Are all the gentlemen dead now?

[Thaius]

Feminism has killed chivalry. And I'm not trying to be sexist, or say that women are not equal to men, but despite women's lack of some rights, they used to at least be respected. Then women's rights movement gave them the rights they deserved: good, that's how it should be. Then feminism came along and started saying that men and women were not only equal, they were exactly the same. Which is just not true. But with that belief came the idea that women are not deserving of any special treatment, and they lost the respect they once had. Sad.

 

[Evil the White]

Me being a gentleman is about my only real selling point, unless they like mildly crazy nerds.

But yeah, I was raised to be respectful and to have values, so I treat women with the proper respect. Trust my luck to date a feminist at one point. She hated it. Espcially when I brought her a present as a surprise.

 

[SnakeF]

*drops monocle*

I say, what a disgrace!

Indeed *Puffs on Cigar* Young Men these days are not true Gentlemen are they *Second Puff*

 

[omega 616]

I hold doors for women, talk to them with respect, verbally tear apart any man who speaks like the dregs of society, and act as much as I can with utmost chivalry.

I have had one girlfriend, never had women interested in me, in fact, lost women to assholes and prigs. Been treated as a doormat and a nuisance.

I'm starting to think that women in general are earning the quality of man they recieve today.

I feel sorry for them. And I end up drinking alone and angry.

As the French say, C'est la vive.

What this guy said.

I am perfectly nice to the girl's who I live with at the moment, (I live in a sheltered
accommodation) I make them laugh etc. But none of them have even considered me in that way, (not that I am trying to get into there pants 'cos most of them are like bikes so you have no idea what they have) yet the guys who talk like crap to them and make them upset, they choose to sleep with.

Am I missing something?

 

[Nepeccel]

Well you can't make sweeping judgements about that guy, OP, when all you heard was one conversation. I sometimes talk to my girlfriend like that, but that is because I am a sarcastic person and some people don't detect the sarcasm. Do I care? No, because she knows I am being myself. Is she offended? No.

You've got to understand that some things you may find offensive, another person doesn't. He is probably a sweetie pie normally.

 

[BNguyen]

Well, in that situation, maybe she 'wears the pants' in the relationhship and so he is immediately given the power of insult to make up for his lack of financial contribution.

OT:I highly doubt that all the gentlemen are dead now, we are just suppressing our inner courtesies when we see all the women who say they want a sensitive guy go sleep with the emotionless brute. After all, what is the point of being a gentleman if no-one stays around o benefit from it?

tell me about it
same way for nerds, at first it's like "let's just stay friends" as they date the athletics, but after nerds(not including all but most) get great jobs and become powerful, that's when the girls (that sometimes end up in these loveless marriages you see on TV) start to go after the nerds.
I mean, what is it about the girls who want to go after the guy with muscles but is an insensitive brute and when they have problems, they try to go to the guy that has manners and is a gentleman?

 

[Captain Schpack]

Nope. I'm still here.

In all seriousness, I pride myself on being as gentlemanly as possible. Holding doors open for people, and helping them if they need it and always making sure all my friends are in a happy mood. Although it doesn't happen much, I'm always their fir a friend who need shelp.

 

[Evil the White]

Me being a gentleman is about my only real selling point, unless they like mildly crazy nerds.

But yeah, I was raised to be respectful and to have values, so I treat women with the proper respect. Trust my luck to date a feminist at one point. She hated it. Espcially when I brought her a present as a surprise.

 

[Balaxe]

Me being a gentleman is about my only real selling point, unless they like mildly crazy nerds.

But yeah, I was raised to be respectful and to have values, so I treat women with the proper respect. Trust my luck to date a feminist at one point. She hated it. Espcially when I brought her a present as a surprise.

Me being a gentleman is about my only real selling point, unless they like mildly crazy nerds.

But yeah, I was raised to be respectful and to have values, so I treat women with the proper respect. Trust my luck to date a feminist at one point. She hated it. Espcially when I brought her a present as a surprise.

