So, I've got a problem. A problem that was recently brought to light by the newest "Love FAQ" article.
I've never had any luck with women. Ever. There are only two women I've ever really liked liked, and they both were way out of my league, even when I got into college. And I'll admit that I have trouble being attracted to "average" women, particularly after knowing the both of them; they were just that far above what most women. I try and deal with it.
But I have issues in other ways. And that is what made the article stick out for me. I'm honest about it; I'm not particularly physically attractive. I don't have money, and likely never will. The only "distinguishing" thing about me is that my grades tend to be slightly better than average and that I don't really have to put in any effort to get Bs and As. I don't have an artistic bone in my body, my sense of humor is deader than Elvis.
The only other real thing I thought I had going for me is that I try to be nice and decent to women (and people in general) but if any of the information provided recently is any indication then that counts for absolutely shite.
And lets add to this the winning combination of my two main hobbies being video games and anime and I've pretty much got a big god damn "Unworthy" sign stuck to my head. Because, like it or not, neither of these are terribly popular with the ladies.
Video games, particularly in the way I think a lot of men mean when they say "I like video games" means something completely different than when women say "I like video games". One means something along the lines of a major sporting event; wherein competitiveness, story loud noises and obsessing over stats is the norm while the other is referring more to something like Farmville or maybe an Xbox Live Arcade game. They're not exactly talking about the same thing; and when they are it becomes even harder because every man in the room takes note because something rarer than gold has just made itself known.
And anime isn't going to be a big "friend" winner or activity. Particularly not when I like to rank anime like Sekirei [http://www.funimation.com/sekirei/episodes] and Witchblade [http://www.funimation.com/witchblade/episodes] up there with Spice and Wolf, Outlaw Star and Mobile Suit Gundam as some of my favorite anime. Having one of them walk in on an episode of Sekirei is probably the fastest way known to man to lose a girlfriend.
Which brings me to the topic of the title. The conflict is this; I can't seem to decide if I'm actually wrong and that it really is just a combination of bad luck, personal issues and lack of people where I've lived that have caused my problem, or if it might finally be time to accept that I'm not one of the lucky desirable ones, and that I never really had or have a chance.
Accepting one means that I'll have to change pretty much everything about me, and wind up not acting naturally....which is the exact opposite of what most people will tell you to do. The other means that I simply got kicked in the nuts by the system like so many other people and that I was damned from the beginning regardless of what I did.
Neither really looks too good here.
I've never had any luck with women. Ever. There are only two women I've ever really liked liked, and they both were way out of my league, even when I got into college. And I'll admit that I have trouble being attracted to "average" women, particularly after knowing the both of them; they were just that far above what most women. I try and deal with it.
But I have issues in other ways. And that is what made the article stick out for me. I'm honest about it; I'm not particularly physically attractive. I don't have money, and likely never will. The only "distinguishing" thing about me is that my grades tend to be slightly better than average and that I don't really have to put in any effort to get Bs and As. I don't have an artistic bone in my body, my sense of humor is deader than Elvis.
The only other real thing I thought I had going for me is that I try to be nice and decent to women (and people in general) but if any of the information provided recently is any indication then that counts for absolutely shite.
And lets add to this the winning combination of my two main hobbies being video games and anime and I've pretty much got a big god damn "Unworthy" sign stuck to my head. Because, like it or not, neither of these are terribly popular with the ladies.
Video games, particularly in the way I think a lot of men mean when they say "I like video games" means something completely different than when women say "I like video games". One means something along the lines of a major sporting event; wherein competitiveness, story loud noises and obsessing over stats is the norm while the other is referring more to something like Farmville or maybe an Xbox Live Arcade game. They're not exactly talking about the same thing; and when they are it becomes even harder because every man in the room takes note because something rarer than gold has just made itself known.
And anime isn't going to be a big "friend" winner or activity. Particularly not when I like to rank anime like Sekirei [http://www.funimation.com/sekirei/episodes] and Witchblade [http://www.funimation.com/witchblade/episodes] up there with Spice and Wolf, Outlaw Star and Mobile Suit Gundam as some of my favorite anime. Having one of them walk in on an episode of Sekirei is probably the fastest way known to man to lose a girlfriend.
Which brings me to the topic of the title. The conflict is this; I can't seem to decide if I'm actually wrong and that it really is just a combination of bad luck, personal issues and lack of people where I've lived that have caused my problem, or if it might finally be time to accept that I'm not one of the lucky desirable ones, and that I never really had or have a chance.
Accepting one means that I'll have to change pretty much everything about me, and wind up not acting naturally....which is the exact opposite of what most people will tell you to do. The other means that I simply got kicked in the nuts by the system like so many other people and that I was damned from the beginning regardless of what I did.
Neither really looks too good here.
