BDSM and You!

[Ghengis John]

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You seem pretty cool but also scary. Like any respectable vampire. *applause*

Myself, I have to agree with Daystar.

Whatever floats your boat.

I personally find the idea of harming my significant other abhorrent.

 

[Lionsfan]

AH DOUBLE THREAD!!!!!


Seriously though, I don't really mind it. I've experimented around with it with some of my relationships, nothing too serious just trying it out.

But I mean what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, as long as it's all consensual I don't really what care people do

 

[Lionsfan]

AH DOUBLE THREAD!!!!!


Seriously though, I don't really mind it. I've experimented around with it with some of my relationships, nothing too serious just trying it out.

But I mean what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, as long as it's all consensual I don't really what care people do

 

[dexxyoto]

Unhealthy glee? Check.

Long as everyone involved consents (Getting caught in public not okay in my books as the strangers seeing you sure as heck didn't consent to it.) Do whatever makes you happy.

As Dargocitfer put it we've endured so much hate and abuse at times not much really gets under our skin for the most part.

 

[CM156_v1legacy]

I have been in a BDSM and open relationship with my wife for 7 years now. We have kept it mostly

to ourselves as others tend to view it. While at work the other day a group discussion somehow

got on the subject of BDSM. Most of the women and a few of the guys stated they thought it was

only guys who were secretly rapists who enjoyed BDSM. This completely ignores the women who are

dominant in relationships. I also remember a thread on here a bit ago about threesomes and a guy

said the only reason a girl would be okay with a threesome is if she is okay with being in an

abusive relationship.


So I ask Escapists, what is your view of BDSM? Is it acceptable? Does it scare you? Or are you also a person like me who views chains and knives with a bit of glee?

Eh. I'm really a vanilla kind of person.

Is it consensual and are you and your partner enjoying it? If so, go right on ahead.

I understand it, it's just not really my thing.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

I have been in a BDSM and open relationship with my wife for 7 years now. We have kept it mostly

to ourselves as others tend to view it. While at work the other day a group discussion somehow

got on the subject of BDSM. Most of the women and a few of the guys stated they thought it was

only guys who were secretly rapists who enjoyed BDSM. This completely ignores the women who are

dominant in relationships. I also remember a thread on here a bit ago about threesomes and a guy

said the only reason a girl would be okay with a threesome is if she is okay with being in an

abusive relationship.


So I ask Escapists, what is your view of BDSM? Is it acceptable? Does it scare you? Or are you also a person like me who views chains and knives with a bit of glee?

You forgot to mention that their opinion belittles the submissives as they are always abused, never making an adult choice for themselves and viewed as broken because it isn't the choice for everybody.

My wife is my sub/slave and she was the one who wanted to start into this life. She is a low grade masochist and I am not a sadist. However, I can tap into the right mindset to give her what she wants from time to time. All of these things are based on her choice. We have a girlfriend because she is bisexual and I have no problem with adding our little redheaded cutie to our life.

Let alone that common misconception clouds the biggest truth of BDSM. The submissive has all the power. They give the dominants the illusion of control and power when it could honestly be taken away at any time and they could just walk away.

It also gets mildly sexist as apparently BDSM is just a bunch of dudes into rape. *eyeroll* I personally loathe that mindset and I am sorry you have coworkers who assume that women are weak, have no kink, and never top.

 

[Lionsfan]

Double post to go along with the Double Thread. Stupid funky internet connection

 

[WinkyTheGreat]

I've always been into the lighter side of BDSM. Not a fan of the stuff that does lasting damage though. That being said, whatever consenting adults do in their bedroom is none of my business.

 

[Jonluw]

Eeh, some light bondage can be hot, but the rest is just scary.

 

[Kinokohatake]

Yes the formatting was from my internet freezing when it was originally being posted. I checked and it wasn't up so I reposted. Sorry about all that.

 

[b3nn3tt]

Yeh, gonna agree with others, what two (or more) consenting adults get up to is their own business. Equating BDSM to rape is stupid, as is equating threesomes to abuse.

 

[Kinokohatake]

Can a mod please close this thread?

 

[ACman]

*shrug* Whatever floats the proverbial boat.

You can go ahead and do it if you like.

Yeah.... You fucken weirdo!!!

Ummm... This is the internet. Next door to this safe home for computer-games, where the most offensive thing allowed is that you might get to play from the point of view of a terrorist, there are people,.... doing..... stuff..... to each other..... in groups or couples....

The thing about private activities are that they are ummmm... private? Some people may not understand that you may like to get tied up and whipped by your wife. I've met couples who don't understand how cunnilingus may be attractive for either party. Call it ignorance, call it innocence but unless it is somebody who you are bumping nasties with then what they think doesn't mean shit (Until your work-place mandates a camera in your bedroom.)

The really interesting part is convincing YOUR LOVER that what you're into is something THEY should be into.

Everybody else can get fucked..... In a really boring way.

 

[Claptrap]

Myself, I think it's pretty messed up.

But two adults can do whatever they want, As long as they agree, I don't really care.

 

[WolfThomas]

I remember once a good mate of mine said he thought "oral sex was derogatory and abusive", that took me off guard especially because he wasn't religious.

Let alone that common misconception clouds the biggest truth of BDSM. The submissive has all the power. They give the dominants the illusion of control and power when it could honestly be taken away at any time and they could just walk away.

It also gets mildly sexist as apparently BDSM is just a bunch of dudes into rape. *eyeroll* I personally loathe that mindset and I am sorry you have coworkers who assume that women are weak, have no kink, and never top.

Agreed, another thing thing those people misunderstand is the depth of understanding and trust the two people require.

 

[varulfic]

I like the concept, though I haven't had any experience with it. Might just try it out some day if I find someone willing. Ain't nothing wrong with adding a little spice to you sex life.

 

[Tanakh]

So I ask Escapists, what is your view of BDSM? Is it acceptable? Does it scare you? Or are you also a person like me who views chains and knives with a bit of glee?

Go ahead mate, curiously enough I would have much more issues with an open relationship that with BDSM, where i serious with the gal.

Also, nice avatar, i don't know why but coupled with the thread title it makes me giggle.

 

[Atmos Duality]

I've been exposed to far worse sexual acts on the internet (and in real life...oh college..) to even give a toss about BDSM at this point.

 

[thylasos]

BDSM's fine for those as like it, but it's not something I've experienced, or got any significant interest in trying, really.

 

[daemoni]

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So I ask Escapists, what is your view of BDSM? Is it acceptable? Does it scare you? Or are you also a person like me who views chains and knives with a bit of glee?

BDSM is acceptable(and fun), however alot of people think it's just an excuse to beat up your significant other, or they get freaked out and call you a deviant (/evilgrin)


First time was a bit...weird, for lack of a better word. An old GF introduced me to it, so i can understand why people act strange when it gets talked about; they don't know better.

Personally, Light bondage I find enjoyable.(tho trying to find a light fem dom where I live is hard) knives, not so much, but thats just a personal opinion.

Sticks and stone may break my bones
but Whips and Chains excite me