that final part sounde like a double entandre...ninja steve said:
OT: I hate people cheating on another stay commited love isnt a game and those who think it is don't deserve love or to be loved IMO
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OT: I hate people cheating on another stay commited love isnt a game and those who think it is don't deserve love or to be loved IMO
I'd like to add "being a dick" to that list.Baby Tea said:
I'm aware that there are usually reasons why a person would choose to cheat on someone, but that doesn't mean the reasons are understandable. Cheating is basically unforgiveable, as far as I'm concerned. If you'd rather be with someone else than the person you're currently in a relationship with, then they have a right to know.
This is pretty much my perspective.tsb247 said:
Yea, I've cheated before in the past. In my defense I'm young. So my relationships are mainly based off looks and liking their personality just a little. I've never been caught. The girls that I am in a relationship usually go to my school, while girls I have a fling with go to another school where I have friends at.
Anyway, I don't care much for cheating, because again I'm young.
Anyway, I don't care much for cheating, because again I'm young.
alcohol changes people. i would say i could never do it but I would be lying. i was at a party and me and my my ex-girlfriend (current at the time) were near the end of the reationship.. i had been drinking and i ended up with sleeping with another girl. do I regret it, yes. so, sometimes i think it happens from bad situations but for the most part its done by people being dicks.
I never understood the psychology behind cheating. If you are in a relationship with someone then you should stick with them, the need to pursue someone else is irrational to me. If things are not working out between two people then they should talk it out and if all else fails, break up. Having another partner by the side is never a solution.
Beauty is in the eye of the boholder. Physical attractiveness is the brain telling you this is a person who would make a good mate and make good offspring. At least that's how I was taught. Not to call you out or anything, I just wanted to comment on that.oppp7 said:
OT: I don't like cheating either. If someone ever cheated on me, I'd be crushed. I'm not into casual dating so when I start dating someone, its usually something I expect to last for a while.
I would never ever cheat, I am completely against the concept and I believe if you are with someone in a serious relationship then you should not even think of cheating. A few of my friends get cheated on once in a while and I even know some of the people who cheated on them...Well I know them, I just dont talk to them anymore.
Personally, I see it as a contemptible thing to do. I think people do it because it can be just as hard to tell someone that you're breaking up with them as it is to ask then out in the first place.
That's your defence? I don't see why your age should make cheating any more or less forgiveable. According to your profile you're fifteen, and my girlfriend when I was fifteen is still my girlfriend now.pimppeter2 said:
You say that as if it makes it ok. How does that work, exactly?
I dont cheat, but untill i fined the one, i keep my relationships open becouse i could not trust myself 
nah it was pretty funny and it fit too but these posts arent really on topic >.>ninja steve said:
Yea, My defense is I'm young and my relationships don't really mean anything. Other than based on my physical attraction to a girl. I'm not a person looking for his soul mate at 16, I'm just looking to have fun.Anachronism said:
As for the second part, I never said that. I never said not being caught makes it okay, I'm just saying its never happened to me.
I never said I was right, I was just saying that that's how I feel about cheating.
Do I think that a man cheating on his wife after 8 years of marriage is wrong? Yea?
Do I think a teenager going to Greece over summer break and hooking up with some French chick in a club is wrong? A little bit, but not enough to lose sleep over.
I would say they are understandable, but forgivable or reasonable are two very very different things.Anachronism said:
Someone who has a low view of women, and sees them as objects will probably cheat more. After all, they aren't really hurting people, right? So it's understandable, given their mindset, that they would cheat. However, that's obviously very very wrong, and totally unforgivable.
Same with someone who is just inherently selfish. They always want the right thing for them right now, and that can include companionship (physical or not). If we know they are a selfish person, then it's understandable that they would cheat, though still wrong and unforgivable.
I'm not saying that having a 'reason' (of sorts) is an excuse for cheating. Absolutely not.
But what I am saying is that cheating isn't always just because people are 'dicks'. There can be some serious and very real psychological processes behind it, making it a surface and visible manifestation of something deeper. So the smart thing would be to try and recognize those things before getting into a relationship, or before taking the relationship to a physical level, or before they act on their impulses.
Counselling, therapy, whatever.
By all means, end a relationship with a cheater (I certainly would), but people should be aware of what causes it in the first place, so as to avoid it in the future.
Fair enough, I guess. I suppose I can't comment because I've never really been in the position where I've "just wanted to have fun"; I've never seen the appeal of casual relationships. Essentially, I don't see any point in being with someone unless you can see yourself being with them long-term. Now, I'm obviously not going to try and convince anyone else that they should feel the same way, since that's just my opinion. I can see why others would want more casual relationships, but I guess it's just never been for me.pimppeter2 said:
I can see where you're coming from, and I was probably a bit too blunt about it in my other post. Still, while I could have put it better, I don't think I was particularly wrong in what I said. Your examples were of a person who sees women as objects and a person who is inherently selfish. As you said, this is unforgiveable. As such, while there may be deeper reasons for it, these people are still scum, as far as I'm concerned. There is almost certainly a better and more tactful way of putting it, but I'm happy with being blunt about it.Baby Tea said:
