Anyone else not have crippling self esteem problems?

[Angerwing]

A really common occurrence I've noticed here on the Escapist is people complaining about how much they suck. Are self esteem issues something inherent amongst nerds/gamers, or do we just have an over-representation of angsty teens?

Anyway, I was wondering about the flipside of this. The Escapees who think that they're actually awesome.

So Escapist, do you think you are awesome? And why?

Eh, a bit of a condescending message to send out isn't it?

I'm a public performer who has some issues, but I've identified them and for the sake of self-improvement only am working on them.

Do I inspire or deserve the ability to provoke awe in others? You don't, I don't, most people don't.

Condescending how? The nerd/gamer bit? I consider myself one. Hell, I sell computers and electronics for a living.

And:

Causing awe or terror; inspiring wonder or excitement.
The waterfall in the middle of the rainforest was an awesome sight.
The tsunami was awesome in its destructive power.

(informal) Excellent, exciting, remarkable.
That was awesome!
Awesome, dude!


Yeah. If you're just going to say stuff like that, don't bother.

My bad.

Let me put it in a proper manner.

Get over yourself you fucking prick.

Struck a nerve there did I? How about this: Grow up. You're the only person in this thread to have a problem with what I posted. I'm no more self-absorbed than the young guys who say "Woe is me, my life is the worst, no-one could love me." Except I'm not insufferably depressing.

I'm speaking from experience here. I had Depression for a long time, and I tell you, it fucking sucked. I was bullied and ostracised when I was younger for being a nerd. I've walked the hard yards to get where I am, and I think I deserve to give myself a pat on the fucking back. And no, I won't get over myself. I'm going to have to live with this guy for another 70 odd years, I might as well love him while I'm at it.

And no, before you accuse me of it, I don't go around telling everyone about how much better I am than them. I'm tactful, and not socially inept. Something which you apparently have yet to achieve.

 

[Chelsizzle]

I think I'm pretty damn awesome. And if people don't like me they can GTFO.

(I know I'm not perfect, but I love me just the way I am)

 

[CloggedDonkey]

I don't have self esteem problems. Social problems, on the other hand...

As for why I'm awesome... I'm only awesome to a certain degree. I'm pretty smart, a good writer, have a few very close friends, but I'm a little none-social (I don't appose socializing, I'm just not very social), I'm a bit of a coward, and I don't get the best grades in the world. But hey, I don't let that get me down. It will get better.

 

[yoyo13rom]

Well... I adopted Calumon from the cold streets of Birmingham around the time they were working. I actually made a few threads talking about my anti depressants, one when I had my Crisis Core avatar (If you remember that you memory is unbelievable) and another in which apparently I was acting normally when I thought my anti depressants were to blame.

NO! They weren't, and while I'm glad I'm off them and would recommend that no-one takes them unless they see a psychiatrist and after 3 separate 1 hour long sessions he gives you a note saying "Give this to some person in some shop to get some happy pills." Then, and ONLY then should you take them.

Calumon: I have a better cure! Ratchet and Clank, Anime and HUGS! ^^

Hmmm, a few threads about anti depressants you say... I guess it would be interesting to check them out(outside it's raining and except The Escapist and Mafia 2, there's not that much to do around here today).
Anyway I have to agree, when pills are truly needed they do the work fine, but a good anime/game fixes most low self esteem problems.

 

[Mikeyfell]

Self Esteem issues are good for your health
don't believe me?

"I'm to skinny and weak for her to go out with me"
vs.
"I'm fine just the way I am"

which of those attitudes will get you to the Gym?

before you start complaining this attitude worked for me

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

I don't have self esteem problems. Social problems, on the other hand...

As for why I'm awesome... I'm only awesome to a certain degree. I'm pretty smart, a good writer, have a few very close friends, but I'm a little none-social (I don't appose socializing, I'm just not very social), I'm a bit of a coward, and I don't get the best grades in the world. But hey, I don't let that get me down. It will get better.

Applies to me as well. Except I wouldn't call myself a coward, I just have almost nonexistent coping skills.

 

[Snowden's Secret]

Erm...No, I don't.

/stands up and leaves the room

 

[Bat Vader]

Some people would say I have some self esteem problems but I don't believe I do. The only two opinions that I have of myself is that I am a geek and a gamer. I don't consider myself awesome because I have no need to be awesome.

 

[Naheal]

I had some self-esteem issues, but they were cleared up recently.

 

[the rye]

crap i'm 18 and i still have no self confidence or self esteem, although i really don't care if i have low self esteem. i mean at the end of the day i just have to see it as a irrational part of myself... well i try anyway.

 

[Cazza]

I'm meh. I'm ok at stuff I wouldn't say I have any problems with self esteem. I do with self generated ideas. People keep telling me that I should make more of mine own ideas instead agreeing with other peoples ideas.

 

[Jedoro]

Anyone who's seen my wallet [http://www.bmfwallets.com/wallets.htm#embroidered] knows I'm not lacking in self-esteem. As for why, well I'm not overweight, don't work out yet keep building muscle somehow, rarely to never get sick, have a decent-paying job, and know I can take whatever's dished out to me.

 

[Betancore]

I'm alright - I have self esteem problems, sure, but they're nowhere near crippling. Every morning, I look in the mirror. I consider all my insecurities, and then tell myself 'No one else cares, get over yourself.' And I immediately feel better.

 

[Dogstile]

Its just a case of low self esteem guys needing a forum for support.

Screw that, i'm awesome, sex incarnate and i have great sex hair. I'm horrible at guitar, but on the flipside i'm great at annoying people with it. One of my favourite things to do, i'm great.

 

[Superior Mind]

I've had self esteem issues since I started school. Was majorly picked on early on. I eventually learned that violence does actually solve a lot of problems whe I was about 12 and at age 16 most bullies tend to grow up a bit. By the end of school I was happy, confident, intelligent, had a good group of friends etc. etc.

But to be honest the self-doubt still lingers a lot. I know I'm aweosme of course. I'm a decent artist, I play a mean guitar, I'm fit and healthy, I'm in the army, I'm well travelled, I have a solid job that I enjoy, I have a University degree. But still the doubt continues.

I find the most important thing is to just work on it. Never just accept yourself as "socially awkward" and put it down to past experiences or "just who you are" because that's bullshit. Treat it was somthing to work on, jump at opportunities to put yourself on the line a bit, sign up for things that are completely unlike you and way outside your comfort zone, (remember how I said I'm in the army?)

No-one's perfect and it doesn't help that we're often our own worst critics. You can't let that kind of thing rule you though. Tell yourself that you're awesome an you might end up believing it.

 

[neoontime]

Sorry, I'm one of them.
But for the most part I definetly think I'm awesome.

 

[HT_Black]

The folks I know say I'm plutonium, but on the inside I feel like mud. Seriously, it's weird: I get compliments hurled my way left and right, but I invariably feel awful about myself. Kinda strange, if you ask me.

 

[SovietSecrets]

I'm not sure how awesome I am and I don't care really. Everyone's got different opinions on it anyway. I just do my thing... I'll let others worry about if any of it is any good or not...

All that needs to be said. Just do what you do and enjoy it. Don't try to please others because you are afraid of what they might think of you.

 

[ViaticalTarsier]

No self esteem issues here.... Definitely the opposite problem with me. I'm arrogant and extremely confident no matter what the situation or how life is going at the moment. I can't really understand how people have esteem issues, but I guess everyone is different.....