BDSM and You!

[Kinokohatake]

I have been in a BDSM and open relationship with my wife for 7 years now. We have kept it mostly

to ourselves as others tend to view it. While at work the other day a group discussion somehow

got on the subject of BDSM. Most of the women and a few of the guys stated they thought it was

only guys who were secretly rapists who enjoyed BDSM. This completely ignores the women who are

dominant in relationships. I also remember a thread on here a bit ago about threesomes and a guy

said the only reason a girl would be okay with a threesome is if she is okay with being in an

abusive relationship.


So I ask Escapists, what is your view of BDSM? Is it acceptable? Does it scare you? Or are you also a person like me who views chains and knives with a bit of glee?


Edit: If someone is interested in looking into it a bit more, or if you are curious and wanting to dip your toe in I would suggest visiting Link Removed-Moderator

It is like a kinky facebook. Though you must be 18 or older to join.

 

[Kinokohatake]

I have been in a BDSM and open relationship with my wife for 7 years now. We have kept it mostly

to ourselves as others tend to view it. While at work the other day a group discussion somehow

got on the subject of BDSM. Most of the women and a few of the guys stated they thought it was

only guys who were secretly rapists who enjoyed BDSM. This completely ignores the women who are

dominant in relationships. I also remember a thread on here a bit ago about threesomes and a guy

said the only reason a girl would be okay with a threesome is if she is okay with being in an

abusive relationship.


So I ask Escapists, what is your view of BDSM? Is it acceptable? Does it scare you? Or are

you also a person like me who views chains and knives with a bit of glee?

 

[Avaholic03]

As long as it's between consenting adults, I don't care what goes on in someone's bedroom. Personally I'm not interested in BDSM or many of the other "deviant" sexual lifestyles, but I guess I can undersand why some people are, and it's certainly not my right to say otherwise.

Also, I gotta ask: what's with the double spacing?

 

[kouriichi]

As long as its kept in the bedroom, or conventions meant for BDSM, i see no problem with it

 

[ShasOMiKael]

Only when it's combined with Yuri.

You can do what you want, it's your life and I'm not going to change it to something i like.

 

[Dargocitfer]

I imagine that many people here will agree with the first few posters and say that it's fine if that's what you're in to.

I, myself, am a wimp and a coward, and I can't deal with even the slightest amount of pain (I don't even like back rubs if they get too aggressive), so I can say it's not for *me*. But I'm certainly not going to tell someone else how to live their life.

The average nerd/geek (into which category many gamers fall) has endured so much abuse and ridicule for their passions that we tend to be very Libertarian when it comes to things outside the "mainstream". At least, that has been my experience, and it's one of the reasons why I love "nerd culture".

 

[Mordekaien]

Your life, your choice. Personally I don't wanna try it, nor do I care much about it.

 

[FrostyChick]

I quite like it. Although it has to be kept to the bedroom.

I'm dominant, I absolutely can't stand being submissive.

And I am one of the kinds of people who views chains and knives with an almost unhealthy glee.

 

[thePyro_13]

I'll admit that BDSM scares me, and don't see how threesomes relate to abusive relationships, but whatever people enjoy and consent to in the comfort of their own(or someone else's?) home is fine.

So long as people aren't being injured or otherwise negatively impacted by your actions.

 

[FrostyChick]

I quite like it. Although it has to be kept to the bedroom.

I'm dominant, I absolutely can't stand being submissive.

And I am one of the kinds of people who views chains and knives with an almost unhealthy glee.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

Whatever floats your boat.

I personally find the idea of harming my significant other abhorrent.

 

[Ghengis John]

I ASK YOU WHY THIS IS TWO THREADS!?!?

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.314499-BDSM-and-You

 

[LilithSlave]

Some of the BDSM stuff is kind of, eh.

I guess I'm kind of submissive if anything, though. I wouldn't want to be the one to initiate sex on someone.

I'm attracted to men, but I don't think I'd want a man being rather rough with me. A woman I wouldn't mind so much, though. I like dominant women.

 

[Ghengis John]

I ASK YOU WHY THIS IS TWO THREADS!?!?

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.314501-BDSM-and-You#12759242

 

[DeadlyYellow]

Their business is their business.

I would never do it, mostly because I don't get off on abusing women. Or being abused.

Also, I gotta ask: what's with the double spacing?

I wonder if it's a formatting issue resulting from a copy-paste.

 

[LilithSlave]

I ASK YOU WHY THIS IS TWO THREADS!?!?

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.314501-BDSM-and-You#12759242

It happens a lot lately with the forum lag.

 

[WolfThomas]

I'm mostly a vanilla sex kind of guy, but I'll admit I've a bit of an interest in the bondage side of it (myself or others), the tying and ropes etc. Though pain and the whole sub/dom thing doesn't interest me at all.

As the threesome thing, it's pretty ignorant to the vast desires of females, back in my wayward youth I was involved in a Devil's Threesome and it was all from the girls prompting. I wasn't really comfortable with the whole thing but it was her fantasy.

But yeah as long as it's sane, safe and consensual you can do what ever you want.

 

[x EvilErmine x]

Meah it doesn't float my boat, i personally think it's a bit of a wast of time if you know what i mean, it's kinda like extended forplay with props.
Saying that though what you and your partner like to do in your own time is non of my busness and i can only say if you enjoy it then plug, or rather whip away son ;o)

Captcah

00 dealdi <- For some reason this reminds me of Sid James and the old Carry on... films.