Being a gentleman/ How to Treat a Lady

[Ickorus]

I was raised to just be nice, as such my gentlemanly conduct is extended to both men and women alike.

Unless, as ProZack rightly stated, they're being a dick.

Yes, but I suppose a jacket is acceptable (unless you've already given your jacket to the other woman who was feeling a little chilly, then what do you you?)

Lay down.

 

[Sassafrass]

I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.

true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.

If you've got a jacket on you, use that. Gotta think on your feet, mate.
EDIT: Well, that'll teach me to refresh the page before hand. XD

Yes, but I suppose a jacket is acceptable (unless you've already given your jacket to the other woman who was feeling a little chilly, then what do you you?)

Hmm, good point. Maybe lie yourself down and use yourself as a bridge so your date for the evening doesn't get her feet wet?

[sup][sup]Damn ninjas. XD[/sup][/sup]

 

[Samurai Silhouette]

I took my American etiquette to London a few times and the girls couldn't get enough of me. It seems that men there are snobbish pricks and feel as if they're god's gift to women. Seriously, that attitude can fuck off.

 

[Iron Mal]

I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.

You haven't seen some of the fellow Brits I have (although I shall take this oppertunity to tip my hat to you for your fellow gentlemanly conduct).

Speaking seriously though, as a general rule the best way is just to try and be kind, considerate, polite and respectful (most people tend to be this anyway so it's not exactly hard).

Yes, you can do 'traditionally gentlemanly' things such as pulling a chair up behind a lady and offering to carry her across a puddle but this isn't always appropriate (especially in today's society) and isn't always appreciated (and in some cases can earn some chastising from certain people who appreciate their 'independance').

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.

true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.

If you've got a jacket on you, use that. Gotta think on your feet, mate.
EDIT: Well, that'll teach me to refresh the page before hand. XD

Yes, but I suppose a jacket is acceptable (unless you've already given your jacket to the other woman who was feeling a little chilly, then what do you you?)

Hmm, good point. Maybe lie yourself down and use yourself as a bridge so your date for the evening doesn't get her feet wet?

[sup][sup]Damn ninjas. XD[/sup][/sup]

Alternatively, use a nearby peasant to mop up the puddle, leaving the ground dry for her. Then pay him a hapennny for the trouble to show her that you're a considerate and generous gent.

 

[dex-dex]

What? They're human last time I checked, just treat them as people. Just don't talk about fart jokes.

and only the best ladies will laugh and then tell a dick joke.

 

[AngryMongoose]

People are people are people, and all that stuff.

Unless you mean a Lady, in which case I treat them, based on their political views, as either someone far cleverer than me, albeit in the arts and humanities, or like any other racist toff.

 

[ReaperzXIII]

Even as much of a sarcastic asshole I act like (all in good fun) I cannot help but hold out doors for girls, pick stuff up for them, let them go first and treat them generally nicer than I do men, especially if they are attractive, I tend not to be as nice to unattractive girls.

Being British also helps. My friends have asked me for food and when I give it to a girl and not them they are like "Is it because she has boobs" to which I reply "Basically, grow boobs, lose the penis and get a vagina then you can have some"

 

[Dr Snakeman]

I try to be nice to everyone, but I will say that the chivalrous "ladies first" attitude towards passageways has been ingrained in me from a young age. It's just what happens when you're raised in the South.

 

[BlackWidower]

What kind of lady are we talking about? Like a girlfriend, or just a friend? Either way, I don't think we need a set of rules regarding how we treat people. Just show a modicum of respect to those around you, and you should be fine.

 

[Dense_Electric]

I treat women as I would treat any other human being - as individuals. A person does not warrant a door being held for them because they happened to be born with a vagina, such a view is backwards and sexist (not to mention rather insulting to both sexes). A person should warrant a door being held for them because they're a decent person on their own merits. Of course I don't know every person on the street so well, so I just assume that person to be at least somewhat agreeable (unless they prove me otherwise) and get the door for them.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

I took my American etiquette to London a few times and the girls couldn't get enough of me. It seems that men there are snobbish pricks and feel as if they're god's gift to women. Seriously, that attitude can fuck off.

Ah the generalisations, don't you just love 'em.

I'll be honest mate, I'd wager that a lot of them couldn't give two shits how gentlemanly you were if you were good looking or had a lot of money.

Not that all British people are Paragon's of courtesy either. Often these days if you'd rather spend time with your girlfriend once in a while instead of going out for a game of footie the response you get is "Mate, she got you whipped!" Now THAT attitude can fuck off.

