Bullying

[Zombie_Fish]

I was bullied for about 5-6 years of my life as a result of some pronounciation and occasional speech difficulty, as well as being autistic. When one group of people got bored of annoying me the next came in and started harassing me even more. I'm not going into specifics as I really don't feel comftorable talking about it in real life yet alone on the Internet. Needless to say, I did go into major depression back then and dreamt of suicide or murder of people whom I found to be an annoyance to me.

Thankfully that's all behind me now. Parents and teachers eventually got involved, various people who were part of those groups got the common sense about two years ago to stop and the rest followed suit, and I'm now going to a College which is still in my local area so my family don't have to move, but it is a lot larger and has a lot less people who knew me from back when I was like that, as well as the students generally being more sensible. But those were really some f*cked up years of my life and I don't want to remember how I felt back then anymore, even less re-experience it.

I found nearly hitting one with a chair made everyone think i was a pysco. I had about two weeks of High Fives, and he never bothered me again.

A friend of mine did something similar. He had been picked on by some jerk who was hated by pretty much the whole year for about two years up until this point in time. He punched the dude once in the face, the guy fell crying to the floor, and before my friend was taken off one of the teachers actually said "Good job!" to him. It was awesome, and totally worth the week (I think) of isolation he got for it.

 

[The Warden]

Bullying ... People stay "stand up to the bullies"...

I found nearly hitting one with a chair made everyone think i was a pysco. I had about two weeks of High Fives, and he never bothered me again.

Shame it was in my final year of high school, And not the first, May have meant i was higher in "the food chain".

You hit a guy with a fucking chair?

What, was just punching him not enough? Sheeyit.

You'd be surprised what people will do when they stack up enough rage.

I'm lucky enough to live in an area where bullying isn't a big problem. In fact, the whole Cliche "groups" thing about high school rarely exists. Everyone is pretty okay with everyone else, and people get along fine. The people that get bullied are mostly the kids who try and fit into the stereotype (and by bullied I mean mostly left out or occasionally teased) by doing things like hating jocks or being excessively weird.

I was always part of the upper more jockey/popular chain of things, so I can say bullying has never really been a problem to me. I may have been a tiny bit of a bully myself to some kids in the past, but was generally regarded as pretty mellowed out.

GET ME THE FUCK NEAR YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD.


OT:I'm not popular, tbh, but people leave me alone, because apparently I have a temper.

 

[Zacharine]

I got verbally bullied in grade school, with occasional shoving and the like. I mostly just ignored it, it was simply a matter of finding the proper place during recess to avoid the bully (who was 3 grades above me, yet shorter than me.)

Then one day, the main bully and his two sidekicks beat me up during my trip home. Nothing extremely serious but bruises etc.

I told my parents (who knew I wasn't having the best of times at school and yet nothing could be done: the teachers were powerless as the bully was always careful to act like the model student whenever an adult was around) and the wheels got rolling. The bully was suspended for a month, the sidekicks for two weeks. They came back and wanted revenge, ambushing me during lunch recess. The 'boss' told the sidekicks to stay aside. The last mistake he did: I gave as good as I got, his physical strenght offset by me being slightly taller than the midget he was.

The fight was broken up, another week of suspension for the main bully, the sidekicks got off with warnings as did I. Never bothered me again. Guess that black eye and very bloody nose made him rethink my status as a victim. Back home, mother asked if I was alright then gave a halfhearted warning to avoid fights in the future. Father told me not to go looking for fights, start fights or take part in them. The next breath he told me that if someone forces a fight however, I'm free to defend myself and as long as that rule of self-defence is unbroken, I'll never catch any flak from him regarding fights.

Then they drove to the local store and bought me ice-cream.

We moved away a year later. A new school, new food-chain. New bullies. I didn't act aggressively, but when someone did show up to 'show me my place', I got way into his personal space and told him right to his face that 'I'd faced a bully three years older than me and had given as good as I got. I don't want to fight, but if you want one I'll give you one'

No local bully so much as mocked me for the following years of by basic education. The lesson learned: It might not be the 'proper' way to handle bullies, but self-confidence and responding if at all threatened will make them look for other targets. But the line between responding and initiating, is the difference between staying a student and becoming a bully yourself.

