Coming out of the closet

[Queen Michael]

Hi. My name is Queen Michael, and I'm a crossdresser. I recently came out of the closet to my dad, and I also started wearing a dress at work. So far, nobody's had any complaints. It's a good thing I live in Sweden.

Spoiler: Here is a picture of me in the dress. It's a qipao.

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So coming out of the closet hasn't been a problem for me. How was it for you, if you've come out of the closet?

 

[Lieju]

My main problem was kinda figuring out whether I should tell people I'm gay, because it shouldn't matter, and it seemed kinda silly. I have just slipped it in conversation, although apparently for example my sister never knew I was a lesbian until few months ago, despite my dad and mum knowing for years.

I guess they don't discuss my love-life.

None of them have had any problems with it. Except my grandparents who still think I will at some point come to my senses and marry my best friend who comes from a family they know.

 

[Rosiv]

Im not sure what i am really. Maybe im trans, or a crossdresser, or gay. I dunno. I would like to figure it out. I mean when i was a child i had these dreams about being forced into a dress and liking it, and ive always admired the female form. As of now, the impulse to "be" a women kind of gnaws at me. I see women walking around my campus, and i cant help but feel jealous of their figure, when im stuck with this male body. And if i were to actually be trans or a cross dresser, i probably wouldn't pass well either, which might make it all the more worse.

Its frustrating, but coming out in public with these feelings, when im not sure might not be the best idea. And ya, i understand the obligatory, "you should speak with someone" advice, but this is a bit to raw for me now.

 

[EeveeElectro]

My main problem was kinda figuring out whether I should tell people I'm gay, because it shouldn't matter, and it seemed kinda silly. I have just slipped it in conversation, although apparently for example my sister never knew I was a lesbian until few months ago, despite my dad and mum knowing for years.

Good on you, absolutely agree. I think it's daft people feel the need to come out, unless they feel they need the approval of their parents.
I hope by the time I have kids and they're sexually mature, we're at a stage where being gay is just a thing and no one would bat an eye lid if my son brought a boy home.

I'm not gay but I did have to have a word with my niece about accepting gay people when she realised our neighbours were lesbians.

 

[White Lightning]

What do you mean no one said anything about you wearing a Dress? Did they not notice it or something? Nobody even stopped to go "Hey, somethings different about Queen Micheal, I just can't figure out what it is..." I mean if I saw someone who didn't normally wear Dresses start to do it I'd at least notice they were doing it.

I'm not saying it's bad to wear Dresses but it's kind of hard to miss...

 

[Lieju]

Good on you, absolutely agree. I think it's daft people feel the need to come out, unless they feel they need the approval of their parents.

Well, there's also the fact that people are going to assume you're a heterosexual by default, so it might feel like you're misleading them if you don't tell them. And that's how some people do react. It's stupid, I wish people just didn't care about that.

And if you think your parents will have issues with you being gay/bi it might be a good idea to have a discussion about it, and their attitudes.

 

[Queen Michael]

What do you mean no one said anything about you wearing a Dress? Did they not notice it or something? Nobody even stopped to go "Hey, somethings different about Queen Micheal, I just can't figure out what it is..." I mean if I saw someone who didn't normally wear Dresses start to do it I'd at least notice they were doing it.

I'm not saying it's bad to wear Dresses but it's kind of hard to miss...

Oh, they said something about it, they just didn't complain. Some people said it was a nice dress, and my boss wondered where the Sam Hill I found a qipao big enough for a tall guy like me when Chinese people aren't known for being that big.

 

[shootthebandit]

theres nothing wrong with being gay and i think people should feel comfortable to come out of the closet. just dont come INTO the closet it makes a real mess of the clothes

 

[xmbts]

My personal life is pretty much only shared with close friends and the occasional family member, so far everyone has been supportive, if only because they care about me more than they do about little details.

 

[i did it 4 the lulz]

What do you mean no one said anything about you wearing a Dress? Did they not notice it or something? Nobody even stopped to go "Hey, somethings different about Queen Micheal, I just can't figure out what it is..." I mean if I saw someone who didn't normally wear Dresses start to do it I'd at least notice they were doing it.

I'm not saying it's bad to wear Dresses but it's kind of hard to miss...

The reason nobody "notice" that he had a dress is because in Sweden people are afraid to be called homophobic. If you are a gay/lesbian/trans in Sweden you are the coolest and most exotic thing that walks the country. most often people just shut up and talk shit behind your back. And if you are a white hetro male then you are the scum of the earth and kill puppys for fun. Glory to Sweden..........

 

[The White Hunter]

My main problem was kinda figuring out whether I should tell people I'm gay, because it shouldn't matter, and it seemed kinda silly.

That's pretty much why barely anybody knows I'm bi here, nobody asks so why would I make a point of telling them.

OT: My experience is that I did it at schoola nd people were cunts about it until I left a guy half dead. Then they just talked shit behind my back rather than making my life hell.

