Dating Outside your Religion (or lack thereof)

[Grigori361]

Well I'm pagan, and I'm dating a jew, apparently I don't see an issue with it, and anyone that does can call down their god to see if he wants to do anything about it .

 

[Nutcase]

Well, either both are nonreligious or only "going through the motions" kind of religious - keeping up appearances, finding comfort in routine - in which case cross-religion dating might work, or at least one is serious about their religion, and I don't really see that working well. You could be able to ignore it for a while, in fact you almost certainly can, but what when it comes time to raise some kids? When it comes time to put fifty grand either into a retirement account or to build a mission station in Africa?

I'm not religious, and I would never be OK with anyone brainwashing my kids before they are old enough to make their own decisions. That means no baptism, no confimation, etc. If they wanted to join a church as adults, it would be their own business at that point and I wouldn't get cranky over it.

I might be fine with some religions that tend to mind their own business. Buddhism, probably.

 

[bluepilot]

My religious tendancies fluctuate a lot and I am happy to date someone who is religious or believes in something....providing that they can admit that there is a possibility that what they believe in might not be true...in other words they can be open to the fact that there may be other possibilities but have chosen faith as a concious choice over other things. I dislike blind faith.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

I believe as of yet Satanists have been underrepresented(if that's even a word). And so here I am, a non-theistic LeVay Satanist. Now before anyone thinks I'm a crazy Christian-hating troll who worhips demons I emplore you to research the term "Levay Satanist".

So on the actual topic of the thread,I'm currently dating a Christian who does indeed believe in god and the devil and presumabley heaven and hell. In my case this really hasn't caused any problems, this is actually a little suprising to me because I VERY strongly dissbelieve in reliogion of all forms(I consider levay satanism really more of a philossiphy than a religion. So I'm not sure unless one member of the couple is a devout and the other anti-theistic...it shouldn't cause many problems, though a wedding could potentially be quite difficult.

and on a side note, this is my first post on the escapist(all the religion threads made me feel the need to join)

 

[SimuLord]

I'm very religious (polytheist in the Greco-Roman/Norse tradition) and wouldn't (and didn't) date people who were monotheistic from the major monotheist faiths. They're just too intolerant and morally bothersome to me---the differences create (and created) too much tension. I'd use Christian girls for sex as a personal Eff-You to their zealot hypocrisy (always fun to see them cry afterward when they felt like sluts), but I wouldn't get seriously involved with one.

I married an agnostic, but if I weren't married I'd be willing to date anyone who was either an atheist (though not a militant Hitchens/Dawkins/Jillette "gods are for idiots" asshole), an agnostic, a pagan, a Wiccan, or any other non-traditional (including Eastern) faith. Just no Christians, Jews, or Muslims for me, please.

The Religions of Abraham are your bitches I see.
Freyr is proud.

I'm not going for making them "my bitches", but in my personal cosmology I believe the Abrahamic god exists...but is evil and unworthy of worship. I won't elaborate any further for fear of turning this thread into an inferno.

 

[teutonicman]

It can be... but it sure as hell ain't deaf.

 

[Skeleon]

It only matters when one (or both) are adamant about it.
Most people I know are (officially) Christians, Muslims or something but they don't care.
Sounds like the folks from your conversation are rather serious in their faith which'd make me keep my distance anyway to avoid getting burned.
But generally, just because somebody is officially a Christian or whatever, it just doesn't matter as long as they don't live the "traditional values".

 

[lacktheknack]

I believe that it's generally the people who are atheist or agnostic really couldn't care less about the religion of their other.

I find that strong Christians can sometimes have problems with it. My girlfriend is religious, though she hates being open about it because she thinks it is a private matter. Even still, she tells me sometimes that my lack of faith in anything whatsoever bothers her. She tells me she wishes I atleast had some sort of religion.

So she finds your lack of faith disturbing?

Most religious people do. Then again, religious people think about God and the afterlife a lot more than atheists.

 

[SilentVirus]

I don't really mind. I am an Atheist but religion doesn't matter unless its trying to be inforced on me.

 

[thiosk]

I don't understand that sentiment. I would be willing to date anyone.

As long as they are jewish.

 

[Jedoro]

I'm very religious (polytheist in the Greco-Roman/Norse tradition) and wouldn't (and didn't) date people who were monotheistic from the major monotheist faiths. They're just too intolerant and morally bothersome to me---the differences create (and created) too much tension. I'd use Christian girls for sex as a personal Eff-You to their zealot hypocrisy (always fun to see them cry afterward when they felt like sluts), but I wouldn't get seriously involved with one.

I married an agnostic, but if I weren't married I'd be willing to date anyone who was either an atheist (though not a militant Hitchens/Dawkins/Jillette "gods are for idiots" asshole), an agnostic, a pagan, a Wiccan, or any other non-traditional (including Eastern) faith. Just no Christians, Jews, or Muslims for me, please.

The Religions of Abraham are your bitches I see.
Freyr is proud.

I'm not going for making them "my bitches", but in my personal cosmology I believe the Abrahamic god exists...but is evil and unworthy of worship. I won't elaborate any further for fear of turning this thread into an inferno.

As one who worships that Abrahamic God, I actually understand why you would think that, so just know we don't all want to bash your face in with a Bible.

I believe that it's generally the people who are atheist or agnostic really couldn't care less about the religion of their other.

