There are enough people thinking in black and white about sexuality, saying that people who are bi just don't know if they are straight or gay. Which pisses me off.Bestival said:
Coming out of the closet
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It was strange, though I've certainly had a relatively good reception.
Most of my friends didn't mind/ care. One felt even a little put-out that I hadn't told him sooner. Another, my oldest friend, denied it at first, believing I only thought I was bi because I hadn't managed to get a girlfriend.
My mum would prefer that I was straight, but she also recognises that it's her problem, and has said that partially it's only out of concern for me that she feels that way. My brother was personally fine with it (I knew he would be; he's as socially liberal as I am), though he did say that he thought I might have to pick a gender when I went off to University; apparently, the only bi guy at his old Uni had been a bit ostracised.
(It wasn't like that at my Uni, for the record).
So, all-round, not too bad. My mum'll come around in time, I hope. Several of her favourite figures are openly gay (such as Quentin Crisp and Allan Bennett).
Most of my friends didn't mind/ care. One felt even a little put-out that I hadn't told him sooner. Another, my oldest friend, denied it at first, believing I only thought I was bi because I hadn't managed to get a girlfriend.
My mum would prefer that I was straight, but she also recognises that it's her problem, and has said that partially it's only out of concern for me that she feels that way. My brother was personally fine with it (I knew he would be; he's as socially liberal as I am), though he did say that he thought I might have to pick a gender when I went off to University; apparently, the only bi guy at his old Uni had been a bit ostracised.
(It wasn't like that at my Uni, for the record).
So, all-round, not too bad. My mum'll come around in time, I hope. Several of her favourite figures are openly gay (such as Quentin Crisp and Allan Bennett).
Don't you worry - it happens to the best of us. You also might want to do some physics then - we can do science without actually doing math! You know by simply issuing a dismissive comment about mathematicians during a lecture and "assuming" that stuff works as intended anyway.Tanakh said:
Was pretty simple to come out as bi. Though, I often feel it's a bit more of bi-curious cause I haven't had any chances to experience gay interaction (in RL at least). My parents were a bit confused and didn't really believe it, but they accepted it. Though I don't think they remember it, it doesn't come up in conversation much. As for friends, they often are very surprised, saying they never though I'd be bi or bi-curious, and always saw me as perfectly straight. Good thing, I guess? Either way, I'm glad it turned out good
Yeah, I had that situation then he got me drunk and tried to rape me, destroying my ability to get close to guys. Derp. Did I forget to add the bit where I hate all men?0takuMetalhead said:
Yeah, I hate all men.
Sucks when people betray that trust. Especially women. For some reason they find it hard to understand that whilst a lot of the western world is TOTALLY OK with bi girls/lesbians (Met many homophobes who have no issue with lesbian porn.) its a different kettle of fish for guys. One is hot, the other is most certainly "Not.".
Luckily, bar my dad, I am pretty sure they wouldn't care. And he cannot. One of my siblings is gender queer, and open about it, t'other has had a few gay relationships in their past. Its more society in general that I don't like. The whole getting called greedy, being told its a phase, genuine revulsion... Yeah, No, Not for me.
If I have learnt anything in my brief time on this planet it is that we will always miss the ones who get away, even if it is impossible to get them back (They are dead, for example). I still get pangs for an old partner of mine and it has been... 3? 4 years? since I heard from her.
Kind of confused.
I've seen the OP post around here before and they've never posted in that kind of style.
But...if it is true and someone hasn't hacked your account or anything, then congrats!
Anyway, I came out as whatever I am exactly around...*ponders*...5-6 years ago I think? It wasn't a magic cure all button like I thought it would be at the time, but things are still probably better.
I've seen the OP post around here before and they've never posted in that kind of style.
But...if it is true and someone hasn't hacked your account or anything, then congrats!
Anyway, I came out as whatever I am exactly around...*ponders*...5-6 years ago I think? It wasn't a magic cure all button like I thought it would be at the time, but things are still probably better.
I had come out recently and really went over pretty okay. My mother is the only person in my family who I've spoken to it about, and she had told many stories about people she's known in a similar boat to me. Overall I think I'm rather fortunate to have such a supportive mother among the many stories I've heard about parents disowning their children for being gay.. and worse.
