Coming out of the closet
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Sorry buddy it was late last night and i couldnt sleep. Probably went straight for the post button or someone above/below youRatties said:
You should feel honoured you got accidently quoted
I'm pretty bi, and my friends know because they've seen me with guys and girls. My parents have always taken a stance with my siblings and I that they don't really care. To their minds it is a) nothing to do with them and b) not a problem in any way. So I haven't made a point of not having a boyfriend or anything, I just haven't shared any details of my sex life with them.
Maybe some day I will get an urge to 'officially' announce to everyone close to me 'I'm capable of sexual attraction to people from all walks of life!", but I doubt it.
Maybe some day I will get an urge to 'officially' announce to everyone close to me 'I'm capable of sexual attraction to people from all walks of life!", but I doubt it.
Eh it's something not really accepted across the board. People get funny about transvestites, thinking they're gay men trying to trick straight men into gay sex or just dislike it because it's not "normal". Eddie Izzard explains it the best way possible thoughsomonels said:
On topic: Good on ya OP, not only for being completely cool about who you are, but for having the massive stones required to wear that stuff to work
If people wanna wear dresses and what not fucking go for it. Now hetro men wearing skinny jeans and those hideous effeminate cardigans being fashionable... that's something that needs to be looked at. Now I gotta say the OP is pulling that dress off quite fabulously. On the few occasions I've attempted some cross dressing I never seem to be able to pull it off without looking like a crack whore >< Though apparently I've got nice legs.
Eh could be anything to be honest, straight crossdressers are a lot more common than you'd think, in fact most of the ones I know are, they just like wearing womens clothing, be that for comfort or sexual reasons. Heck, just wearing dresses could be a particular fetish that you have, can't be sure without experimentation, which is what I'd suggest. That and various types of porn if you're confused about your sexuality. Nothing wrong with being curious, either way, you'll know where you stand and probably end up being more comfortable with yourself.Rosiv said:
That and I don't think being "jealous" of the female form is /that/ odd. I think if we wern't generally hard-wired to fancy the opposite sex, most women would probably be lesbians. The female form is just fundamentally nicer than the male one in general, it's all soft and curvy and sleek. Men are blocky and hairy.
Obviously the decision to go Trans is a big one if you do end up feeling that that's what you want down the road, and talking to someone to try and get your head round it would be something, even if it's just voicing your thoughts out loud that could put it in perspective, or even trying the whole crossdressing thing in private to start to see how you feel about it.
But then there are many other people on the escapist far more qualified to give their thoughts about this than me. They can speak from experience for a start.
The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm being 100% honest right now. The second thing is that when I saw that picture I went WHOA with amazement. Impressive! You're looking gorgous!elvor0 said:Now I gotta say the OP is pulling that dress off quite fabulously. On the few occasions I've attempted some cross dressing I never seem to be able to pull it off without looking like a crack whore >< Though apparently I've got nice legs.
Well to be fair, at least you look like an EXPENSIVE crack whore.elvor0 said:
(THis just makes it worse, doesn't it?)
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Homophobes are dicks and should be forced in the nearest possible closet. Negotiations about their possible release in the future will be held amongst everyone else.
Hah hah, I wouldn't hit that and that's me, but cheers anywayQueen Michael said:The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm being 100% honest right now. The second thing is that when I saw that picture I went WHOA with amazement. Impressive! You're looking gorgous!elvor0 said:Now I gotta say the OP is pulling that dress off quite fabulously. On the few occasions I've attempted some cross dressing I never seem to be able to pull it off without looking like a crack whore >< Though apparently I've got nice legs.
I think a wig would help if I ever try it again, I didn't have enough hair for the girls to do much with without cutting it, plus I have a beard now, so I'm not really prepared to shave it off for one night of silliness. Also, I'd like to point out that the *shudder* Twilight poster isn't mine, I was at a friends house, just in case anyone gets the wrong idea ><Well it makes me slightly upmarket if nothing elseCalibanbutcher said:
Well, I've seen crack whores before, and you definitely don't look like one. You do have rather pretty legs, and I'm not just saying that.elvor0 said:On the few occasions I've attempted some cross dressing I never seem to be able to pull it off without looking like a crack whore >< Though apparently I've got nice legs.
Never have had to go through the coming out experience, actually. It'd need to be something rather drastic to cause any problems, though. Like coming out as a time travelling SS guard. I understand how fortunate I am, although I imagine one could grow and learn a lot from the experience.
If I ever become ridiculously rich and philantropic, I'd start some sort of coming out helpline, where people can turn to for help, if they fear it's not going to go terribly well.
While it's difficult to really see, the world is becoming ever so slightly more inclusive and tolerant. Which is probably the reason why it appears to be going in the opposite. But for instance; Tzar Putin passing laws to effective repress people with alternative sexual orientations might seem like a step back, but the fact that this has become an issue, and is not taken as status quo or "How it should be", is a sign that things have gotten better.