I find that strong Christians can sometimes have problems with it. My girlfriend is religious, though she hates being open about it because she thinks it is a private matter. Even still, she tells me sometimes that my lack of faith in anything whatsoever bothers her. She tells me she wishes I atleast had some sort of religion.

So she finds your lack of faith disturbing?

Most religious people do. Then again, religious people think about God and the afterlife a lot more than atheists.

True. I know I'd at least think about where my girl was going if she wasn't a Christian, but I still wouldn't force anything on her.

 

[Berethond]

I had a 2.5 year relationship end because her mormon family all disowned her because I was not a "brother." She was raised to be controlled by them and I guess the brainwashing payed off. I will never date people involved in cults ever again.

Achievement Unlocked: Became a Cultist

Epic win!
<color=white>SARCASM ALERT!

 

[RootbeerJello]

I find it odd that there's still segregation between religions, when at this point most religions are preaching the same thing (Stereotypical accompanying political beliefs aside). I'm not pretending to be an expert, but I've been to Jewish temples and come from a catholic family, and it seems that at least Judaism and Christianity are now more about living a healthy life, respecting your fellow man, yadda yadda, than the actual events that the religions center around. Sorry if this is more of a generic religious rant, but the point is that most religions seem to be the same thing with different names at this point, why the hell would you base such a large part of your life as who you could date upon their religious beliefs?

NOTE: This is just my two cents and honest opinion. I could understand avoiding very very overtly religious people if you feel forced to their religion, but I don't like to judge people I've never met on their religious views.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

I'm very religious (polytheist in the Greco-Roman/Norse tradition) and wouldn't (and didn't) date people who were monotheistic from the major monotheist faiths. They're just too intolerant and morally bothersome to me---the differences create (and created) too much tension. I'd use Christian girls for sex as a personal Eff-You to their zealot hypocrisy (always fun to see them cry afterward when they felt like sluts), but I wouldn't get seriously involved with one.

I married an agnostic, but if I weren't married I'd be willing to date anyone who was either an atheist (though not a militant Hitchens/Dawkins/Jillette "gods are for idiots" asshole), an agnostic, a pagan, a Wiccan, or any other non-traditional (including Eastern) faith. Just no Christians, Jews, or Muslims for me, please.

The Religions of Abraham are your bitches I see.
Freyr is proud.

I'm not going for making them "my bitches", but in my personal cosmology I believe the Abrahamic god exists...but is evil and unworthy of worship. I won't elaborate any further for fear of turning this thread into an inferno.

As one who worships that Abrahamic God, I actually understand why you would think that, so just know we don't all want to bash your face in with a Bible.

I believe that it's generally the people who are atheist or agnostic really couldn't care less about the religion of their other.

I find that strong Christians can sometimes have problems with it. My girlfriend is religious, though she hates being open about it because she thinks it is a private matter. Even still, she tells me sometimes that my lack of faith in anything whatsoever bothers her. She tells me she wishes I atleast had some sort of religion.

So she finds your lack of faith disturbing?

Most religious people do. Then again, religious people think about God and the afterlife a lot more than atheists.

True. I know I'd at least think about where my girl was going if she wasn't a Christian, but I still wouldn't force anything on her.

To the non-theistic, the afterlife isn't problem specifically as taught by Satanism, glory can not be attained in the afterlife blah blah blah you know where its going, my point being I odn't have to give a damn about death cause I wont be able to think once I'm dead, no heaven, no hell, no worries . It's the same way with any girl I may love before I die, I'm not worried about her suffering in hell if shes not my religion or has sinned or whatever.

 

[Satoz]

Heres how I see it, its not so much my faith, or her faith, because to me its pretty sweet to have different outlooks on life, that way you can talk about what you feel is true, of course a little arguing will enter sometimes, but that means your conversations wont just be "yeah ____ created us all" "yep nothing to add here"...The real trouble though might be parents, if they are ok with it though, then why not

 

[Skeleon]

The thing about love is that you need to pursue what you aspire for and never give up on what you care most about, but at the same time, you should never pretend you have it all figured out, because you never know what God/fate/destiny/whatever may throw at you - just never leave your convictions.

Hm, this might be the problem right here, because to me, long-lasting relationships are about compromise. You can't always stand firm on your position if you want it to work in the long run.

 

[Glerken]

It depends.
I have no problem dating someone that's not Pastafarian. (Yes, I'm still sticking with me being Pastafarian)

However, if they try to convert me, or hold their religion over me, it's not going to work out.

 

[BonsaiK]

I don't think it should matter just for dating. When it becomes a problem is when two people have children and have conflicting ideas about how they should be raised. So a lot of people who are out there dating but thinking long-term and are interested in a potential future partner rather than a quick fling (which accounts for a lot of religious people of both sexes, where the idea of 'flings' is looked down upon), will have the idea of raising of children within their faith in the back of their mind. Of course a lot of kids raised religiously will turn against it in their teenage years if not before, but that isn't really the point. People like to raise children with their own values, and a religious person often has this in mind when selecting a partner.

For me personally, I'll never have children so I'm comfortable dating someone of whatever religion as long as it doesn't interfere heavily with what goes on in the bedroom or she doesn't start trying to dictate to me aspects of my life that she finds morally unacceptable but are actually none of her biz. I don't mind if she likes to talk about religion a lot generally though because I enjoy religious discussion - if they can tolerate my heathen nature, I can learn to live with their godliness.

 

[Cody211282]

I really don't care, it doesn't matter to me that much, as long as they don't try to convert me