Dating Outside your Religion (or lack thereof)

[New Troll]

Some of my friends are religiously confused because they were raised by parents who participated in different religions, so I'm not sure about the whole children thing, though.

This is a huge issue when marrying a different faith, children. The best thing you could probably do is teach them both faith and let them decide for themself which they prefer. And be supportive of whichever they choose, even if it's not your own. Hell, even if it's not either of your owns.

Faith is best when it's chosen for yourself, not forced onto you like a chore. It's like the difference between riding a bike as a kid because it's fun or riding a bike as a kid because you had to deliver newspapers.

 

[The_Echo]

Why should different religions matter so long as the two people don't care? at all?

Fixed.

Answer: It shouldn't.

 

[New Troll]

And how could I date/marry someone who I believed is going to hell (say if they are Catholic or similar). It would be too big an issue of contention for me to deal with in a relationship.

I get what you're saying here and I do commend you on your belief. Your love for that person doesn't ever wish them harm, wether in this life or in the afterlife.

Personaly I don't believe most the world is going to Hell. Well, the people's souls that is (already to late for the planet.) My belief is our God is a loving God and isn't going to condemn good people just because thier belief is a little different than someone else's. If that was the absolute case, then there's really only be maybe one person in Heaven since everyone is different. Now, I knoew there's no way I can tell someone I'm right and they're wrong because only He knows that for sure, but I do like remaining positive, not only for myself, but for everyone else also.

 

[Enfid]

There at least one problem that I can think of. Muslims are really strict as to whom they can marry. Or if I heard it right, if you date and want to marry a Muslim, you HAVE to convert to Muslim. No exceptions.

Then I heard from a friend's personal experience with dating outside her religion. I'm not sure what she is, but she dated a Christian (not sure what specifically). The guy's family said they have to break up because "she's not Christian". So the guy did. She has an enmity to Christianity ever since.

It's my personal opinion that it's ideal if two people share the same 'faith' if they date or, more importantly, get married. Though, like anything in the world, there's always compromise.

 

[Sark]

I am a scientologist and would never consider anyone but another scientologist. How could I love her without knowing her Thetan count?

 

[magicaxis]

Sure theres no problem to it if the people can control themselves and not allow religion to get in the way of their relationship, but alas people are morons.

Give that man an A+

So long as neither of them like, try to convert the other, then its all good

 

[SkalZ]

Sure theres no problem to it if the people can control themselves and not allow religion to get in the way of their relationship, but alas people are morons.

Give that man an A+

So long as neither of them like, try to convert the other, then its all good

Agreed.

 

[Deadpoolsbrain]

As long as she wasn't forceful I wouldn't mind.

 

[sneakypenguin]

And how could I date/marry someone who I believed is going to hell (say if they are Catholic or similar). It would be too big an issue of contention for me to deal with in a relationship.

I get what you're saying here and I do commend you on your belief. Your love for that person doesn't ever wish them harm, wether in this life or in the afterlife.

Personaly I don't believe most the world is going to Hell. Well, the people's souls that is (already to late for the planet.) My belief is our God is a loving God and isn't going to condemn good people just because thier belief is a little different than someone else's. If that was the absolute case, then there's really only be maybe one person in Heaven since everyone is different. Now, I knoew there's no way I can tell someone I'm right and they're wrong because only He knows that for sure, but I do like remaining positive, not only for myself, but for everyone else also.

TO further derail this thread.
I think most of the world is going to hell (broad is the gate) Yes God is a loving God but he is a just God and as such can't allow sin (or anyone not under the saving grace of Jesus) into heaven. He outlines the way to heaven in the Bible and I think it's clear that it is a faith based system (ie Believeing not in God (heck the devil believes in God) but rather believe that you are a sinner and nothing you do is good enough for heaven(except faith in the saving grace of Christ) God condemns many times a "works" based path, I don't think He wanted that kind of uncertainty (ie am I good enough for heaven). Hence my anti "all roads lead to rome" kind of belief. And from that belief my conclusion that most of the world is condemned to hell.

 

[Wildrow12]

Well, I'm christian dating an atheist and it doesn't cause any problems

Same situation here. She also has different political ideas than I, and many other differing points. But a our mutual respect for each other has lead our relationship to grow stronger (not to mention that our discussions are always stimulating).

Though we STILL clash over sports teams.

....what? There are things that simply are beyond discussion!

 

[Deadpoolsbrain]

And how could I date/marry someone who I believed is going to hell (say if they are Catholic or similar). It would be too big an issue of contention for me to deal with in a relationship.

I get what you're saying here and I do commend you on your belief. Your love for that person doesn't ever wish them harm, wether in this life or in the afterlife.

Personaly I don't believe most the world is going to Hell. Well, the people's souls that is (already to late for the planet.) My belief is our God is a loving God and isn't going to condemn good people just because thier belief is a little different than someone else's. If that was the absolute case, then there's really only be maybe one person in Heaven since everyone is different. Now, I knoew there's no way I can tell someone I'm right and they're wrong because only He knows that for sure, but I do like remaining positive, not only for myself, but for everyone else also.

TO further derail this thread.
I think most of the world is going to hell (broad is the gate) Yes God is a loving God but he is a just God and as such can't allow sin (or anyone not under the saving grace of Jesus) into heaven. He outlines the way to heaven in the Bible and I think it's clear that it is a faith based system (ie Believeing not in God (heck the devil believes in God) but rather believe that you are a sinner and nothing you do is good enough for heaven(except faith in the saving grace of Christ) God condemns many times a "works" based path, I don't think He wanted that kind of uncertainty (ie am I good enough for heaven). Hence my anti "all roads lead to rome" kind of belief. And from that belief my conclusion that most of the world is condemned to hell.

