to shame and embarrassment but I've moved that out of my mind as I figured out that I'm no less than a boob craving dude. As I've moved away from the public schools and overbearing church morals that some friends have thrown at me I always like seeing how we've moved forward as human beings. If only everyone else could be as accepting of other people as some of the users here.

 

[trooper6]

Another FtM here--the second one to check in, I think?

I have always found transsexual and the whole concept of gender changing to be a interesting subject. So I have a few questions for you.

1 - When you was younger was you interested in things targeted for the other gender such as Barbie dolls.

2 - How much was the operations and what kind of procedures and changes did you undertake.

3 - What do you think of the Female to Male Transsexuals.

1. My being transexual doesn't have anything to do with wanting to play with trucks or Barbies. Girls can play with trucks and still be girls, boys can play with Barbies and still be boys. My being transexual has to do with my outside body not matching internal sense of my body. I got that fixed.

2. I've spent a lot of time and money on multiple procedures. But I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

3. I think some of us are awesome and some of us are not. Like everybody else.

 

[Verp]

Do you find sexism offensive?

(Genuine question)

Yeah. Sexual discrimination isn't something I can tolerate, not simply because I don't feel like it, but also because it's my obligation to not tolerate it, especially if it happens in youth work. It is the line of work I'm going to pursue after graduation and any work ethics of mine will be judged by youngsters, who tend to be very harsh judges. Rightfully so.

 

[tthor]

what gender do you most identify with (or what gender were you raised as)?

 

[Verp]

what gender do you most identify with (or what gender were you raised as)?

I was raised as a female in the same way as my completely "normal" sisters, but I don't identify with females any more than I identify with males. I identify with other gender-neutral people like me.

 

[tthor]

what gender do you most identify with (or what gender were you raised as)?

I was raised as a female in the same way as my completely "normal" sisters, but I don't identify with females any more than I identify with males. I identify with other gender-neutral people like me.

socially, do you lean in one direction more than others (such as fashionwise, do you find yourself at all more comfortable wearing boy's clothes than girl's clothes, etc)
and did you ever get surgery to change your gender

EDIT: upon looking up the definitions of transsexual and transgender, i find that my own definition seems to be a bit confused. i always thought both words meant the person was born with both male and female genitalia,