Are all the gentlemen dead now?

[VinnyKings]

Today when I was going for a coffee I overheard a man talking to his girlfriend about the bill.

Him: Oh are you going to pay.
Her: Yeah, Oh wait sorry I forgot my purse.
He then turned to the cashier and quietly said: Stupid stupid stupid.

I was seriously disgusted at how someone could treat another person like that. I don't consider myself as a gentlemen but I at least try to be as courteous around people as I can.

Edit: The guy didn't have a sarcastic tone and Yes I don't really know the whole situation but the fact that he called her stupid in front of someone pretty much over steps the line IMO.

 

[Space Spoons]

When I see stuff like that, I try to remember that I don't know all the facts of the situation. Maybe that guy was having a bad day, or maybe he's going through a rough patch with his girlfriend.

Even so, it doesn't excuse outright rudeness like that. Shameful stuff.

 

[DrunkWithPower]

Sometimes I think people just need to take a page out of Freddie Mercury's book.

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[Vrex360]

That does strike me as needlessly rude for a simple mistake.
However I like to think of myself as extrememly gentlemanly to women so often I get disgusted at social rudeness like that. Because I really don't think that there is any justification for that kind of behavior.

 

[Biosophilogical]

Well, in that situation, maybe she 'wears the pants' in the relationhship and so he is immediately given the power of insult to make up for his lack of financial contribution.

OT:I highly doubt that all the gentlemen are dead now, we are just suppressing our inner courtesies when we see all the women who say they want a sensitive guy go sleep with the emotionless brute. After all, what is the point of being a gentleman if no-one stays around o benefit from it?

 

[Cherry Cola]

I'm not dead. And I can be a gentleman to women.

Although I prefer to be a dick.

 

[Rancid0ffspring]

Do you know the situation that was going on? Do you know if maybe they'd agree'd to one of them paying for one thing & the other paying for something else later? No? Maybe they now wouldn't have enough cash on them for, say, the food shopping they were going to go do.

Maybe you are judging a situation that you know little about

 

[Baby Tea]

Oh I'm an old romantic.
I'll drop everything for my wife. She had a bad day at work, and didn't feel like walking home (it's a short 15 minute walk) and asked if I could go pick her up and drive her home. It was the middle of the day, I'm at work busy, and I said 'Yup, sit tight' I went to my boss, said I was stepping out, and left.

If you don't treat the woman (Or man) you love in a way that shows you actually love them, then you're missing something. That goes for both parties.

 

[Robert632]

i'm a gentleman, or at least i try to be.

 

[Quinn Davis]

I hold doors for women, talk to them with respect, verbally tear apart any man who speaks like the dregs of society, and act as much as I can with utmost chivalry.

I have had one girlfriend, never had women interested in me, in fact, lost women to assholes and prigs. Been treated as a doormat and a nuisance.

I'm starting to think that women in general are earning the quality of man they recieve today.

I feel sorry for them. And I end up drinking alone and angry.

As the French say, C'est la vive.

 

[Quinn Davis]

Yeah, he sure knew how to treat a woman.........


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[Bellvedere]

The fact that he made her pay or that he called her stupid? Having not observed the situation I don't really find it that offensive. For number one I don't think the guy should always pay... I mean how much is being a girlfriend worth? Couple of hundred a month? If it was already decided she was going to pay (they might take it in turns?) then it makes sense that he'd ask her. And how serious was he when he called her stupid?

 

[Abedeus]

In before:

 

[Communist partisan]

The gentlemens are not dead i'm one but it depend on the behavior of the women if shes rude bitchy or trying to boss the world around i'm the biggest bastard that ever lived

 

[The Maddest March Hare]

I hold doors for women, talk to them with respect, verbally tear apart any man who speaks like the dregs of society, and act as much as I can with utmost chivalry.

I have had one girlfriend, never had women interested in me, in fact, lost women to assholes and prigs. Been treated as a doormat and a nuisance.

I'm starting to think that women in general are earning the quality of man they recieve today.

I feel sorry for them. And I end up drinking alone and angry.

As the French say, C'est la vive.

Pretty much exactly this. It's amazing how you hear women discussing the nice man they would like to end up with, but the nice guys usually get walked all over and then left for the guy who treats them like shit.

Ah well, at least all the remaining gentlemen can sit back with a nice beverage and laugh at the self destructive nature of these people

 

[LegendofHugh]

I'm 18 years old. I just finished high school and had schoolies, which for those from outside australia, it's a celebration of leaving school where friends book a house on the coast, get lots of alcohol and party for an ENTIRE week: usually most people from the same school go to the same place, so we all know each other.

I came back from schoolies as I left: a virgin. I don't see it as a big deal, but most of my classmates (i.e. not virgins) see it as a sign of complete social ineptitude (which is fairly accurate: I have mild asperger's) and/or pussiness.

My parents raised me to be respectful. At schoolies I had plenty of chances to have sex for the first time, but I knocked them all back, because the girl in question was considerably drunker than me. I know people in my class that would have taken advantage of the opportunity to "score", a term which in itself is objectifying women.

Never say chivalry is dead.

 

[Plinglebob]

In regards to the story, its hard to make a judgement. The "Oh, are you going to pay" sounds like she may have suggested going and that she'd pay, but then after she found she couldn't. Thats the only time I'd say that reaction would be close to acceptable.

Personaly, I always try to be a gentleman. Partly because it can be quite enjoyable and it means you can get a lot of social currency you can use later. The other reason is I'm annoyingly hard-wired into being a nice guy so even if I wanted to be a dick, I couldn't. Sadly, even though women always say they want the nice guy, it never seems to work like that in real life.

 

[FROGGEman2]

*drops monocle*

I say, what a disgrace!