So basically your god's a **** and you can't see it by your logic.

 

[Sigel]

My husband and I are both different religions. We both respect each others points of view so it does not cause any friction, even though we might not agree with it.

 

[Flying-Emu]

I am agnostic as well and some people have actually turned me down because of this. Very interesting to me that if someone finds someone attractive through personality or looks, beliefs can throw all of it down the drain!

I'm pretty sure that beliefs are important in a healthy relationship, at the very least in comparison to physical appearance.

Or, you know, all those women I've dated were just weird.

So basically your god's a **** and you can't see it by your logic.

And you're a rather inflammatory poster. Kindly leave.

 

[Jumplion]

Eh, I'm Jewish, and while I would prefer to date/marry/fuck around with inside my religion, I would not mind going outside of the basket so long as I like the person. Just so long as they don't try to convert me, I take pride in my religion even though I'm probably the most unorthodox jew that I know.

 

[Archemetis]

I'm not a religious person as far as family ties are concerned, I have a general idea of what I like to think (I'll never state that it's a belief) when it comes to deities and such.

I have however met and been with a lot of religious women, the one that stands out, (Mostly because I'm a white british guy) was a Hindu chick I was with once.

I caught a fair bit of flak for being with her, mostly from my family who just aren't exactly warm to other racial groups (Why I don't know, they all have "mixed groups" when it comes to friends...)

But yeah, we thought we were "in love", It was a school romance, so of course I was an idiot at the time and not nearly as jaded and cynical as I've become.
But anyway, deviating from the point...

We thought we were in love and we had a fairly passionate and physical relationship, but the moment that stands out in my mind of that entire relationship was about five months in where I turned to her and asked "So, what religion are you? I forgot to ask..."

Some people could call me unattentive but I honestly just didn't care until it occured to me that I didn't know... Something that as a boyfriend I probably should've.

So really religious gaps aren't a significant hurdle unless people allow them to be.

Much like two friends of mine who're obviously digging on eachother but won't act on it because the girl's a Jehovah's Witness...

I got slapped in the head by a mate of mine for making the comment "Awh, they could so be in love if she wasn't so hung up on being a Jehovah's Witness..."

But I still maintain I was in the right for saying it, it's true.

 

[sneakypenguin]

So basically your god's a **** and you can't see it by your logic.

No He gives an easy way for salvation but he also gave man a free will so..... Hows that being a "c*^t? if steam said click on link and type in l4d to get a free game, and you went to facebook and updated your status would they be evil for saying no game for you?
Weird analogy I know.

 

[Odude]

I had a 2.5 year relationship end because her mormon family all disowned her because I was not a "brother." She was raised to be controlled by them and I guess the brainwashing payed off. I will never date people involved in cults ever again.

 

[Nuke_em_05]

Well, I think you need to define what you're actually asking. What someone actually believes or not does make a fundamental conflict. A religion is a club of people who may or may not actually believe the same thing. For those who are part of a religion without actual faith, yes, it probably wouldn't be a problem. If you truly believe in your religion (or lack therof), it would probably prove difficult.

At least for a pair with a Christian believer in it:

If you truly believe in Christ and his full teachings, you're going to want your significant other to believe, because you would want everyone to believe, because you want everyone to have a personal relationship with Christ. Especially your loved one, as the idea behind Christian marriage (not saying it is the only definition), which would be your ultimate goal in the relationship (if you truly believed), would be the union of two souls in Christ, following in service of the Lord together. Also, you'd love to see them in paradaise, equally, you'd hate to see them in hell. If you believe just "being a good person" gets you into Christian heaven, you don't believe Christ, because he said himself the only way is through him.

If you truly don't believe in anything, you tend to be the sort who thinks that those who do believe in something are idiots. Of course I'm generalizing, but if you have a truly Christian significant other, they're probably going to annoy you.

I can't speak for other faiths.

 

[Grayl]

Without trying to get myself flamed, and without trying to sound offensive, I don't think I could go out with anyone who was a devout religious person. I know a few people who believe in this or that but I don't really know any people that follow their religion to the book. And if I did know someone like that, I'd struggle to make a real connection to them.

I consider myself an intellectual, logical and open-minded person, and for me and my friends, Darwinian Evolution is just... fact. I talk about evolution and natural selection so much in my day-to-day life that anyone who said that they didn't believe in what I said would just... I dunno, I could just never make a real connection to them. Because deep down, I believe that they are fooling themselves, and that in-turn makes them a fool. To me, at least.

My current GF has told me that she used to believe in witch-craft and ghosts etc and that I sort of came along and got her into logic and the laws of the universe. So, by that, I mean that I could probably go out with someone who believed that there was a God or that a version of heaven/hell exists, but I couldn't go out with someone who really believed in that stuff.

My GF also agrees with me on my point; she also couldn't date anyone that was a devout religious person, for the same reasons as myself.

Once again, I don't mean to offend anyone. And hey, I'm an atheist, so I do at least treat all religions equally!

 

[Deadpoolsbrain]

So basically your god's a **** and you can't see it by your logic.

No He gives an easy way for salvation but he also gave man a free will so..... Hows that being a "c*^t? if steam said click on link and type in l4d to get a free game, and you went to facebook and updated your status would they be evil for saying no game for you?
Weird analogy I know.

Torturing people for the rest of eternity for not believing in you? That's not acting like a ****? So people born in families of different religions or never learned of christianity (like back way back when) Christians don't realise what they are saying when they go "I believe that most of the world is going to hell dur..." Well I am sorry but the god you described is a douche. At least the Norse gods and Greek gods didn't punish people who never knew their religion. So yes in short you can't see what a **** your (and I do mean your since you are in the minority of christians who believe as you do) god is.