But the majority of my family is unaware, as is the entirety of my friends. I've actually been confronted and asked before if I was gay by a friend of mine, but I dodged my way out of the question entirely. I'm not really sure how to handle coming out to everyone else with as little drama as possible. I may just wait until I reach college before I bother tipping people off.
But the majority of my family is unaware, as is the entirety of my friends. I've actually been confronted and asked before if I was gay by a friend of mine, but I dodged my way out of the question entirely. I'm not really sure how to handle coming out to everyone else with as little drama as possible. I may just wait until I reach college before I bother tipping people off.
Good thing my PhD director told me to never get involved with the buch! Such loose use of hypothesis and axioms would make any decent mathematician faint.Chromatic Aberration said:
Anyway, currytime! Chicken and curry arrived and everyone (in the city) is invited to drop for some
It's kind of funny; I started posting like this to make people remember me, and now several people have commented that I didn't post like this in the past, meaning that at least some people actually did remember me.piinyouri said:
People need to learn that gay/bi people aren't from another planet or something if you gett what I mean. Easier sayd then done though.Mr F. said:
Good thing then that only a few people know my sexuality. My ex did say to me "It's just a phase" though.Mr F. said:
Im in that same boat.Mr F. said:
Coming out to my parents was not pleasant. They were about as judgmental as you can get and refused to accept me as a transwoman, and maintain such a delusion to this day. I had to work around them to get treatment.
Oh and Michael: two things: first, it helps that you don't look half-bad in your dress there, and second: your COMIC BOOK APPROACH to making people remember you is actually a bit of an eyesore. just sayin. Besides, I already thought your posts were an interesting read.
Oh and Michael: two things: first, it helps that you don't look half-bad in your dress there, and second: your COMIC BOOK APPROACH to making people remember you is actually a bit of an eyesore. just sayin. Besides, I already thought your posts were an interesting read.
Highfive, internet stranger!0takuMetalhead said:
Now I am gonna go pass out cause its almost 5 in the morning. Stupid insomnia. I literally have nothing more to add to this thread. Closets are fun places to hide, sometimes.
Actually, interestingly, I am a claustrophile. So whilst I am in the closet, as it were, when I get scared and want to feel safe I curl up in my actual closet, with my quilt (Or in a sleeping bag) and sleep for about a day. Makes me feel safe. Always loved small spaces.
So I am a closeted bisexual.
Who occasionally sleeps in a closet.
I've had the odd "problem" where people assume I'm gay and I have to break it to them that I'm straight. Seriously, three gay guys have asked me out and I had to gently explain to them that, really, "its not you, its me."
Maybe its because I'm a skinny white dude who's always been more into the arts than into football. Also because I don't "go on the hunt" which is apparently a thing that happens.
However, I do have an acquaintance (kind of an old friend; we were in the same Boy Scout Troop) that everyone always kind of suspected was gay. He ended up being really close to my parents and actually came out to them before his own family because he was afraid they wouldn't accept him. Actually, I'm pretty sure they don't know yet and he's been out for at least two years and recently got his second boyfriend. I guess some parents just like to lie to themselves.
He also had a tough time landing a job despite being an Eagle Scout and a very hard worker with a great resume. My mom ended up helping him out by hiring him to work for her. Fortunately, her company wouldn't ever lay him off because they like to have diversity in the workforce and he's a great employee.
Also, that's a pretty neat dress.
Maybe its because I'm a skinny white dude who's always been more into the arts than into football. Also because I don't "go on the hunt" which is apparently a thing that happens.
However, I do have an acquaintance (kind of an old friend; we were in the same Boy Scout Troop) that everyone always kind of suspected was gay. He ended up being really close to my parents and actually came out to them before his own family because he was afraid they wouldn't accept him. Actually, I'm pretty sure they don't know yet and he's been out for at least two years and recently got his second boyfriend. I guess some parents just like to lie to themselves.
He also had a tough time landing a job despite being an Eagle Scout and a very hard worker with a great resume. My mom ended up helping him out by hiring him to work for her. Fortunately, her company wouldn't ever lay him off because they like to have diversity in the workforce and he's a great employee.