 

[X Gintoki X]

i remember i was in 3rd grade and this kid was messing with me so i went home put a huge rock in my bookbag, and the next day when he tried messing with me i smashed him up side the head a good 5 times with it, i never even saw that kid again. probably got brain damage.

in 7th grade this kid was flicking me with a comb on picture day so i grabbed his head and slammed it as hard as i could into the gym's bleachers. after words when i got suspended my parents got me a puppy and $50 for standing up for myself.

 

[Tiny116]

Bullying ... People stay "stand up to the bullies"...

I found nearly hitting one with a chair made everyone think i was a pysco. I had about two weeks of High Fives, and he never bothered me again.

Shame it was in my final year of high school, And not the first, May have meant i was higher in "the food chain".

would have been nice if that had worked for me when I threw a chair across the classroom at a bully...it didn't help much.

 

[DMonkey]

First day of school, is a lot like the first day of prison.
Beat the crap out of someone, and you are pretty much in the clear.
I bullied the bullies. My last year some dumb hick picked a fight, and my friends and I jumped his ass. Four geeks beating the crap out of a bully. One of my favorite moments in my high school years. Even the token trekkie got to put a boot to the poor sobs ass.

Many years later, I ran into him, and we had a few beers, and laughed about it. He, like most of everyone, eventually grew up. Sadly he was killed in a car accident shortly after. I try to remember him as the guy who I shared some brews and laughs, rather then that angry teen.

As for the story that started this thread about the kid committing suicide over the bullying, that's just heart breaking. It wouldn't have happened if someone had his back.

 

[The Austin]

I got bullied a lot when I was in 6th grade.
I never really talk about it because I kind of bury it, but I now have a serious hatred for anyone who causes anyone else pain, emotional or otherwise.
[sub][sub] Plus there was the hole "shitty childhood" thing. [/sub][/sub]

I just don't understand it.

Why would you WANT to be a jerk? It makes no fucking sense.
What makes a person get up one day, and say, "Ya know what? I'm going to make someone miserable today!"

No one has the right to hurt another person for no reason.

NO ONE.

 

[Gigaguy64]

I was bullied during 4-6 Grade and then during Middle School (7-8) i was mostly shunned.
Even my best friend, friends since 2nd grade if we sit together we will talk the whole day and not care, best friend made new friends who didn't like me so he didn't like me anymore.
I hate Middle School.
High School was better, there was the typical groups but during Middle School and Freshmen year i figured out who i was and just ran with it.
I was kind of a weird kid, after Freshmen year i mellowed out and found some friends.
I even started to make friends from different "Social Groups".
The only thing that kept me for getting into fights at school was the fear of getting in trouble, iv only had Disciplinary action taken against me maybe 3 times my whole School life.
I wish i had stood up though.
it would of saved me a lot of pain during school.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I don't encounter much bullying at my school. I was bullied during 7th and 8th grade, but now I've made them stop. There is one guy in my class, who used to be a close friend, who is the outcast of the class. Nobody likes to be near him, and he is often teased. I've never tried to defend him, as I saw the reason for him being teased: He was a jerk. The first pair of years, he was decent, but the reason I stopped acting as a friend was because he was annoying, teased me, and generally the kind of guy I don't want to be with.

 

[Casual Shinji]

High school is a fucking jungle and you had best stay out of the predators' way. Was I bullied? Sure, but I wasn't the only one. I just had no way of defending myself so I took all the verbal abuse like the wuss puss that I was.

In my first year of High school this girl came over and pretended to have a thing for me just to screw with my head and, ofcourse, to emphasize how much of an ugly tool I really was.............aaaaand I bought it.
A friend of mine nudged me told me how stupid and unbelievable her act was and thankfully saved me from making a complete fool of myself.

In my high school you're popularity didn't depend on how rich, good looking or good at sports you were, but on how evil and conniving you were. And I was an innocent lad who believed in the goodness of all people, so you can imagine how my high school years turned out.

 

[Shockolate]

I often got teased when I was younger because I'd always wear sweat pants to school (not the same pair everyday mind you, I just really liked sweatpants). Not sure if that counts. I had a friend (who moved away now) who was obese (and very tall) and people would make fun of him. Eventually he started working out and bulked up and all the tough guys would try taking him down to prove how manly they were. We joked that it took 10 kids to take him down. He was a really nice guy, but he eventually got more violent (which I think was my doing) and they stopped messing with him.

