Awkward Male/Female Questions
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Communication seems to be beyond the grasp of both sexes. Better to see a bunch of "wimminz mi rite" or "you cant change men tee hee" than to actually be adults and talk things over.TopazFusion said:
You'd be surprised how often stuff like that can be thrown around.Zachary Amaranth said:
It's actually really alarming.
OT: Just because you don't belong to a group doesn't mean they're some sort of magical creature that operates on inscrutable anti-logic. If you wanna know, ask.
Wait.
I mean, ask them. Not an internet gaming forum.
Very rarely does gender ever factor into my understanding of someone. Worst case scenario is that they are acting like the stereotype of their gender, in which case I can understand the socialisation that probably occurred, even if I never experience it myself.
because he was a dickdisgruntledgamer said:
[quote/]Ever wonder how to get your GF to try certain things, or why she won't try certain thing ? .[/quote]
you can eather force her or just explain it in a way that makes it sound less uncomfortable...or say "jut once and then you don't have to do it again" but if shes not comfortable shes not comfortable
Stock answer: Women don't understand that when a man says, "I don't like X," it means he doesn't like X. Men don't understand that when a woman says, "I don't like X," it means she doesn't care about X at this moment, she's still upset about something he did six weeks ago which, whatever it was, had nothing whatsoever to do with X.
Real answer: With few exceptions, humans are poor communicators. With slightly more exceptions, humans are willing to lie to get what they want. Mix miscommunication with a healthy dose of outright deception and it's a wonder any two humans ever stayed together longer than it takes to boink.
Real answer: With few exceptions, humans are poor communicators. With slightly more exceptions, humans are willing to lie to get what they want. Mix miscommunication with a healthy dose of outright deception and it's a wonder any two humans ever stayed together longer than it takes to boink.
Dags90 said:
I'd call this thread ending sensibility, but the questions seem geared toward heterosexuals, and as a heterosexual I'm sure we will need a reason to ***** about the opposite sex doing irrational things intrinsic to their gender because, well, because we need to.Dags90 said:
I also love the magic thinking that goes with these kinds of threads. Like there's some kind of mystery as to why she, as the op frames it, is stubborn and selfish, and he, again as framed here, is a skirt-chasing fickle douche. Maybe she's stubborn because that's how she is? Maybe he's an unreliable lech because he is? In either case genitals notwithstanding.
And to be honest these as generalizations are off, as she's more likely to chase better males and he's more likely to be sexually reluctant, granted the try new things portion implies sexual unease. Look up hypergamy if you don't believe me. Statistically she's more likely to leave him for "better" men, and statistically she's more likely to divorce for said reasons.
But here I go again attempting to respect a good reply and turning into a soap-boxing moment. I need to get some sweets in me before I get really cranky.
And there is the reason I never lie to my wife anymore. I did at the start of the relationship thinking "hey, i'm in the army, i'm in a different country she'll never know I was out on the beer all night and not working hard like I said I was"...Harley Q said:
Somehow, she always knew.
Now I just don't bother.
If I go out and get so rat arsed drunk I end up coming home and passing out on my kitchen floor there is no point lying about how much I drank.
It annoys her when I end up in that state because the day after i'm pretty useless (I get amazingly bad hangovers) but I only go out once in a blue moon so she doesn't blow up about it.
Never saw the point in lying about anything else. She trusts me and knows full well i'd never cheat. I didn't cheat when I was in a different country i'm sure as hell not going to do it when I have to fall asleep right next to her and she has access to both my testicles and a sharp knife.
On Topic....
The only thing I want to know from my wife, and she's give me no reasonable explanation so far, is why she decides to do the housework when i'm just getting into something (be it a film, game, tv show .. whatever).
It's every bloody time. We get up, have a brew, and then she starts doing something of her own. I think "yay, i've got a while yet" but nooo. As soon as I start doing something she jumps up and it's time for me to clean.
Why don't I do it first? I don't hear you ask.
Well, I don't do it up to her standards (she expects the house to be immaculate, i'm happy with "less dirty than it was to start with") and she likes to point out what i'm doing wrong as we go along. Is a thing we do as a loving couple. She likes to clean and tell me what to do and I like to pretend i'm paying attention.
That's a joke right? Because the rest of your post seems decently serious and doesn't seem like bad advice, but this line doesn't sit right with me.Vault101 said:
I really want to find a way to work that into a sentence in my everyday life.Icehearted said:
OT: Different people act differently. I don't think that any one is really qualified to give a definitive answer of why someone else did something. Also I think I heard more gay slang in this thread than I have in the rest of the year.
Hey, in my defence, it started out with me wanting to know why her lollipop was wearing a skirt... then we got to talking... then the inevitable exchange of cash for sexual favours.disgruntledgamer said:
Go work in a hospital emergency unit, you'll get sick of saying it pretty quickly.Winthrop said:
Not surprised, so much as saddened, I bet.SamtheDeathclaw said:
Especially not this site, especially not about women.
That also works for hetero couples, if they are smart and not just blame everything on each others gender, just treat your partner as a person and talk about stuff. actually talk about everything absolutely honest. And dont forget to allways consider what they are saying and be a reflected person.Dags90 said:
Works great for me (and my bf)
To answer your question, "Because it's so goooooddd~..." You know it, the other knows it. Just don't stop baby.Binnsyboy said:'What's your name, again?'
I'm getting quite adept at talking my way out of that one
[small]Oh God, why are all my relationships so shallow and unfulfilling?[/small]
I have a question, how do I make a good impression on her parents? Her mum likes me but I have only met her mum at the party me and my girlfriend hooked up at. She is going to ask me to meet her parents sooner or later, I don't want to stuff it up.
didnt Homer say "There is nothing nobler or more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends."? maybe I'm confusing stuff here...aba1 said:
captcha: gathers moss
K, a stable relationship might not be as exciting as constant drama, but I sure dont want that crap.