Being a gentleman/ How to Treat a Lady

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rancher of monsters

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So most guys here have probably been taught on some level how to be a gentleman in their respective culture. As an American, I was raised to open a door for a lady, to pull out her seat, and a few other rules of etiquette. But I feel at the same time that a large number of woman often don't recognize some of these things as gentlemanly, or simply don't expect them at all. So I thought on this thread we guys would throw out some of the rules we were raised with, and see if these are things that a lady would appreciate or even recognize as gentlemanly behavior. Example, one of the more recent rules I learned was that if I'm walking along with a lady I should be on the side of her closest to the street. The thinking there I would assume is that I could protect her from a splash or I could push her out of the way if a car lost control.
 

BlackStar42

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What? They're human last time I checked, just treat them as people. Just don't talk about fart jokes.
 

NinjaDeathSlap

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Daystar Clarion said:
I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.
true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.

In all seriousness though it's not like it takes a huge amount of effort to be nice, and the days of protecting your woman's honour from the horrors of the world because she's too timid to handle herself are gone, and for the most part rightly so. Treat people with respect and courtesy, and people will like you. Treat women specifically with a hugely overblown amount of respect and courtesy, and they will think you are a creep.
 

Ashannon Blackthorn

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I'm not a misogynist nor some etiquette grand master. I treat the person I'm with as they warrant at the time. If a women thinks she deserves special treatment due to her gender she's in for a rude surprise. Firm believer in equality for all, and that includes not treating someone different because of some hundred(s) year(s) old bollocks about them being the fairer and gentler sex who needs the man to protect and mollycoddle them. Fuck that with a rusty awl pike :p
 
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NinjaDeathSlap said:
Daystar Clarion said:
I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.
true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.
I blame foreigners and television.
 

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NinjaDeathSlap said:
Daystar Clarion said:
I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.
true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.
I was always under the impression that that was to be done with your suit jacket.
 

Sordak

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I might do that IF she deserves it, but since most women do NOT deserve this in any respect i will treat them how they like it: like shit
 

Cap'n Ninja

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Mackheath said:
Treat her how she treats you.

If she's a ***** to you, be a dick to her.
Or y'know, be the bigger man and don't be petty and instead continue to be a decent human being to her.
There's no better way to disarm someone being unpleasant than to be unexpectedly pleasant with no ulterior motive.

OT: I was born with a "Kill them before they kill you" attitude, but I'm pretty sure all girls are.
As to my expectations as a lady to provide a point of reference of sorts, I expect people to be kind and polite, much as I would with anyone, and anything further is an appreciated gesture, so long as it doesn't come across as condescending.
 

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NinjaDeathSlap said:
Daystar Clarion said:
I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.
true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.
If you've got a jacket on you, use that. Gotta think on your feet, mate.
EDIT: Well, that'll teach me to refresh the page before hand. XD
 

NinjaDeathSlap

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Radeonx said:
NinjaDeathSlap said:
Daystar Clarion said:
I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.
true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.
I was always under the impression that that was to be done with your suit jacket.
Can be, but the cape of the Tudor period was just so much more stylish.
 

PeePantz

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rancher of monsters said:
Example, one of the more recent rules I learned was that if I'm walking along with a lady I should be on the side of her closest to the street. The thinking there I would assume is that I could protect her from a splash or I could push her out of the way if a car lost control.
I make everyone that walks alongside me is closest to traffic. Nobody even recognizes this and I feel my odds are always a slight bit better at survival.
 

ResonanceSD

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Mackheath said:
Treat her how she treats you.

If she's a ***** to you, be a dick to her.


Pretty much this.

Equality for all. True equality. No double-standards thanks.
 

ProZack

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rancher of monsters said:
So most guys here have probably been taught on some level how to be a gentleman in their respective culture. As an American, I was raised to open a door for a lady, to pull out her seat, and a few other rules of etiquette. But I feel at the same time that a large number of woman often don't recognize some of these things as gentlemanly, or simply don't expect them at all. So I thought on this thread we guys would throw out some of the rules we were raised with, and see if these are things that a lady would appreciate or even recognize as gentlemanly behavior. Example, one of the more recent rules I learned was that if I'm walking along with a lady I should be on the side of her closest to the street. The thinking there I would assume is that I could protect her from a splash or I could push her out of the way if a car lost control.
As you said, I was raised to treat a woman with the utmost respect. I do that with everyone, unless they're being a dick. Then I become a dick.

Captcha: I have no idea what nvourth Academy is, but now I want to go there.
 

NinjaDeathSlap

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Sassafrass said:
NinjaDeathSlap said:
Daystar Clarion said:
I'm British.

I ooze gentlemanly conduct.
true dat. Just a shame we no longer wear capes. Now we can't cover over puddles with our own clothes any more so the ladies don't get their shoes muddy.
If you've got a jacket on you, use that. Gotta think on your feet, mate.
EDIT: Well, that'll teach me to refresh the page before hand. XD
Yes, but I suppose a jacket is acceptable (unless you've already given your jacket to the other woman who was feeling a little chilly, then what do you you?)