Funny story though. My friend's sister (who we make fun of all the time) could get expelled if another case of bullying comes up from her. Said friend jokingly went around asking people if they would admit to being bullied by her for 20 bucks and a different friend actually started fake crying. They didn't go through with it.

My friends are dicks :<

 

[AfroTree]

i did, which is weird considering im 6'3 and a little on the bulky side, mostly verbal, but as soon as they went over the line they knew, there was no shit left to take and..lets just say, my angry appearance was enough to deter most of the little bastards, doesn't help I normally look stoned on a good day -.-", so when i am angry, it shows..it shows a lot

 

[Ren3004]

As for the story that started this thread about the kid committing suicide over the bullying, that's just heart breaking. It wouldn't have happened if someone had his back.

I guess it was a case of the school not doing anything. According to the article I just read, the kids who bullied him are now being seen by the school psychiatrist. Like that will do a lot of good now.

Also, the day he died, the kid told his cousin and brother, I think, that he was going to jump off the bridge. They tried to stop him, but didn't make it.

 

[Aesir23]

I absolutely hate it. I was basically the main target for kids in my classes for all of middle school. It escalated to physical bullying a couple of times. It even got so bad that I had been seriously considering suicide. I planned it and wrote a note but never actually attempted it.

Finally I just snapped and beat one of the guys over the head with a three ring binder.

The real satisfaction came when I met up with one of the bastards in high school and told him about the social anxiety disorders, and clinical depression that the bullying caused and the therapy needed to help deal with it all. Ahh, the look of shame on his face (Nice guy now.). I finally got to find out WHY I was bullied so at least I got one question answered.

 

[The Austin]

All you need to know is this. I became homeschooled because of bullying and the teachers' inability to stop it.

Hey, me too!


OP: I was bullied so much I attempted suicide when I was 15.

I tried to kill one of the guys who was bullying me as well. That didn't work out so well. Eventually, last year and suffering from severe panic attacks and depression, my parents pulled me out of school so I could do the exams by myself. It's working pretty well.

THERE! RIGHT THERE!

That is why I am fucking horrified of you Furburt, RIGHT THERE!

 

[chromewarriorXIII]

I haven't really had to deal with bullying. In middle school I had to deal with immature dicks calling me a girl for having long hair, but they completely stopped once we got to highschool and they realized that most of the kids who had long hair could kick their asses.

Now I'm in a smaller school that is a branch off of the aforementioned highschool. We are only 17 kids but are so tight-knit. It's nice that everyone thinks that we are a school for "troubled" kids. Because of that, nobody really bothers us.

I'm also an intern at my little sisters school so I don't think that she really has to deal with bullies. There is absolutely no way for any of the students to avoid me (I work in an art class with all grades) so I have a feeling they'll leave her alone.

 

[Scabadus]

When I went from Primary to Secondary school (in the UK there are only two compulsory schools, as opposed - I believe - to the three in the US) a few people who used to be my friends bullied me badly in order to try to make themselves 'cool'. Even at age 11 I wasn't concerned with being part of the right crowd so I generally just ignored them, though of course if I ever reported them the teachers at school would either ignore it stating a lack of evidence or hold some sort of 'annonomous informer chat' about bullying that would make it ABUNDENTLY clear that it was me who was complaining. These group chats were so badly done that I once ended up appologising to the kids who were bullying me for making them sit through it.

Anyway, after about a year another person under different circumstances started to also bully me (the first groups hadn't stopped but honestly, I didn't care by now, I just found it quite funny). I won't go into details into how it was different or why I cared this time, but suffice to say that while I'm normally impossible to anger this time I snapped at them and hurt them... badly. The saddest part of the story is that this earned me the 'cool macho' status I'd managed to avoid for so long and made me popular with the school's bullies. Not something I wanted.

After that I've always felt this ability to snap within me, it's a bit like having a personal hulk that you can control, but I've only ever used it once since then. I believe that violence can be justified, but only when every, and I mean every other alternative has been explored. Otherwise, if you use violence in either your words or your actions, you're just as bad as the people unthinkingly using it against you for their pleasure.