I know they wouldn't exactly react like I mentioned in my example, the point is that however they react they have the choice to do what they feel necessary. If they've been murdered that choice is gone.Mackheath said:I see what you are coming from, but think of it as this; by being murdered, their pain is over. They do not care, they are freed from the injustice and horror that another human being forced them into the vilest of acts against their will. By letting them live, they force them to deal with the consequences; very few rapes are reported compared to how many happened because the rapist can claim 'Oh they were drunk and consented.' or something similar. Plus the victims have the shame and self-loathing and the feeling of being soiled in every intimite way. Quite honestly? Rape is worse than murder to me.
As for that, it doesn't work like that; people react differently. Some weep for a while, before shrugging their shoulders and trying to move on, whilst others howl and cry and try to kill themselves. I've seen both, and more than the crime itself (forced sex) that is what disgusts me; the fact a human being could callously leave another human being in that horrific state.
I'm not necessarily arguing that murder is more of an "appalling" act. The process of a rape sounds far more unpleasant than (most) murders and the motivations for a rape could easily be more inhuman than those for murder (crimes of passion or a superhero "murdering" the villain).
I'm saying that in terms of damage done to a victim I believe murder to be far worse. If a rapist lets their victim live they're not "forcing" the victim to live with what's happened to them because the victim still has the albeit terrible option to commit suicide if the pain is too great. They can end it volountarily as close as possible to their own terms. However if the victim is raped then murdered or even just murdered then the victim has even less choice in the matter. I would say that if rape is seen as the denial of the victim's choice then in some ways murder is the ultimate form of rape. At the moment life is extinguished and forever onwards the killer has complete and total dominion over their victim and nothing can ever be done to rectify the situation. Rapists can be punished and their victims rehabilitated, murderers can only be punished.
I think the point we're disagreeing on is whether physical and mental anguish are worse than oblivion and I'm not sure we're going to be able to reconcile our views here.
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To be OT here. I don't think she should've sued the school, she should've gone after the coach. I mean whoever he/she is sounds like a great person to have in a leadership position in control of a bunch of teenagers. "You won't cheer for your rapist? Well you're off the team honey, back in the 50s we just sat back and thought of mamma's home cookin' rather than kicking up such a big stink." I have no idea what the situation is but I hope she first complained about the coach to the school and tried to get herself back on the team via means that don't involve lawyers.
However people discussing this matter should ignore the whole "the rapist got off on a misdemeanor charge" issue, that's beside the point. "Justice" was served, although there'd have to be some pretty extreme mitigating circumstances for that to pass off as justice. The issue is what came after.