Outside of school I've never bothered.

 

[Jadak]

I can't recall exactly when I announced to the world that I was indeed a straight man, but I think it went over pretty smoothly.

 

[Mr F.]

Hi. My name is Queen Michael, and I'm a crossdresser. I recently came out of the closet to my dad, and I also started wearing a dress at work. So far, nobody's had any complaints. It's a good thing I live in Sweden.

So coming out of the closet hasn't been a problem for me. How was it for you, if you've come out of the closet?

Hell on earth, then I moved cities and found the closet again and began to hide once more.

England might not be so bad but certain parts of the more working class and gritty areas are pretty shit. Another reason for me to give up and move to Scandinavia. Seriously, you guys have everything, from wide open spaces, snow through to liberal and functioning societies combined with a working healthcare system. Oh, not to mention that as of yet I have only met one Swede who was not fucking gorgeous. And they were still incredibly good looking.

Glad things went ok for you bro.

I have never really stopped regretting being honest. One of my closest friends refuses to believe it, he changes the subject whenever it comes up. If I start dating a bloke I am pretty sure his brain would explode. My ex partner new, she did not really care about it that much and the subject never really came up (Bar the total honesty that I have since realised is an utter mistake.)

Its easy to hide in a closet if you are bi. Sometimes its awkward, especially when you end up with a major man-crush on someone who thinks you are strait. There are two people in my current place that know about it, they have declared me to be their gay best friend. Its nice to have some girls to chat to.

I guess I am not quite in the closet. Bleh. About four people know, my two oldest mates (They are brothers, one of them is the one referenced who refuses to believe/accept it, the other is pretty ok with it but we barely talk.) and there are the two girls who enjoy the company of a non-threatening dude. But bar those very select people, I have tried to make sure nobody knows. Its not that I would get judged too much, its a weird mix of fearing homophobia and hating the stereotypes. I toyed with the idea of joining the LGBTQ but they are a bit... shit about bi guys. Lots of negative stereotypes, blah blah blah.

Well, that was a mini-rant. Glad things went ok with your dad, I wished I had told mine before he died. But, well, he never accepted that I was depressed, nor that I was suffering pretty badly from Anorexia, so I seriously doubt he would have believed me.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Hi. My name is Queen Michael, and I'm a crossdresser. I recently came out of the closet to my dad, and I also started wearing a dress at work. So far, nobody's had any complaints. It's a good thing I live in Sweden.

So coming out of the closet hasn't been a problem for me. How was it for you, if you've come out of the closet?

Congrats! I'm glad to hear things went well for you.

Things went pretty well for me as well. I've heard a lot of horror stories, though, so it's always nice to hear about someone who didn't have any problems. Thanks for sharing! ^^

 

[Tanakh]

I also started wearing a dress at work.

Is it practical? Wearing skirts at work seems like a hassle, and I certainly wouldn't do it on Mexico City due the pollution.

As a theater amateur and noob cosplayer I really don't see the big deal, but I AM glad things are going smoothly for you.

a qipao

Now I am curious, can I haz a pick of you on the qipao or the qipao alone if you are shy?

And if you are a white hetro male then you are the scum of the earth and kill puppys for fun. Glory to Sweden..........

It's exactly stuff like this that makes me think Sweedish are kind of spoiled, but what do i know.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

I won't contribute my story (cuz I am heterosexual) but one of my friends came out to her parents recently.
Her mother flipped her shit and then "tried to beat me (her) straight".
The dad said he'd send her to a camp to get "better". Do they even have those horrid "gay correction" camps anymore?

But yeah she had a very rough time of it. Fortunately all of her friends (myself included) were very accepting/cool/chill about it.

 

[Queen Michael]

Ignore this double post.

 

[TrulyBritish]

What do you mean no one said anything about you wearing a Dress? Did they not notice it or something? Nobody even stopped to go "Hey, somethings different about Queen Micheal, I just can't figure out what it is..." I mean if I saw someone who didn't normally wear Dresses start to do it I'd at least notice they were doing it.

I'm not saying it's bad to wear Dresses but it's kind of hard to miss...

Oh, they said something about it, they just didn't complain. Some people said it was a nice dress, and my boss wondered where the Sam Hill I found a qipao big enough for a tall guy like me when Chinese people aren't known for being that big.

Am I the only person looking for a hidden message among the bolded words? I can't help but feel I'm supposed to be noticing some kind of SOS or map to One-eyed Willy's hidden treasure.
Anywho, Add me to the list of people who don't see the need to actually come out of the closet. While I consider myself bisexual, I'm not sure I've actually had many conversations where I've stated "I'm bi", as opposed to the other person going "Wait, you're bi?!".
Apparently dating a girl while simultaneously listing all the things I'd do to get into bed with Benedict Cumberbatch isn't enough of a hint.

 

[Queen Michael]

Now I am curious, can I haz a pick of you on the qipao or the qipao alone if you are shy?

Sure!

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