Coming out of the closet

[DrRockor]

It was pretty easy for me. I'm happy that my friends and family are open about that sort of thing. It may have been easier that I'm bi but I think they wouldn't have cared if I was gay, a cross dresser or anything else. I didn't shout it from the rooftops, I only told my close friends and family because I felt that I should tell them the truth.

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also cute dress!

 

[Tanakh]

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How tall are you? Kinda hard to say. Also, is that dress custom made? It fits you too nicely to think otherwise.

 

[Chromatic Aberration]

Good hear. I'm, however, somewhat confused as to why someone would want to come it with such more personal things such as crossdressing. I mean I can see why it is necessary for people to do so in the case of transsexualism or being gay or bi as those are things that requires the involvement of other persons but for crossdressing? Not so much, right? Or am I completely on the wrong track here? Either way, all power to you if you chose to wear this badge so to speak and it is very good to see that your environment seems to accept it - it's how it should be.

Personally my interests would require too much explaining to do which would be painfully awkward and is likely to make me even more strange in the eyes of everyone than I'm already. Since it's also something entirely disconnected from other persons I do not think I really have to reveal it to anyone who isn't into this stuff already, somehow enters a sexual relationship with me or is my therapist. But, alas, I did tell my mom of all people the tip of the iceberg a decade ago knowing fully well that she'd trust me and accept it (an attitude I demand from everyone if I'd finally chose to tell or should they happen to stumble across it, mind.). She did and never spoke of it again which was kind of...hmmm...disappointing. But that just highlights that nobody really knows what to make of it except that it is something removed from reality and can never be more than a distant fantasy.

EDIT: okay ninja'd and all, issue is resolved...

 

[shootthebandit]

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reminds me of this guy
captcha = saucy!: im not gay so you dont float my boat but accept the capthca's compliment

 

[Queen Michael]

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How tall are you? Kinda hard to say. Also, is that dress custom made? It fits you too nicely to think otherwise.

I'm 183 centimeters. That's almost exactly six ft. Also, thank you! *blushes* But no, if it fits me then all credit goes to the woman working at the store where I bought it.

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reminds me of this guy
captcha = saucy!: im not gay so you dont float my boat but accept the capthca's compliment

I haven't seen that for years! Thanks! =D

 

[Tanakh]

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So shy and so cute, lol

 

[Chromatic Aberration]

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So shy and so cute, lol

I think the awkward levels just went over 9000. Cheers XD

 

[Tanakh]

I think the awkward levels just went over 9000. Cheers XD

Ohh, you are a physicist? I am an ex modern algebra PhD student! Added to friends to talk about non commutative relationships

 

[Chromatic Aberration]

I think the awkward levels just went over 9000. Cheers XD

Ohh, you are a physicist? I am an ex modern algebra PhD student! Added to friends to talk about non commutative relationships

*shields eyes as he looks into the distance* ...and now they are entirely off the chart!

But hell yeah science because interactions require a little bit of in-depth analysis.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I won't contribute my story (cuz I am heterosexual) but one of my friends came out to her parents recently.
Her mother flipped her shit and then "tried to beat me (her) straight".
The dad said he'd send her to a camp to get "better". Do they even have those horrid "gay correction" camps anymore?

But yeah she had a very rough time of it. Fortunately all of her friends (myself included) were very accepting/cool/chill about it.

That's horrific.

I'm always amazed when I hear stories like that, especially when parents react violently towards their own children.

Edit: Individuals to organise those camps. An American guy, who was quite obviously suppressing his own sexuality and pretty much admitted it, tried to set one up over here. I don't think he had much success though. At least I hope he didnt.

 

[Nokturos]

I'm not a crossdresser, and have never been through an experience similar to your own, but I too have a love of typing certain words in bold for dramatic emphasis.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

I won't contribute my story (cuz I am heterosexual) but one of my friends came out to her parents recently.
Her mother flipped her shit and then "tried to beat me (her) straight".
The dad said he'd send her to a camp to get "better". Do they even have those horrid "gay correction" camps anymore?

But yeah she had a very rough time of it. Fortunately all of her friends (myself included) were very accepting/cool/chill about it.