Also, that's a pretty neat dress.
Although I don't think you look good in a dress, I think it is good that you are comfortable in it. Really don't care if it isn't dress, I hate being corrected on bullshit that doesn't matter. Can't stand stroking people's egos either, I am not going with the crowd on this one. Have to say that ladies clothes on guys, just looks terrible to me. Even though that might sound harsh, I don't have a problem with people doing it. Really have no problem if we worked together either, I would tell you to your face if you asked me how it looked.
OP you look nice in that dress.
I identify as genderfluid AND pansexual. my mum kind of knows the genderfluid. But I've almost always been more partial to jeans and tshirts. So I would say no one would be surprised over that. Confused? Yes. Surprised? not really. The sexuality would throw more of them for a loop. Because a lot of people have issues grasping the concept that I'm not attracted to people's sex organs.....
Personally, I think gender constructs within society need to be thrown out the window. Because who cares if a man wants to wear a dress? Or if a man identifies as a woman? Or if a woman identifies as a man? Or if a man or woman refuses to identify as a gender? Gender is more fluid than people realise. As well as sexuality.
I identify as genderfluid AND pansexual. my mum kind of knows the genderfluid. But I've almost always been more partial to jeans and tshirts. So I would say no one would be surprised over that. Confused? Yes. Surprised? not really. The sexuality would throw more of them for a loop. Because a lot of people have issues grasping the concept that I'm not attracted to people's sex organs.....
Personally, I think gender constructs within society need to be thrown out the window. Because who cares if a man wants to wear a dress? Or if a man identifies as a woman? Or if a woman identifies as a man? Or if a man or woman refuses to identify as a gender? Gender is more fluid than people realise. As well as sexuality.
Good choice of dress There's one girl at my workplace who wears those Chinese dresses as well. Kinda refreshing considering most of the women at my work just wear the same old business-causal dresses that just scream "eh...".
The only people who know I'm gay are my close circle of friends and anyone we integrate into it. My parents don't know, I don't tell my co-workers, and I generally don't tell acquaintances. I've never actually met anyone who was actually homophobic, but I just don't tell anyone. Actually, if any one of those people ask, I'll usually say I'm asexual (I mean, I'm 21, a virgin, always have been single, never went on one date or even kissed a guy soooo... Why not?). The last time I told anyone I was gay was a group of girls I worked with who, while accepting, became extremely obnoxious about how they always wanted a gay best friend, and eventually distanced themselves from me once they found out I wasn't into fashion/talking about cute boys/shopping/other stereotypical things. After that I just don't bother except with close friends since people have in the past assumed some very stereotypical things of me in the past. Also I would never bring up my sexuality unless someone directly asked me.
I haven't told my parents because... Well, I just haven't. They never asked me, I don't care enough to tell them, and I know it would make things awkward for awhile and frankly I just don't want that right now. Maybe when I move out and eventually get a boyfriend I'll just casually drop that I have a boyfriend and see what happens.
There's one girl at my workplace who wears those Chinese dresses as well. Kinda refreshing considering most of the women at my work just wear the same old business-causal dresses that just scream "eh...".The only people who know I'm gay are my close circle of friends and anyone we integrate into it. My parents don't know, I don't tell my co-workers, and I generally don't tell acquaintances. I've never actually met anyone who was actually homophobic, but I just don't tell anyone. Actually, if any one of those people ask, I'll usually say I'm asexual (I mean, I'm 21, a virgin, always have been single, never went on one date or even kissed a guy soooo... Why not?). The last time I told anyone I was gay was a group of girls I worked with who, while accepting, became extremely obnoxious about how they always wanted a gay best friend, and eventually distanced themselves from me once they found out I wasn't into fashion/talking about cute boys/shopping/other stereotypical things. After that I just don't bother except with close friends since people have in the past assumed some very stereotypical things of me in the past. Also I would never bring up my sexuality unless someone directly asked me.
I haven't told my parents because... Well, I just haven't. They never asked me, I don't care enough to tell them, and I know it would make things awkward for awhile and frankly I just don't want that right now. Maybe when I move out and eventually get a boyfriend I'll just casually drop that I have a boyfriend and see what happens.