Are you afraid of Commitment?

[DanielBrown]

I supposed I used to be.
The time between when I was 14-18 I was a "player". Found at least one new girl every night I was out drinking(we drunk several times every week). Those that I actually liked enough to start a relationship with ended quickly. Think my record during that time was two weeks before I broke up with them.

Brofive?

 

[lee1287]

Love Commitemnt, Love having the security of a real long lasting relationship. Beats being with diffrent girls.

 

[Jark212]

Well, I'm about to sign away my life to Uncle Sam for 4 years, so I don't think that I am...

 

[Alon Shechter]

Well, if "relationship" is not only in a romantic way, then my last relationship has been a total emotional-tearing hurtful torture.
It was with my father.
I'm now receiving professional help.
It's fun, you meet a lot of special, sometimes bloodthirsty people.


I'm serious about the bloodthirsty thing.

 

[Lono Shrugged]

No, I actually quite like the feeling of a strait jacket.


Also you only need to be afraid of commitment if you are not committed. (If that makes sense)

 

[creager91]

I supposed I used to be.
The time between when I was 14-18 I was a "player". Found at least one new girl every night I was out drinking(we drunk several times every week). Those that I actually liked enough to start a relationship with ended quickly. Think my record during that time was two weeks before I broke up with them.

Brofive?

Haha I can give you the brofive for it

While I applaud the long-distance relationship, it's very different when you're with that person a lot. Being in a relationship while only seeing each other every few months (If that often) is quite different from being in a relationship where you see each other daily. I'm certainly not saying you aren't committed. Don't get me wrong. But while staying together over long distances shows you can ignore the people around you in favor of your boyfriend, staying together when you're with each other more often shows you are committed despite the 'little things' that always add up.

My wife and I did long distance, and saw each other once a month for almost 2 years.
Now we've been married for almost 3 years.

I'm not afraid of commitment at all. I used to think I'd never be married, to be honest, then I met my wife and I was a changed man. She is, hands down, the best thing that has happened to me. Being married is just awesome. Some people are worried they'll get sick of that one person, and I was at first, but that's totally gone now. She's my best friend, and it's amazing to go through life with her. I wouldn't change it for anything.

I guess that's encouraging to hear, like how did you change though?

Do you know why you get angry when they say it? Like what are you thinking when they say it? I'm just curious as to why it makes you so angry. Although I do think a few months of just casual dating isn't long enough to declare you love someone. I like to think "love" hasn't become a overused word that lost its meaning. At least to me it hasn't. And if you were wondering, I'm a die hard romantic. xD

And my boyfriend is a Gemini as well, so I can see why you're so difficult sometimes.

So you can understand the duality of the twins and the flirty nature I suppose, thats a good thing then. I honestly don't know why I get angry, my parents have/still have a great 25 + year relationship, my brother just got married to a wonderful girl thats perfect for him and was his HS sweetheart 8 years dating before they married. My guy friends are more open to relationships and my little sister/bestfriend is always in a relationship. I guess I just feel that once two people decide to commit then they just find reasons to be mad and bar someones freedom.

Like I'm not allowed to flirt because I'm commited to you? to me flirting is harmless and if a girl doesnt understand that when I commit I commit 100% and mistrust usually just makes me do the thing the think Ive been doing anyway (makes me fear I might cheat just because i cant convince her that I'm not cheating and my thought process usually leads to "well if she doesnt believe me then I might as well do it anyway"

Also, like if a girl that I'm "talking to finds someone she wants to be in a relationship with and he wants her to be with him then I don't mind if she pursues it and I just tell her if it doesn't work out she can call me up again, If that same thing happened between two committed people then it would be a hate filled breakup. I guess what im trying (and probably failing to do so) to say is that TO ME relationships are a breeding ground for jealousy and anger

 

[FamoFunk]

No, I like commitment and I like the freedom of being a "player" too. Depending on who the perso is, obviously.

The onlt think I dislike about commitment - when it comes to an end from either you or the other person. It's hard to get over if it's been a long, serious one.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I'm not afraid of commitment. I just don't want to play.

Relationships are a waste of time and energy. I don't have the emotional capacity or maturity to deal with everything you have to deal with, and I'm not interested in sex. There's really no reason for me to get involved with that crap.

Romance is like pure oxygen. There's like a fourty percent chance it will blow up in your face and burn everyone to death.

 

[loc978]

Afraid of commitment? No. I'm just vehemently opposed to the concept.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Im not afraid of commitment, commitment is afraid of me.

Translation: I don't has a girlfriend.