 

[darksakul]

So most guys here have probably been taught on some level how to be a gentleman in their respective culture. As an American, I was raised to open a door for a lady, to pull out her seat, and a few other rules of etiquette. But I feel at the same time that a large number of woman often don't recognize some of these things as gentlemanly, or simply don't expect them at all. So I thought on this thread we guys would throw out some of the rules we were raised with, and see if these are things that a lady would appreciate or even recognize as gentlemanly behavior. Example, one of the more recent rules I learned was that if I'm walking along with a lady I should be on the side of her closest to the street. The thinking there I would assume is that I could protect her from a splash or I could push her out of the way if a car lost control.

I agree OP. Issue is with this modern world people misinterpret this kinds of actions for being sexist.

It is not that I see women weaker or stronger in any way. It is more so that a Gentlemen wants to conduct them selves in the highest personal standards. Not to be elite but as a example of the family, people and country we represent and a role model to our children and Peers.

In a modern age Chivalry is not dead, but the rules of social etiquette have changed since Regency/ Victorian times. It is not that we should offer to open or hold doors for others or offer to pull out a chair for the lady to sit on. But when your offer is turned down or refused we should act like gentlemen and accept there desertion and feelings with respect and grace.

If you know what that individual's preferences are you treat people how they wanted to be treated (with in reason of course). Don't let you actions be driven by others gender, let them be driven by our good intentions for our fellow human beings.

If a female is acting unpleasant, rude or as some out you have put it a "*****".
Being as rude back to them isn't correct. If you really consider your self better than the rude individual, you do not give in to there ways and be the better man or woman. Distance your self from the unwanted individual and go about your business. I do understand that this is often not as easy as I make sound, but you be the better person for it.

Conduct your self the way you wanted to be viewed, if you want to be a Gentlemen act as a gentlemen should for the 21st century, the core values haven't changed, but in a age where empowerment for both genders and all races are prevalent a gentlemen should be sensitive to that respect the wishes for those who do not care for certain actions. For its understanding not the need for being dominant that should be the driving force of the 21st century gentlemen.

 

[Samurai Silhouette]

I took my American etiquette to London a few times and the girls couldn't get enough of me. It seems that men there are snobbish pricks and feel as if they're god's gift to women. Seriously, that attitude can fuck off.

Ah the generalisations, don't you just love 'em.

I'll be honest mate, I'd wager that a lot of them couldn't give two shits how gentlemanly you were if you were good looking or had a lot of money.

Not that all British people are Paragon's of courtesy either. Often these days if you'd rather spend time with your girlfriend once in a while instead of going out for a game of footie the response you get is "Mate, she got you whipped!" Now THAT attitude can fuck off.

So did I just come to my own conclusion and stumbled upon an established stereotype?

 

[Pipotchi]

I took my American etiquette to London a few times and the girls couldn't get enough of me. It seems that men there are snobbish pricks and feel as if they're god's gift to women. Seriously, that attitude can fuck off.

Boasting and crass generalisation all contained in a single sentence? If thats your American etiquette mate you can keep it

 

[rancher of monsters]

I feel at the same time that a large number of woman often don't recognize some of these things as gentlemanly, or simply don't expect them at all.

A bit of advice to everyone on this thread: engaging in gentlemanly behavior because of what one thinks women will think of it is a sucker's game. Some women may appreciate it, some may not care, some may even be offended, some will take advantage of it. You can't control that, and you shouldn't want to. And if you think gentlemanly behavior is going to help you hook up with women, you might as well just chop your balls off now for all the use that you're going to get out of them.

A man choosing to behave as a gentleman should be all about him. It's about what kind of man he is saying he is, and anyone else in the world who doesn't agree with that can go hang. If that's the kind of man you want to be, go for it. Hold as many doors as you like. If you're hoping to get approval from others, don't bother. You'll be wasting your time.

I agree with you, I don't want to make it sound like you should only be a gentleman because of romatic profit. I guess I didn't word my statement well. I guess what I'm saying is how would woman percieve these actions. Would they find them pleasant, sexist, creepy, do they even comprehend that someone is going out of their way to do something for them, or do they just accept it as a norm?

 

[Samurai Silhouette]

I took my American etiquette to London a few times and the girls couldn't get enough of me. It seems that men there are snobbish pricks and feel as if they're god's gift to women. Seriously, that attitude can fuck off.

Boasting and crass generalisation all contained in a single sentence? If thats your American etiquette mate you can keep it

Being a gentleman/ How to Treat a Lady

Also, I like how the offended seems to think that this is only my personal viewpoint.

 

[Zanderinfal]

Captcha: I have no idea what nvourth Academy is, but now I want to go there.

Lolwut?

OT: I treat people how they treat me, but with a bit of extra (how do I say it?)... for wish of a better word, love for the women.