Cheating on People

[VanityGirl]

Hey guys, I personally would never cheat on someone, but I'm wondering what you guys think of it?

Now, I was cheated on by a boyfriend in the past. Since him and I had been dating for over a year, I was heartbroken. I didn't understand why he didn't just break up with me and then go after another girl instead of hurting me like that.

I just find cheating hard to understand. If you can't commit to a peron, then don't just run around, break up and then just go have random flings if that's your thing.

What do you guys think of cheating?


PS: If you're going to be a dick and not add to discussion, then don't post.

 

[ethaninja]

Personally, I McF*cking hate it, and agree, if that person likes the other person so much, why not do the better thing by going to them, not cheating.

Personally, people who cheat are spineless R-tards.

 

[XJ-0461]

I wouldn't do it. Mainly because it's impossible for me to date casually and would therefore probably never want to, but that's beside the point.

 

[ninja steve]

personally i wouldnt cheat on someone (dont tell the apple about the banana) but i read in a book about serial killers one of the guys needed so much sex that one partner couldnt satisfy him so a small ammount of people can have this problem but mostly there dicks

 

[mcp1992]

I hate people who cheat it seems like a waste of time if they won't bother to commit to their partner. the only thing I hate more is the excuses they give if they are caught and when they try and say sorry but if they truly felt sorry then they would not have cheated in the first place.

 

[DazZ.]

Woo relationships!

Some people don't want just random flings, they want lots of people, but only they can have them.
The toddler mentality to sex, "this is mine, you can't touch it."
Random flings means they can go with other people as well so they need to be in a relationship to know the other person isn't going to run off.

Some people cheat because they find the lying fun, and the fact they know they shouldn't is attractive. The same reason kids do the opposite of what they are told.

There are lots of reasons people cheat.

I'd like to say I couldn't, but I haven't been in every opportunity to know. Depends highly on the situation of who I'm with and who's tempting.

Edit: Haven't yet though, and I'm not sure if I've been cheated on. Possibly. Messy times.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

I hate people who cheat it seems like a waste of time if they won't bother to commit to their partner. the only thing I hate more is the excuses they give if they are caught and when they try and say sorry but if they truly felt sorry then they would not have cheated in the first place.

What if it's just a massage that gets out of hand?

 

[DragonsAteMyMarbles]

Cheating is a sign that the person in question can't be trusted - I assume, since you were dating for a while, that you trusted him. He then abused that trust and therefore is not deserving of trust.

Also, it can be interpreted as a sign of arrogance - believing that he deserved to be with both you and whoever he was cheating with.

Now I'm angry. Does the arsebag in question live in southeastern Australia?

 

[oppp7]

I think it's genetic. I'll explain. Chimpanzees and other mammals (the organisms we are most closely related to) are somewhat of polygamists. They don't mate for life. Only the alpha male gets to mate, and it's with as many females as possible. So, we probably have this instinct too. No, I'm not saying polygamy is ok. Insincts should be overlooked and overcome in most cases.
Also, if true love exists, why is it always with someone you find physically attractive?

 

[tsb247]

There is simply no excuse for cheating - EVER.

 

[DazZ.]

No, I'm not saying polygamy is ok. Insincts should be overlooked and overcome in most cases.

Why? Not saying I don't agree, just curious as to why it should be the right thing to do to go against the way we are "programmed".

 

[Amnestic]

I have trouble offering an opinion on this without sounding like a hypocrite. While I've never cheated myself, I have slept with a lass who did have an on-off boyfriend at the time and no matter how much of a dick he was (a lot) and the fact that she came onto me, I still did 'wrong'.

Don't regret it though, just means I have a little trouble justifying the statements that I wouldn't cheat, I would hope my partner wouldn't either.

 

[ZZoMBiE13]

It's one of the lowest things a person can do. I learned early how devastating a cheater can leave you feeling when my high school girlfriend confessed her infidelity with a good friend of mine. From that moment I swore I'd never do that to someone and 20 years later I've managed to live up to that promise.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I finished my ex, and when I got with my new boyfriend he said I was cheating on him Fucking retard.

 

[Baby Tea]

Also, if true love exists, why is it always with someone you find physically attractive?

I would say that someone becomes physically attractive (Or more so) once you get to know them and see how compatible they are with you. When I first met my wife, I was actually more interested in her friend. But, as I got to know her more and more, and saw how freaking awesome she is, then I began to see her as far more attractive.

More on topic: I firmly believe that cheating on someone is a problem caused by deeper issues:
Insecurity?
Selfishness?
Sexism?

Who knows? The point is: If a person does it once, they'll do it again unless that underlying issue is addressed in full.
I'm less angry about cheaters then people who give them repeated chances without trying to get them help for the underlying problems. I have a 'cheat once, dump forever' policy, though. They may solve their underlying issues, but that can serve them well when they are with someone new.

 

[DazZ.]

I finished my ex, and when I got with my new boyfriend he said I was cheating on him Fucking retard.

How soon after was that? If it's early and he still likes you he most likely had loads of thoughts of you and him whilst he and ye' were together. (Could have described that better but I like it that way)

 

[goatzilla8463]

I'm not proud of some of the stuff I've done and I'm pretty disappointed in my girlfriend sometimes as well; yeah we've cheated on each other before. We've been able to tell each other about it and be honest with each other.

Now, I still flirt with other people but we all know that it is playful and not actually serious flirting; it's just to shine my ego a bit.

 

[mcp1992]

No excuse! if they are commited to their partner then they shouldn't let anything get out of hand. I understand that people find it hard to contol themselves sometimes but i can contol myself why can't they? (reply to Cuddly_tomato)

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I think cheating is unforgivable. Like others have said, if you can't commit to the relationship, END IT, don't go sneaking around. True you're still going to be hurting your partner, but it's the lesser of two evils. Anyone who'd cheat should be beaten with a hockey stick.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I finished my ex, and when I got with my new boyfriend he said I was cheating on him Fucking retard.

How soon after was that? If it's early and he still likes you he most likely had loads of thoughts of you and him whilst he and ye' were together. (Could have described that better but I like it that way)

Pretty soon after.
It's a loooong story, won't bore you with the details