Quadocky said:
You didn't bother to read the rest of my post, did you?
Something about freedom etc?
Could You Date A Transexual?
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You didn't bother to read the rest of my post, did you?
Something about freedom etc?
No idea. I don't have any objection to it, but I've never been asked out by a transsexual, so it's entirely possible that I could not date one because they all dislike me. I've met trans women I find attractive and there are probably some who share interests with me, so I guess I can answer 'yes' to the question 'are there trans people you would be willing to date?'.
If I were to state a preference, I would probably prefer to be with someone who had just had hormone treatments as opposed to full reconstruction surgery on their genitals.
If I were to state a preference, I would probably prefer to be with someone who had just had hormone treatments as opposed to full reconstruction surgery on their genitals.
Love how you say you would be 80% ok with dating a MtoF and you GIF is ''kill them with fire'' xDwintercoat said:
No, it's totally ok and perfectly natural to be attracted to people based on appearance. And if you find out someone you were attracted to is transwoman, and that's a dealbreaker for you, better to be honest.Casual Shinji said:
What's not ok are pithy comments about how "if you're a guy you're a guy."
I think it's more of an issue that a lot of people seem to misunderstand what it means being a transsexual, and have a very strict idea of what is a 'man' and what a 'woman', when reality is not always so black and white.Casual Shinji said:
It's a bit like saying 'I'd never date someone who has a different skin colour than me'.
You're entitled to choose who you want to date, but it might be based on misinformation and prejudice.
We're always going to judge someone on appearances alone, at first. Because how someone looks is the first information that enters our brain. And our eyes are generally our most precious of the five senses. Can you honestly tell me you've never seen certain people walk down the street and thought, 'Jeez, look at that idiot'? Our minds kind of work automatically that way. But that doesn't mean you should base your entire opinion on that. And I don'tQuadocky said:
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Yes, I would not start a serious relationship with anyone who didn't want or couldn't have children, it's that simple. To many people having a family is an important life goal and while adoption is an option, it takes years of jumping through hoops and most adoptive children take a different challenge to raise than biological kids since at the best they've experienced neglect and often much worse abuse.Lieju said:
OT: I would date for short term if I found them attractive but for long term, the lack of fertility would rule it out. People are free to choose their own gender and I will respect their choice but I'm somewhat sceptical about the whole "it's not a mental condition, it's physical," point. There are people who believe they are wrong age (adult babies) or the wrong species (otherkin), do they have a physical problem too?
Absolutely. Funnily enough, I don't find myself attracted to regular girls or boys, but I love M-to-F Transsexuals (pre-op is better). It kind of sucks though, since as far as I know there are not a lot of transgender women where I live, and probably less that I would share interests with.
are those in the DSM? Gender Dysphoria is, and was declassified now that deeper long term study has been done. It is not considered a mental disorder by the mental, and medical health community.JoJo said:
Why is this not okay? Why is it okay for transgenders to place so much importance on gender (why else would they get a sex change), but not for everyone else?bananafishtoday said:
Being what you "are," at least somewhat includes your body. Which is still its original gender, aside from cosmetic tweaks. Let the hormone treatments run out, you'll see my point.Beautiful Tragedy said:Quadocky said:
SureYa it's not "acting" anything, it's what I AM... I was born in the wrong body and i am just making efforts to change that mistake.
I am NOT saying people should NOT be transgender. I AM saying belief that you really have BECOME the opposite gender is not true. In reality, you have become a nonfunctional version of your original gender that resembles the opposite one. So no, it's not deeper. Yes, you are roleplaying. But that's perfectly ok, because it's what you truly feel you want to be. Also note, being "born in the wrong body" is probably too metaphysical a case to bring up in a medical argument.
I don't think anyone is saying that really, any one who does is rather silly. You can't force someone to be a attracted to trans people any more then a trans person can "just deal with it. No one should have to make apologies for their sexuality and that means heterosexuals too. However people go beyond that and add an unnecessary level of hostilely to their answers. I'll use yours as an example.Casual Shinji said:
Yours was a relatively mild way of putting it, (relative to comparing it to cutting of dog faces, almost everything is mild) but your words still come off as telling transpeople they are delusional. That's the problem. Rather then saying something like "Its not something I could get past physically or sexually", many have to try and act like transpeople are lies in human form. That is the part that offends people, the idea that they are all delusional.Casual Shinji said:
Depends on how he/she dealt with it. Being born with the wrong sex must have been a trauma, and I wouldn't date a depressed person. I probably feel a bit weird about it, but if he/she is happy with who he/she is and if he/she is a fun person to be around. Hey let's give it a shot
incorrect. completely incorrect. My MIND, the chemistry of my brain are female. I am not roleplaying anything, I am a woman, it's for you to have an opinion, but do one minute of research... or not..ignorance is bliss.Nieroshai said:Being what you "are," at least somewhat includes your body. Which is still its original gender, aside from cosmetic tweaks. Let the hormone treatments run out, you'll see my point.Beautiful Tragedy said:Quadocky said:
Sure
I am NOT saying people should NOT be transgender. I AM saying belief that you really have BECOME the opposite gender is not true. In reality, you have become a nonfunctional version of your original gender that resembles the opposite one. So no, it's not deeper. Yes, you are roleplaying. But that's perfectly ok, because it's what you truly feel you want to be. Also note, being "born in the wrong body" is probably too metaphysical a case to bring up in a medical argument.