That's horrific.

I'm always amazed when I hear stories like that, especially when parents react violently towards their own children.

Edit: Individuals to organise those camps. An American guy, who was quite obviously suppressing his own sexuality and pretty much admitted it, tried to set one up over here. I don't think he had much success though. At least I hope he didnt.

As unfortunate as this may sound I am honestly surprised it doesn't happen more often here. The place I live now has a lot of fanatically religious and very right wing people around in the older crowd (common "solutions" to "problems" is shooting or praying the "problem" to hell. Notable "problems" include Obama, all sexualities except hetero, all religions except some form of Catholicism or Judaism and black people) and a lot of more liberal younger people.
Lot of kids/young adults have come out to no serious repercussion. And it honestly surprises me.
DOn;t get me wrong, I'm glad they aren't gettin shit for it, it just surprises me. In a good way.

 

[Poetic Nova]

Its easy to hide in a closet if you are bi. Sometimes its awkward, especially when you end up with a major man-crush on someone who thinks you are strait. There are two people in my current place that know about it, they have declared me to be their gay best friend. Its nice to have some girls to chat to.

I had this situation, but I moved along aince he was in a relationship with someone else. Now a few years later I still kinda like him.

Op: I'm bisexual but only a few know about it: my ex (who betrayed my trust in her, completely diffirent story, PM me if you wan't to know more about it) and 2 of my closest friends. My family won't be finding out about it since they either won't believe me or otherwise would disown me.

 

[Tanakh]

*shields eyes as he looks into the distance* ...and now they are entirely off the chart!

But hell yeah science because interactions require a little bit of in-depth analysis.

Well, you know how easy particle tangles this days, no wonder we need to keep researching cuz once tangled they keep sharing impulses and vibes, but seems like never information... such a complicated world.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

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Also, I just want to say that you look damn good in that dress.

 

[Poetic Nova]

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Also, I just want to say that you look damn good in that dress.

I second this!

 

[Olas]

I don't really see why gay people need to "come out" so to speak, as if your sexual orientation is anybody's business besides you and your lover. I'm not gay but I come from an extended family with multiple gay members and it's just never been an issue for any of us.

Cross dressing seems even weirder because it's just your preference of clothes, it's like coming out that you like sweaters.

 

[Chromatic Aberration]

*shields eyes as he looks into the distance* ...and now they are entirely off the chart!

But hell yeah science because interactions require a little bit of in-depth analysis.

Well, you know how easy particle tangles this days, no wonder we need to keep researching cuz once tangled they keep sharing impulses and vibes, but seems like never information... such a complicated world.

Well that depends on what kind of interpretation you use. Information can also only travel at the speed of light, mind.

 

[Bestival]

I'm only out on these forums. Don't feel the need for it IRL. My best friend also knows, but we don't really talk about it except for the off comment about butt-fuckin'.

I am very sexually ambiguous though, especially in my humor. So much so that I'm routinely asked if I'm gay lately (I started picking up the ante a bit in recent months, after watching a video about introversion that I really identified with.) and to that I always reply 'no'. Not because I'm super ashamed of anything, but I just don't identify as gay. I'm bi, and sure, you could argument that there isn't a huge difference between gay and bi, but at the end of the day I just feel like for most people it isn't any of their damn business what I am, and thus the answer is a resounding 'no'.

If I ever find myself in a long term dedicated relationship with a guy though, I would come out. Not worried about that either, my parents and sisters are awesome, acceptive people. And any friend that can't deal wouldn't be much of a friend anyway, so fuck them, right?

To the OP: You look very nice in that! Quick question though; is that your real hair, or a wig? (Not trying to be offensive or anything, just wonder because a lot of crossdressers go for a wig to get some extra oomph.)

 

[Queen Michael]

To the OP: You look very nice in that! Quick question though; is that your real hair, or a wig? (Not trying to be offensive or anything, just wonder because a lot of crossdressers go for a wig to get some extra oomph.)

I'm all natural, babe. Also, thanks!

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Also, I just want to say that you look damn good in that dress.

Thanks to you too!

I second this!

And to you!