What he said.
No, I'm not afraid of commitment, I'm afraid of several other things that are impede relationships (rejection, change, rejection, heartbreak, did I say rejection?), but no commitment isn't one of them.

Yeah I feel you on the fear of rejection, I have seen it in my friends so many times, It helped me to think that everybody has different standards and even though one person might not find you attractive that doesnt mean that everyone feels the same, like I do not find megan fox attractive (partially because shes retarded) but I find Ke$ha to be my celebrity crush haha just thinking about how big of a freak she must be gets me goin. My point is that if you have more confidence than you honestly deal with less rejection because when a man is confident its like an aura surrounds him that women just feed off of. Don;t know if I helped but good luck in the future

In that case I'm screwed. Ha ha, thanks anyway though.

I know what you mean about Meagan Fox. Sure she's hot, but she also looks and acts like a slut and I don't know about anyone else, but I for one do not find that attractive; quite the contrary in fact.

 

[Sebenko]

I'm in a committed relationship, have been for... a while now.

It's great, but the moment things get slightly rocky, a thousand little worries flood in to terrify me.

Like at the moment.

 

[creager91]

Im not afraid of commitment, commitment is afraid of me.

Translation: I don't has a girlfriend.

What he said.
No, I'm not afraid of commitment, I'm afraid of several other things that are impede relationships (rejection, change, rejection, heartbreak, did I say rejection?), but no commitment isn't one of them.

Yeah I feel you on the fear of rejection, I have seen it in my friends so many times, It helped me to think that everybody has different standards and even though one person might not find you attractive that doesnt mean that everyone feels the same, like I do not find megan fox attractive (partially because shes retarded) but I find Ke$ha to be my celebrity crush haha just thinking about how big of a freak she must be gets me goin. My point is that if you have more confidence than you honestly deal with less rejection because when a man is confident its like an aura surrounds him that women just feed off of. Don;t know if I helped but good luck in the future

In that case I'm screwed. Ha ha, thanks anyway though.

I know what you mean about Meagan Fox. Sure she's hot, but she also looks and acts like a slut and I don't know about anyone else, but I for one do not find that attractive; quite the contrary in fact.

The slut thing used to be a turnoff for me but my bestfriend at school is kind of a slut when shes single and I think just being as good friends with her as I am is changing the mentality that all sluts are nasty because some of them are just very sexual people but still good people, probably why i developed a crush on of all people Ke$ha haha

 

[creager91]

I'm in a committed relationship, have been for... a while now.

It's great, but the moment things get slightly rocky, a thousand little worries flood in to terrify me.

Like at the moment.

That's another reason I like being the carefree "player"

also sorry for the possible 2X post

 

[BENZOOKA]

When I was 14-15, I was on a walk with a girlfriend (a year older) I had at the time. I can't remember what we were talking about, but suddenly she started talking about how we'd be walking together like this when we would be 80-years old and went on about growing old together. She wasn't talking about the next few years even, but about several decades from that point. That kind of threw me off, and I broke up with her, a few weeks after. We had been together for about a year or several months at least, but I didn't have too strong feelings for her, knew it wouldn't work and she was more of the clinging sidekick -type, so it wasn't only because of those things she said.

But that's the first and only time I got kind of freaked out about commitment.

I had rather many girlfriends during those times, the longest time being single from 13 to 19 years old was two months. Despite that I've always been a bit shy, and not that outspoken outside small groups. I was with my last girlfriend, who I really loved, for more than two and and a half years. That partly fell apart and faded to end because I was looking for more commitment than she was. And now I think I'm side-railing somewhere... So, on the topic: No.

And OP: <quote=Voltaire>It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue
The first time isn't all that special. It's a cliche, I know, but you both don't really know what you're doing, and it's awkward and all that. Very exciting, for certain, but the thought of saving the first time is kind of ludicrous. You'll be much better off with getting a more realistic look at the act after first having fun with someone. The first time is never the best one. Just the first time of getting into the absolutely amazing world of sex. I really do think that having sex with a person you love is a hell of a lot better than a one-night-stand. But sex is also hell of a lot better, when you've gotten some experience. But to each their own. Don't get me wrong. I'm not telling you what to do.

 

[Callate]

I'm about to celebrate my 11th wedding anniversary.

 

[steampunk42]

i actually enjoy a commitment....i like it when i really get to know about a person to the point that i like all the little details about said person

 

[TheFPSisDead]

I'm 23 years old, have been with the same woman for over 6 years and am engaged to be married... so i'm gonna go with no. I'm not afraid of commitment.

 

[Zechnophobe]

Are you afraid of commitment?

Er... well, maybe?