Did you just post the same post half an hour after your original post?

OT: I try to do my best to treat all women equaly and treat them with respect, but I do get pissed at people who don't treat them equaly. Though there are a few girls I know who will got to a party, get drunk and walk around with there boobs out, they get no respect from me.

 

[Axeli]

I assume it was the "stupid stupid stupid" part that pissed you off, not that he expected her to pay in the first place. Which sounds more like being a dick than unchivalrous to me.
I don't know... If you want equality, you gotta take all of it. This does mean chivalry should die. However, I'm not saying that means you shouldn't be nice to your girlfriend (or boyfriend, for that matter), which this guy clearly wasn't, at least in that situation.

A girl once came out and said I must be gay because I didn't oggle her breasts and make comments concerning other females in the room. She laughed when I said I have respect for people and I find that stuff lewd. I think people in general have lost respect for each other and just expect it (meaning lack of respect and general courtesy) to come from others. And no Im not gay XD

Heard this one before. It's funny how some girls seem to think they got the other sex all figured out. Though it sounds like she might have been joking or teasing you.

At least guys admit that they have no fucking clue, eh?

 

[BNguyen]

As for me, I subconsciously act gentlemenly to just about everybody at the college
I'll hold doors for people who've just arrive when I've waited for over 15 minutes
I'll even help others try to study when I clearly hardly understand any of the material.
I even refuse to speak like I normally would at home when I'm out in crowds
(I guess this is what has kept me from getting a relationship)

but even so, I despise it when women go after the insensitive jerk now and try to go after the gentlemen after they've suffered a terrible relationship
"Oh yeah, I'm looking for the sensitive type but I can't leave this muscle head because of his huge _____"

 

[stonethered]

Yea, the world could use some more courtesy these days couldn't it?

I think it's because the self-restraint involved in being polite is incorrectly fiewed as a lack of ability rather than a refusal to exercise that ability. Sure I could ogle every set of boobs that came by but if I'm there with a girl than it would be impolite to give her less attention than she deserves, and if ogling other women is the attention she deserves than why would I be there with her in the first place?

Sadly, failure to act like a horny dumbass is interpreted as being an impotent twit. Not all guys think about naked women and having sex all the time, despite what many would have you think(no, I'm not gay). Sometimes, I'd really rather just have a nice conversation, or watch a movie. But since I don't go out 'drinking and wenching'('s how I think of it anyways) I'm viewed as a loser with no-life. Can't really blame people for being cynics when they act decently and get mocked for it.

So no, all the gentlemen are not dead; they're just unpopular.

{This would work well as a poll}

Edit: and specifficly on the note of courtesy; I have yet to find anything that makes me feel quite as good as holding a door for people. It's one of the few things I do and it actually makes me feel like a good person.

 

[Triangulon]

They say chivalry is dead but I blame it on lack of dragons to rescue fair maidens from (apart from Michael Atkinson of course - bosh satire!).

Otherwise I agree with most of what's been said. All we can do as gentlemen is stand by our morals by jove until the bally lasses get their heads sorted. Anyone for a sherry?

 

[Jedoro]

Gentlemen are dying off because women don't want us anymore. I make the effort to be polite and courteous, and I try to pick up the whole bill even when it's not a date, just friends. Women say they want the sensitive guy but that's usually after they've made the mistake of hooking up with assholes and want to settle down in their 30's, like we should all wait around a decade for them to make up their damn minds.

It's a long road ahead, gents. *Pulls out cigars*

 

[SnipErlite]

*shrug* Be chivalrous and some women yell at you for being sexist, don't be chivalrous and they yell at you for being sexist.

Although most are alright - Personally I try to be pretty polite

If they be all snobby about what I should and shouldn't do for them I be a right bastard - I'm polite because I choose to be, not because I "should".

=]

 

[IceStar100]

I use to be then I got kicked in the nuts and called a pig for opening a door. None to say I'm not anymore and some how I endded up ahead. Be a prick it pays better.