It's true I saw my oldest friend youngest sister who is older then me by like 5 years and she's a total hottie. Yet when we were kids I never looked at her like that. It's kinda like once you seen and experienced more in life then when you come back to that friend you can find something attractive about them.Deviate said:
Can men and women be just friends? - proof within
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Are you saying that the thought would not cross your mind at all. Ever. Not even once. Because I highly doubt that.Fagotto said:
You know...I kinda agree. And sadly, I agree because of a personal experience.
I have this friend who I discovered I liked a couple of years ago. I've known her for 4 years now and the more time I spend with her, the more I like her. Now, I wouldn't dare tell her how I feel because now we live too far away from each other and it wouldn't work out.
Now, I don't think she's as indifferent to my feelings. I mean, she's not dumb. But...I think I like her a bit more than she does. I think she only sees a friend in me. A really good friend who will always be there. But I see someone I really like and stuff. And it's not just a sexual attraction; that's the last thing on my mind, amazingly.
I believe guys and girls can be just friends. I've had plenty of those. But when a girl has a friend who she considers a "really good friend" or "a best friend", I'd be 90% of the times the guy is interested in something else. And girls know it. But girls just want that friend.
I have this friend who I discovered I liked a couple of years ago. I've known her for 4 years now and the more time I spend with her, the more I like her. Now, I wouldn't dare tell her how I feel because now we live too far away from each other and it wouldn't work out.
Now, I don't think she's as indifferent to my feelings. I mean, she's not dumb. But...I think I like her a bit more than she does. I think she only sees a friend in me. A really good friend who will always be there. But I see someone I really like and stuff. And it's not just a sexual attraction; that's the last thing on my mind, amazingly.
I believe guys and girls can be just friends. I've had plenty of those. But when a girl has a friend who she considers a "really good friend" or "a best friend", I'd be 90% of the times the guy is interested in something else. And girls know it. But girls just want that friend.
Inserting myself into a conversation:Shark Wrangler said:
So you're basically saying you don't want any more friends regardless of gender? You've only given the reason that you have enough people to hang out with as it is and don't want to have to talk to any additional people unless it comes with a relationship. If that's what you're saying, that sounds acceptable (not that you need the approval of random internet people anyway), if a little anti-social.
If that' not all you're saying, though, you haven't given any reasonable reason why guys and girls can't be just friends.
I'm amazed at the amount of people tearing into the video and criticizing it for not being "scientific", it's a freaking youtube video.
That said yes it doesn't apply to every case but it is a prevalent enough thing that does warrant some discussion.
I mean think about how many threads we've seen about being "put in the friend zone" or about how to get a friend to notice the poster.
These are prime example of the whole one way friend ship and the other person wanting to make it more than friends.
Sadly in a lot of cases, at least in my opinion, it ends up being a case of the female being rather naive about the friendship and a guy just being a moron and secretly pining/hoping one day the other will realize "what she is missing out on".
That said yes it doesn't apply to every case but it is a prevalent enough thing that does warrant some discussion.
I mean think about how many threads we've seen about being "put in the friend zone" or about how to get a friend to notice the poster.
These are prime example of the whole one way friend ship and the other person wanting to make it more than friends.
Sadly in a lot of cases, at least in my opinion, it ends up being a case of the female being rather naive about the friendship and a guy just being a moron and secretly pining/hoping one day the other will realize "what she is missing out on".
Oh, this again.
Honestly, I don't know. A few months ago, I would have said that yes, men and women can in fact be just friends.
But that was before I had to be "just a friend". And I gotta say, it's hard to do. Here's hoping that it either gets easier, or (far less likely) that she changes her mind.
Honestly, I don't know. A few months ago, I would have said that yes, men and women can in fact be just friends.
But that was before I had to be "just a friend". And I gotta say, it's hard to do. Here's hoping that it either gets easier, or (far less likely) that she changes her mind.
Yes, so long as there's no sexual tension between them. One of my est friends is a girl I had a crush on for about five years, and asked out multiple times (she had an on-again-off-again crush on me apparently >.>) and amazngly, we're still friends, but I think that's because nothing romantic ever happened between us.
If one is seriously attracted to the other, it can put a strain on things, but doesn't mean that they can't or won't be friends. Although apparently every female friend of mine in highschool and some in middle school had crushes on me at one point or another, which I found annoying, since I had crushes on most of them too, but they were mostly just passing thoughts.
If one is seriously attracted to the other, it can put a strain on things, but doesn't mean that they can't or won't be friends. Although apparently every female friend of mine in highschool and some in middle school had crushes on me at one point or another, which I found annoying, since I had crushes on most of them too, but they were mostly just passing thoughts.
Yes they can be friends. That video is invalid.
I can verify this, for all the female friend's Ive had I've thought about doing sexual things to them. Never told them, of course.Deviate said:
I have friends that are girls... I mean is a guy attracted to every girl no matter what? Also what about homosexuals. They wouldn't be attracted to them so that could be friendship.
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Humanity, you repulse me, I guess if the guy is gay then they can be just friends at least?
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Humanity, you repulse me, I guess if the guy is gay then they can be just friends at least?
I have plenty of girl friends who I have no romantic interest in and the feeling is mutual. And yes, they are attractive. I love having friends that are girls. I get their perspective on things and I value our relationship. Anyone who argues men and women can't really be friends because one party will always be willing to do the other just probably hasn't met the right people yet.
Well, not me at least. I've done the naughty with every friend I've had who happened to be female. Even the fugly ones.
There is one though, but I have known her since I was five. Hot as she may be it would probably feel awkward.
There is one though, but I have known her since I was five. Hot as she may be it would probably feel awkward.
Being in a friend group of just guys and being straight has made me want to have friendship with girls inside my group but it seems impossible because the girls you truly get along with you secretly want to go out with. I do however think that tomboys seem to be able to be just friends. I think if we were open about who we want to have relations with it probably would be almost everyone you seem to get along with!