Tomorrow is better than it looks from here.
OP: Rasande vacker klänning! Skönt att se, att det finns de som behärskar den konsten till fulländning. Inte en gräslig spetskant i sikte.
If I ever become ridiculously rich and philantropic, I'd start some sort of coming out helpline, where people can turn to for help, if they fear it's not going to go terribly well.
While it's difficult to really see, the world is becoming ever so slightly more inclusive and tolerant. Which is probably the reason why it appears to be going in the opposite. But for instance; Tzar Putin passing laws to effective repress people with alternative sexual orientations might seem like a step back, but the fact that this has become an issue, and is not taken as status quo or "How it should be", is a sign that things have gotten better.
Tomorrow is better than it looks from here.
OP: Rasande vacker klänning! Skönt att se, att det finns de som behärskar den konsten till fulländning. Inte en gräslig spetskant i sikte.
Well dependin gon the business you are in, it shouldnt matter how you dress.
Of course there are other jobs that require you to try and play along with what society ecpects form you, but if you are lucky enough to not be in that industry, then you should do whatever pleases you.
You only live once.
Of course there are other jobs that require you to try and play along with what society ecpects form you, but if you are lucky enough to not be in that industry, then you should do whatever pleases you.
You only live once.
I'm open enough with my sexuality. My parents know, unless they forgot. Pretty sure my friends know. If it doesn't come up I don't mention it. But I'm hardly hiding it or anything. Personally I don't see why it should matter to people or why I should mention it. Anyway people don't seem to mind. Homophobes just flat out piss me off, can't stand them. Also whenever people say bisexuals are 'greedy', that they don't exist or that you aren't 'really' bi you just want to 'look cool' it annoys me.
My gender identity is something even I have been confused by for a long time. People close to me know that my sex isn't a defining part of me as a person. That I would be fine as either sex. Also that I don't like it when people are defined by their sex. That's how much they know. However it is a bit more than that. I knew I wasn't transgendered but at same time knew I wasn't cisgendered either. Not sure what you call it. Looked up a few terms and none of them really fit. Genderqueer maybe? I don't know, doesn't really matter what it is called anyway. Ideally I could switch sex at will but really I'm fine as either sex. Also I would wear gender neutral clothes anyway. So even if I was female I wouldn't wear things like dresses. Also that kind of ties into sexuality in that I would be much more into getting with a man as a woman than as a man.
My gender identity is something even I have been confused by for a long time. People close to me know that my sex isn't a defining part of me as a person. That I would be fine as either sex. Also that I don't like it when people are defined by their sex. That's how much they know. However it is a bit more than that. I knew I wasn't transgendered but at same time knew I wasn't cisgendered either. Not sure what you call it. Looked up a few terms and none of them really fit. Genderqueer maybe? I don't know, doesn't really matter what it is called anyway. Ideally I could switch sex at will but really I'm fine as either sex. Also I would wear gender neutral clothes anyway. So even if I was female I wouldn't wear things like dresses. Also that kind of ties into sexuality in that I would be much more into getting with a man as a woman than as a man.
Awwwww, you look adorable. Really, that was my first thought. I'm happy you didn't have any problems coming out beyond the initial worries. Sweden sounds like a chill place. Cool.Queen Michael said:
Also, are you wearing a wig or did you style your hair like that? Because it looks very well done.
Haha, you're the third person to ask that!CleverCover said:
It's all natural. I think the reason people ask that is that it's bleached.
I've never really had a need to come out about anything. My parents and family generally just don't care, my older sister is bi, so it's not really a revelation.
Well...okay, I do keep some things to my self. I don't really want to tell anyone(in person), least of all my parents. Mostly in regards to wishing my body structure was more feminine, but alas, that's not life.
The things I would do for a body like Ruka. Probably why I wear a long skirt, for which only my therapists seem to care about.
Edit: What's with the Escapist making me sad all the time? Geez.
Well...okay, I do keep some things to my self. I don't really want to tell anyone(in person), least of all my parents. Mostly in regards to wishing my body structure was more feminine, but alas, that's not life.
The things I would do for a body like Ruka. Probably why I wear a long skirt, for which only my therapists seem to care about.
Edit: What's with the Escapist making me sad all the time? Geez.
Nobody saying anything about it, and nobody noticing it are two entirely different things.White Lightning said:
I have no need to come out, as I'm straight as a dye. But I sure as hell know one place, where coming out would not be a good idea, Russia. If they found out that you're gay/transsexual you'd probably get beaten to death in the street while people would encourage the people assaulting you. Come to think of it, Russia is not a good place if you're not Russian either, or white for that matter